TPP 382: Parent Lean-In — How Can I Scaffold a Teen With EF Challenges While Encouraging Autonomy?
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Full-Tilt Parenting: Strategies, Insights, and Connection for Parents Raising Neurodivergent Children
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What is the core parenting dilemma about balancing self‑driven child concepts with ADHD executive‑function challenges?
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I'm Debbie Reber and welcome to Tilt Parenting, a podcast featuring interviews and conversations aimed at inspiring, informing, and supporting parents raising differently wired kids. I get a lot of questions from listeners looking for help navigating complex situations with their kids. So in this new mini episode format, I'll be answering listener questions, sometimes all on my own, sometimes with one of the parent coaches from the Differently Wired Club, and sometimes with an author or expert who's become a trusted resource. Think of these bite-sized, short and sweet Parent Lean In episodes as a quick check-in. One question, one answer, featuring strategies, tips, or reframes that can support you in your parenting world.
To submit a question for a Parent Lean In episode, just go to TiltParenting.com slash Lean In. That's TiltParenting.com slash L-E-A-N-I-N. All right, here's today's episode. Hey, everyone. Today I have my dear friend and wise colleague, Seth Perler, with me for this Parent Lean In episode. Seth has been on the show many, many a time, but in case he's new to you, he is an executive function coach and consultant with extensive experience addressing extraordinarily diverse learning needs. Seth has a passion for meeting the highly unique needs of individual students and places heavy emphasis on addressing social, emotional, lifestyle, and executive function issues in order to help students experience success.
He also, just going to say, has a ton of free resources on his website, which is sethperler.com. And if you want to work more closely with Seth, I highly encourage you to check out his new Executive Function Lab website. which is where he coaches people on how to get big results for their struggling students. He offers a ton of tools and it's just a fantastic community. So welcome, Seth, to the podcast.
Thanks, Debbie. Thanks for everything you do in the world because you're awesome. So and hi, everybody.
Thank you, Seth. Well, I love doing this stuff with you. So I'm excited. So let's dive in. We're going to tackle a really interesting question. And as all the questions that we're doing in this series, I'm trying to choose questions that I know all listeners are going to get something out of the answer. So the question is, how can I take concepts from the work of the self-driven child, which you guys, I talk about it all the time. It's written by Ned Johnson and Bill Stixrud, in allowing my ADD son to control his own future while not being completely hands-off, which ends up with my son not completing optional homework, being unprepared for assignments due to his executive functioning challenges. It feels like the two approaches cannot coexist.
Any advice? So such a good question. And I think that's like between a rock and a hard place that so many parents like find themselves. It's like, And the idea, for those of you who aren't familiar, and I highly recommend you listen to the episode I've done with Ned and Bill about this book. Check out the book. It was really my main resource for the high school years. But it's really about giving our kids control over their lives. And we do that by scaffolding. We do that by being, they call it, being a consultant to our kids. And really... trusting that they can make their own decisions and learn from their mistakes. And then we're there to support them along the way. So a couple of things that came up for me, which I'll share.
And then I want to hear from you, Seth, as I read this question. Is, first of all, you have to kind of get a sense of where your kid is on this. Does your child want to complete this homework? Does your child care about this stuff?
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