TPP 231a: Author & Self-Compassion Researcher Dr. Kristin Neff on the Power of Being Kind to Yourself
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Hey there, it's Debbie. For the month of February, Playback Friday episodes are focused on self care and self maintenance. If you're feeling worn down, stretched thin, or just in need of some tending right now, these episodes from the podcast archives will offer perspective and practical ways to support yourself through this season. Welcome to Tilt Parenting, a podcast featuring interviews and conversations aimed at inspiring, informing and supporting parents raising differently wired kids. I'm your host, Debbie Reber. I am so excited to bring you a conversation that every parent needs to hear and especially parents of differently wired kids and especially at this moment in time. The topic is self-compassion, and my guest is Dr. Kristen Neff, a pioneer in the field of self-compassion research and the author of many academic papers as well as the books Self-Compassion, The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself, and The Mindful Self-Compassion Workbook.
In our conversation, Dr. Neff shares what she has learned about self-compassion both through her research and her own experiences parenting an autistic child. She goes deep into what self-compassion really looks like, why we are often more compassionate to others than ourselves, and shares some strategies for strengthening that self-compassion muscle both for ourselves and for our kids. Thanks so much. And now here is my conversation with Dr. Kristen Neff. Hello, Kristen. Welcome to the podcast. Hello, Debbie. Happy to be here. As I was saying before I hit record, this is a conversation I've actually been wanting to have for several years. I know you had spoken at the Shift Your Thinking conference a few years ago.
I'm friends with those guys and have learned about your work many years ago in self-compassion. And I think now more than ever for what we're all experiencing, you know, in the world and what so many families are experiencing with remote learning and this new landscape that this conversation is so timely. So thank you. You're welcome. So I would love if you wouldn't mind taking a few minutes and just tell us a little bit about your story of how you got into the work of self-compassion. I know you don't have to give us the whole story. You've shared it in many different ways and in videos and things that I'll share for listeners. But if you want to just briefly tell us how that became your focus.
Yeah, well, it's really a personal journey. You know, I was under a lot of stress more than 20 years ago. And I have learned mindfulness meditation, hoping to deal with my stress. And the woman leading the course, I talked about the importance of self-compassion, you know, about being actively warm and supportive and kind to yourself. And so I started trying it and I was just blown away by the difference it made. And then I did some research on self-esteem in my postdoctoral work and was learning all the problems with self-esteem, like we have to be special and above average. And, you know, it's a fair weather friend. Self-esteem is there for us when we succeed. But what happens when we fail?
You know,
it deserts us. And so I really realized that self-compassion was a really perfect alternative because it's a source of support and strength and stability and motivation, you know, constantly in good times and in bad. And so, yeah, I've really devoted my life's work to this topic. And it's been about 20 years now.
And are you still, you know, is this still where the crux of your work is focused on? Are you still passionate about this topic?
Absolutely. I mean, it's a life's work, right? So self-compassion, you know, it means how do we relate to our suffering?
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Chapters
5 chapters
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What is the main topic discussed in this episode?
0:00–12:49
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What inspired Dr. Kristin Neff to start researching self‑compassion?
12:49–18:51
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How does self‑compassion differ from self‑esteem and self‑pity?
18:51–24:16
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What are the three core components of self‑compassion practice?
24:16–26:59
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How did Dr. Neff’s playground experience illustrate self‑compassion for parents?
26:59–37:06
Speakers
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