TPP 316: Dr. Tamar Chansky on How to Free Our Children from Negative Thinking
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Full-Tilt Parenting: Strategies, Insights, and Connection for Parents Raising Neurodivergent Children
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What is negative thinking and why does it matter for kids?
We're no different. We have automatic negative thoughts and we can have negative thoughts about our capacity to help our children change, to teach them or help them understand. And so in the introduction to freeing your child from negative thinking, I think there's a picture in there of a table for two, because I really think of this as a process where parents, we also have to say when our negative thoughts say like, he's always going to be this way. He's never going to change. He's not going to be able to have a good life if this is how he's thinking now. We got to practice what we preach to say. That's a feeling or that's a thought. That's just what I'm thinking now. It's temporary. Let me refocus on what's going on in the present.
That's really what we're asking our kids to do as well.
Welcome to Tilt Parenting, a podcast featuring interviews and conversations aimed at inspiring, informing, and supporting parents raising differently by our kids. I'm your host, Debbie Reber, and it's the final episode of the fall season and of 2022, and I have got a good one for you today. This episode is all about negative thinking and how to help kids who are more glass half empty thinkers shift their mindset. To explore this topic, I reached out to the woman who literally wrote the book on the subject, psychologist Dr. Tamar Chansky, author of Freeing Your Child from Negative Thinking. If you are raising a child whose default mode tends to be negative thinking, you know how challenging it can be, especially because these are kids who are often rigid, concrete thinkers, and supporting them and seeing things through a more optimistic lens can be difficult.
So during this episode, Tamara and I talked about what negative thinking is, whether it's possible to change, how to respond when our child is venting their unhappiness or negative thoughts to us, and Tamara's four steps to combating negative thinking. And of course, there's a good chance that we as the parents and caregivers and adults in the room have our own work to do when it comes to hyper focusing on or dwelling on negative thoughts. So we'll explore that too. Honestly, I've listened to this episode three times already, once when I was recording it and two more times before releasing it today, because it's packed with so many nuggets that I personally need to hear right now. I hope that it lands the same way for you.
And a little bit more about Tamar. Dr. Tamar Chansky is a psychologist and a writer on a mission to teach kids, adults, and couples how to make the mind a safer place to live by changing their relationship to anxiety one thought at a time. In 1999, Tamar founded Children's and Adults Center for OCD and Anxiety in Plymouth Meeting, Pennsylvania. And in addition to the book we're talking about today, Tamar is the author of Freeing Your Child from Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder, Freeing Your Child from Anxiety, and Freeing Yourself from Anxiety. All right, please get ready for a powerful conversation. Here is Dr. Tamar Chansky on helping kids overcome negative thinking. Kate Tamar, welcome to the podcast.
Hi, Debbie. Thanks so much for having me. I am very excited to bring this conversation. This is yet again in over 300 episodes. I haven't talked about this specifically, this focus on negative thinking, and it's such an important topic for my audience. I was saying for me personally, too, as I'm navigating this parenting journey. So I'm very excited. And I would like if you wanted to spend a few minutes before we get into the more specific content, just telling us about who you are in the world and your why for doing this work. Yeah,
it's an organic process as it is for most people. So I knew that I wanted to do psychology for a long time. And when I got to graduate school, it was very fortuitous that the opportunity, the kind of research assistantship that had the opportunity to actually work with people happened. Because they don't let you do that. But it was working with anxious kids. And so I was like, oh, okay, I'll do that.
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