TPP 335: Amanda Diekman Dropping Demands, Restoring Calm, and Finding Connection with Your Uniquely Wired Child
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Full-Tilt Parenting: Strategies, Insights, and Connection for Parents Raising Neurodivergent Children
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What is low‑demand parenting and how does it differ from traditional or permissive approaches?
If I think about kind of traditional parenting, would be saying up here, here's the bar, up high, and it's my job to get you there. So I'm gonna do everything possible to get you to do what I think you should be doing. And low demand is gonna totally reverse that and say where you are is good enough. I'm gonna come right alongside you and support you right where you are and make you safe enough and loved enough and seen enough and connected enough that you can stretch in the direction that you wanna go. And I'll support you whatever that is.
Welcome to Tilt Parenting, a podcast featuring interviews and conversations aimed at inspiring, informing, and supporting parents raising differently wired kids. I'm your host, Debbie Rieber. I've gotten to know today's guest, Amanda Dieckman, over the past year after I participated in her Low Demand Parenting Summit, which I know many of you attended. And more recently, I read her new book, Low Demand Parenting: Dropping Demands, Restoring Calm, and Finding Connection with Your Uniquely Wired Child. Because low-demand parenting can be such an effective approach to supporting differently wired kids. And especially kids who fall under the PDA profile of autism, I invited Amanda to join the show for a conversation about what this parenting approach actually looks like.
An autistic adult, parent coach, and author in the neurodiversity space, Amanda has become a leading voice in the movement for low demand parenting practice. She runs a successful coaching practice for parents of neurodivergent children, including online courses and a vibrant membership community. During this episode, we talk about what low demand parenting is, why it's different, and then what might be referred to as permissive. Parenting, why it's so effective for kids with PDA, and how she helps parents loosen up the mindset around what they might see as non-negotiables. I can pretty much guarantee you will find this episode and Amanda's low-demand parenting approach thought-provoking at the very least, and perhaps freeing and inspiring.
Before I get to that, if you're newer to this journey of realizing you're parenting a differently wired child and you're looking to deepen your awareness and understanding about how to best show up for your kids, check out my free resources at Tilde Parenting. You'll find a roadmap for parenting a differently wired child, which is a downloadable interactive PDF featuring a five step roadmap and resources, a 10 day video series called 10 Things You Have to Know When Raising a Differently Wired Child, and of course my Differently Wired Seven Day Challenge, a seven day video series which offers simple strategies that will have an immediate impact on how you experience your relationship with. with your child, with the ultimate goal of creating more peace, joy, and confidence in your daily life.
All of these resources are completely free and you can find them all on the Tilt homepage at tiltparenting.com. Thanks so much. And now here is my conversation with Amanda Diekman. Hey Amanda, welcome to the podcast. Hi, I'm so glad to be here. I'm excited to bring you on to the show, to share your work with my listeners, and just that we've gotten to know each other over the past couple months since you invited me to be a part of your low demand parenting summit, which I know a lot of members of the Tilt community participated in. But what I would love to do to start this conversation is hear a little bit about your personal story. You have a new book out called Low Demand Parenting, which I just read and is wonderful.
And you really share your own journey both as a parent and as an individual in navigating and discovering neurodivergence. So could you just tell us a little bit about your story?
Absolutely, yes, yes. I was a sensitive kid growing up in North Carolina in the eighties, fast forward through lots of challenge and and difficulty in arriving in adulthood with this self-conception that it was really important for me to stay in the bounds.
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Chapters
5 chapters
1
What is low‑demand parenting and how does it differ from traditional or permissive approaches?
0:00–19:15
2
How did Amanda’s personal journey lead her to develop low‑demand parenting?
19:15–31:13
3
Why is low‑demand parenting especially effective for children with PDA (Pathological Demand Avoidance)?
31:13–41:42
4
What are “big demands” versus “tiny demands” and how can dropping them reduce stress?
41:42–44:01
5
How can parents identify what is “too hard” for their child in the moment?
44:01–46:29
Speakers
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