TPP 323: Educator and Coach Sandi Lerman on Neurodiversity and Developmental Trauma
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Full-Tilt Parenting: Strategies, Insights, and Connection for Parents Raising Neurodivergent Children
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What is the main topic discussed in this episode?
Little things that happen that we don't see as being traumatizing. A child who's already a little bit feeling fearful is going to assign a deeper meaning to that and create their own story from that. And the story is not housed in just the brain. It's also in the body. So the body is maintaining that nervous system vigilance forever until they get the kind of support and the love and the care and the restorative practices that will help them.
Welcome to Tilt Parenting, a podcast featuring interviews and conversations aimed at inspiring, informing, and supporting parents raising differently wired kids. I'm your host, Debbie Reber, and I have a great episode for you today. Over the past few years, I've seen the word trauma become more and more prevalent in conversations surrounding children. especially differently wired children. So I invited trauma and education expert Sandy Lerman onto the show so we could talk about exactly what's going on with our kids. Have they or are they experiencing trauma at school? What is developmental trauma? What does trauma look like in our children? And how can we respond to and support a child who has experienced trauma?
I've been in conversation with Sandy before in her parent community, so I knew this was going to be a rich and important conversation. Sandy comes at this through lived experience as the parent of a young adult adopted at age 10 who has overcome extreme challenges resulting from complex developmental trauma. As a result of her experience, Sandy founded HeartStrong International. a global education company that provides training and coaching programs for parents and teachers of children with developmental trauma. She also offers professional graduate level programs for trauma-informed specialists, certified parent coaches, and certified educational trainers. So in this episode you're about to listen to, Sandy explains why two different kids might internalize the same experience differently, how kids' bodies hold on to trauma, and the relationship between PDA or pathological demand avoidance and trauma.
Sandy also walks us through the key tenets of her trust-based connected parenting method in her heartstrong system. So if your family is going through a difficult time as a result of your child's relationship with trauma, and it seems like nothing makes or will make a difference, have a listen. This is one of those conversations that is not only full of information, but a big message of hope. And now here is my conversation with Sandy. Hey, Sandy, welcome to the podcast. Thank you. I'm so glad to be here. I am glad to have you on the show. We've been in conversation before with your community, and I've been wanting to bring you on to talk about trauma and all the work that you're doing to support families like ours.
But before we get into that, can you introduce yourself in your own way? I always love to hear people's stories about how they got into doing the work that they're doing and how it's tied to their personal why.
Sure, I'd be happy to. So I am a mom, first and foremost, I have a son who's 22. Now, I met him when he was six years old, and I adopted him when he was 10. It took four years for us to go through that very long, very, really grueling process of international adoption. Before I met him, though, I was a teacher. So for many, many years, I was in the world of education. And And I thought, you know, I really love kids who are a little bit challenging. I know that kids who are adopted have some trauma and they need a little extra help. I had had some adopted kids who were in my classroom. And I thought, I'm going to do this. I was a solo parent. I went ahead and adopted my son. And I quickly found out that I was not very well equipped to parent him because I thought because I understood sign language and he's deaf, but I didn't really understand about developmental trauma.
So long story short, my journey starts with that adoption and meeting my son, Hero, learning more about developmental trauma, and then kind of merging that with my understanding of child development and creating this business, which is for parent coaches and trainers and families who are struggling with children who have developmental trauma.
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