TPP 375: Parent Lean-In — How Can We Go on Vacation When it Throws Off My Child's Need for Routine
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Full-Tilt Parenting: Strategies, Insights, and Connection for Parents Raising Neurodivergent Children
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What is the main topic discussed in this episode?
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I'm Debbie Rieber and welcome to Tilt Parenting, a podcast featuring interviews and conversations aimed at inspiring, informing, and supporting parents raising differently wired kids.
What is the listener’s main question about vacationing with a routine‑dependent child?
I get a lot of questions from listeners looking for help navigating complex situations with their kids. So in this new mini episode format, I'll be answering listener questions, sometimes all on my own, sometimes with one of the parent coaches from the differently wired club, and sometimes with an author or expert who's become a trusted resource. Think of these bite-sized, short and sweet parent lean-in episodes as a quick check-in. one answer featuring strategies, tips, or reframes that can support you in your parenting world. To submit a question for a parent lean-in episode, just go to tiltparenting.com slash lean in. That's tiltparenting.com slash L-E-A-N-I-N. Alright, here's today's episode. Hey everyone, I'm Flying Solo on today's Parent Lean episode, and I really love this question that's come in.
It brings up a lot of things I've given thought to and consideration to over the years. And I also know this is a topic that impacts many listeners. So here's the question. Our nearly five-year-old, no formal diagnosis yet, but most likely autism, is really tied to his routines. And this creates challenges for our family, especially when it comes to vacations. It typically takes him about a day to adapt, and then he seems to be doing fine, but he's only willing to do things he wants to do, which obviously impacts everyone else in the family. Then when we get home, it takes weeks for him to readjust to the rules and routines of our household. Do we need to just not travel? Traveling and vacation is really important to my husband and me, but sometimes it feels like it's so hard that it's not worth it.
I would love your thoughts. Okay, so I have thoughts per usual. And this is actually something I did a podcast episode about many, many, many years ago with Asher. And I'll include a link to that in the show notes page because Asher and I had a conversation about how we navigated vacations, but I'm gonna share with you some of my best tips. We did a lot of traveling. We still do. But from the time Ash was pretty little, we traveled quite a bit. And then when we were living abroad, from the time he was nine until fourteen, we did a ton of travel. So we got pretty good at it. And I figured out a lot of stuff. So The first thing that has always made the biggest difference is that pre trip planning, right? So just like we would do before a holiday break or any kind of break in routine.
to sit down and have a bunch of conversations. And I say a bunch because usually one big conversation doesn't do it, but start kind of planting the seeds that there's a trip coming up, there's a vacation coming up, we are making plans. And actually involve the child in planning the activities, give them a chance to express the things that they really want to do, what their preferences are. They might have ideas about what to do depending on where you're going that may not be on your radar at all. So it's good to get clear on what those things are.
How can pre‑trip planning reduce routine disruption for a neurodivergent child?
If you have a kind of an itinerary that you've already created, you could go through that. You know, I actually during one of our trips, I made like a PDF that I printed out and it was like a day by day, very detailed but not so detailed that it was hard to engage with. But it had pictures of where we were going. It had kind of a very rough like morning, do this, evening do this. But Really kind of laid out the Proposed flow. But also again, leaving some windows open for free time or things that I knew that my kid wanted to do or that he had already expressed.
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Chapters
8 chapters
1
What is the main topic discussed in this episode?
0:00–0:39
2
What is the listener’s main question about vacationing with a routine‑dependent child?
0:39–3:47
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How can pre‑trip planning reduce routine disruption for a neurodivergent child?
3:47–4:31
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Why should you involve your child in choosing activities and creating the itinerary?
4:31–5:43
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What are effective ways to create visual schedules and printable PDFs for travel?
5:43–7:23
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How do you identify and address a child’s specific travel anxieties before the trip?
7:23–8:57
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What strategies help families stay flexible and adapt plans on the road?
8:57–10:17
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How can backup plans and visual departure checklists calm both parents and kids?
10:17–20:27
Speakers
1 identifiedMore from Full-Tilt Parenting: Strategies, Insights, and Connection for Parents Raising Neurodivergent Children
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