TPP 180a: Susan Stiffelman on Parenting Without Power Struggles
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Full-Tilt Parenting: Strategies, Insights, and Connection for Parents Raising Neurodivergent Children
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Hey there, it's Debbie. Today's episode is a special re-release of a favorite conversation from the archives. Unless you're a longtime listener of the show, there's a good chance you haven't heard this one before. And even if you have, you just might get something completely different from it this time around.
So the captain energy is one that requires us to really be present and mindful for what's getting stirred up inside of us so that when a child refuses to do something, we can step back and ask a different question. Why does this behavior make sense instead of why is he or she doing this to me?
Welcome to Tilt Parenting, a podcast featuring interviews and conversations aimed at inspiring, informing, and supporting parents raising differently wired kids. I'm your host, Debbie Reber, and today I am so happy to be sharing with you a powerful conversation with my friend, Susan Stifelman. Thank you so much for having me. And that is exactly what we're going to be talking about today, how to avoid power struggles with our children and tap into that calm energy, even in the midst of challenges and rising conflict in a way that supports not only our children, but us as well. Susan hosts the Parenting Without Power Struggles podcast. She runs regular webinars for parents. She's got a membership community and she co-hosts regular calls for parents who are co-parenting with a narcissist.
She's dedicated to supporting parents find more peace in their journey. And after listening to this conversation, I have no doubt she's going to have a lot more fans. This is an episode that is perfect for those of you out there who like me are challenged to maintain a sense of calm in difficult moments, especially ones that trigger our own emotional reactions. I hope you get a lot out of the episode. And a few quick announcements before I get to that. First, I have some new podcast supporters I wanted to thank. Sarah McHale and Erin.
What is the purpose of this episode and who is the guest?
Thank you so much for being a part of this community and for helping support the production costs of this show. I'm so grateful. And if you too get a lot out of Tilt Parenting and would like to make a small monthly contribution to help fund the show, it is super easy to do. Just go to patreon.com slash tilt parenting and sign up. You can pledge 10, 5, or even $2 a month. Again, that's patreon.com slash Tilt Parenting. Also, I wanted to be sure you knew that next week is an episode you are not going to want to miss. My guest is Zach Morris. He's been on the show several times before. He's an educator and the co-founder of the Learn Inc. School in Missoula, Montana. He has just a wonderful approach to working with differently wired kids.
And we have a very in-depth, meaningful conversation about how we can emotionally attune to our kids' experiences. I know that this time of year, the fall, once kids are kind of into the school routine can be a really tricky time for many kids. And this is when we start seeing school refusal and we start seeing some behaviors that can be really challenging. And so that's what we're gonna talk about. How can we as parents best support our kids as they're going through this, how can we hold a space for them? And how can we allow for the emotional experience in a way that really, really helps them in their journey. So again, this is it's almost a double length. It's a long episode, you might want to break it into two listenings, but it is so powerful.
So don't forget to tune in next week. And now, here's my conversation with Susan Stifelman. Good morning, Susan. Welcome to the podcast.
Good morning, Debbie. I'm so glad to be here with you. Thanks for inviting me.
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Chapters
4 chapters
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What is the main topic discussed in this episode?
0:00–2:53
2
What is the purpose of this episode and who is the guest?
2:53–6:52
3
How did Susan Stiffelman become a marriage‑family therapist and develop the “captain of the ship” approach?
6:52–24:19
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What are the three roles (captain, lawyer, dictator) parents can fall into during power struggles?
24:19–47:00
Speakers
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