TPP 387: Dr. Ross Greene on Using CPS (Collaborative and Proactive Solutions) with Very Young Kids
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Full-Tilt Parenting: Strategies, Insights, and Connection for Parents Raising Neurodivergent Children
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What is Collaborative & Proactive Solutions (CPS) and why is it important for parents?
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Whether it's infancy or two and three year olds or seventeen year olds, the goal is exactly the same. Pay attention to the fact that the kid is distressed. And by the way, even though that sounds like a no-brainer, it's not a given. Don't be so caught up in what the frustration response is. I fully acknowledge some frustration responses are less adaptive, more disruptive, more dangerous than others. Pay attention to what the kid is communicating and collaborate with the kid. on solving those problems together.
I'm Debbie Rieber and welcome to Tilt Parenting, a podcast featuring interviews and conversations aimed at inspiring, informing, and supporting parents raising differently wired kids. As I mentioned in the conversation you're about to listen to, I refer to Dr. Ross Green's Collaborative and Proactive Solutions Model, or CPS, in just about every talk I give to a parent community. His quote, kids do well when they can, change my life. Life when I first read it about 15 years ago, and it remains as powerful to me today. So I was so excited to welcome Ross back to the show to talk about his problem-solving model and how it can be effectively used with very young children, even infants. So before I get into that, if you're new to CPS, I highly encourage you to go back and listen to our first conversation for the show, which you can find at tiltparenting.com/slash session.
In that episode, we explored this problem-solving approach in great detail. But in the meantime, in this conversation, we delved into why it's crucial to shift from a compliance-focused approach to one of collaboration and understanding, even starting as early as age two. We also talked about how what we often label as a difficult baby is actually an infant struggling to meet our expectations. How using CPS can significantly enhance kids' well-being, and why we want to question the underlying reasons behind adult concerns. All of these are concepts explored in the powerful new documentary, It's Never Too Early, CPS with Very Young Kids. If this is your first time encountering his work, Dr. Ross Green is a clinical psychologist and the originator of the innovative evidence.
based approach called Collaborative and Proactive Solutions, as described in his influential books The Explosive Child, Lost at School, Lost and Found, and Raising Human Beings. He also developed and executive produced the award-winning documentary The Kids We Lose, which came out in 2018. Ross was on the faculty at Harvard Medical School for over 20 years and is now founding director of the nonprofit Lives in the Balance. Over the years, Ross has worked with thousands of kids with concerning behaviors and their caregivers, and he and his colleagues have overseen the implementation and evaluation of the CPS model in countless schools, inpatient psychiatric units, and residential and juvenile detention facilities with dramatic effects.
Effect, significant reductions in recidivism, discipline referrals, detentions, suspensions, and the use of restraint and seclusion. This is such a good conversation and I love that Dr. Green presents a true reframe for how to perceive and respond to any challenging behaviors. I hope you enjoy it. Hey Ross, welcome back to the podcast.
Thanks for inviting me to come back.
I've honestly been looking for an excuse to bring you back to the show. And then I heard about your new documentary about using CPS with young children. And I was like, this is the perfect opportunity. So I'd love to talk about that. But before we do, I was just saying before I hit record, you were last on the show almost seven years ago. I think we were talking about the Kids We Lose documentary and also, of course, touching base on all your books.
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Chapters
8 chapters
1
What is Collaborative & Proactive Solutions (CPS) and why is it important for parents?
0:00–5:45
2
How does Dr. Ross Greene explain the shift from compliance‑focused parenting to collaboration at age two?
5:45–10:22
3
Why are ‘difficult babies’ actually infants struggling to meet adult expectations?
10:22–15:15
4
How can parents use CPS with infants to understand and respond to distress signals?
15:15–19:06
5
What role do values play in CPS‑based parenting and how can families clarify them?
19:06–23:45
6
How is the new documentary ‘It’s Never Too Early’ showcasing CPS with very young kids?
23:45–28:05
7
What advocacy and policy work is Lives in the Balance doing to promote CPS nationwide?
28:05–31:25
8
What practical steps can listeners take now to support CPS and watch the documentary?
31:25–35:38
Speakers
2 identifiedMore from Full-Tilt Parenting: Strategies, Insights, and Connection for Parents Raising Neurodivergent Children
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