TPP 430: How Can I Take Care of Myself While in Burnout & Raising Explosive Children?
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Full-Tilt Parenting: Strategies, Insights, and Connection for Parents Raising Neurodivergent Children
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What is the listener’s main challenge with burnout and raising neurodivergent children?
I'm Debbie Reber and welcome to Tilt Parenting, a podcast featuring interviews and conversations aimed at inspiring, informing, and supporting parents raising differently wired kids. I get a lot of questions from listeners looking for help navigating complex situations with their kids. So in this new mini episode format, I'll be answering listener questions, sometimes all on my own, sometimes with one of the parent coaches from the Differently Wired Club, and sometimes with an author or expert who's become a trusted resource. Think of these bite-sized, short and sweet Parent Lean In episodes as a quick check-in. One question, one answer, featuring strategies, tips, or reframes that can support you in your parenting world.
To submit a question for a Parent Lean In episode, just go to TiltParenting.com slash Lean In. That's TiltParenting.com slash L-E-A-N-I-N. All right, here's today's episode. Hey, everybody. Today I am being joined by parent coach Margaret Webb for this Parent Lean In episode. And if you've listened to the show for a while, you've definitely heard me talk about Margaret as she is a dear friend. She was my very first parenting coach, and she's the lead parent coach in the Differently Wired Club where she supports the parents in that community just so beautifully. Also, this past year, she published the book that I have personally been clamoring for for years in which she shares just so much thoughtful, supportive, hard-won wisdom.
It's called A Hero's Journey in Parenting, Parenting the Child You Didn't Expect When You Were Expecting. And if you haven't read it, I highly encourage you to grab that. Listen to our podcast conversation about that. You can find that at tiltparenting.com slash session 361. So welcome, Margaret. Thank you for being here. I'm so excited to be here. I love these conversations. I do too. We were just discussing how we need to take this on the road. So listeners, if you want that, let us know. But we have another great question to get into today. It's one I think a lot of listeners will relate to based on feedback that I get from listeners and from folks in the Differently Wired Club. So here goes. I'm a single parent, neurodivergent myself and in burnout.
How do Debbie and Margaret define self‑care for overwhelmed parents?
I'm trying to manage my two neurodivergent kids following a divorce from their much beloved but profoundly limited ex-husband. I'm trying to create a safe, stable household and support my own fragile mental health and grief while working full time. Self care sounds great. And whereas I understand deeply that it's the only way forward, it feels impossible. And a little context, this parent has nine and 11 year old kids, She says they take out their anger on each other and that the household feels explosive. So we're going to take a quick break now, and then we'll come right back and we'll share our answers for this really powerful question. Okay. And we're back. And so again, the question is from a single neurodivergent parent who is in burnout and who knows that she would benefit from self-care to support her own mental health, but it also feels impossible at the same time.
So this is a topic that I love to talk about. So I'm I guess I wanted to just start by first of all, making sure that we're all on the same page about what self-care is, because it's just one of those things that I think there's a lot of myths or misunderstanding. And as a concept, it seems to, it has a lot of like ideas attached to it that I don't think are necessarily helpful. So the way that I define self-care is that it is something intentional and That's the first part. It's intentional. And the second part is that you do it just for you. So you do it to support yourself. So you're intentionally supporting yourself. I also call this conscious maintenance because that doesn't have the same kind of stigmas as self-care does.
So if we're talking about self-care, then one of the things I would recommend first is really getting honest about what is getting in the way of self-care. What are the actual barriers? What are the beliefs?
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Chapters
8 chapters
1
What is the listener’s main challenge with burnout and raising neurodivergent children?
0:02–2:15
2
How do Debbie and Margaret define self‑care for overwhelmed parents?
2:15–4:33
3
What common mental barriers prevent a parent from practicing self‑care?
4:33–7:25
4
How can parents uncover and challenge the beliefs that make self‑care feel impossible?
7:25–9:54
5
What step‑by‑step process do they suggest for creating a calmer household?
9:54–12:09
6
How can tiny, habit‑stacked actions (like in the shower) become effective self‑care?
12:09–14:35
7
What external supports (yoga, acupuncture, therapy) helped the hosts reset their nervous systems?
14:35–17:04
8
What final takeaways and actionable tips do they leave listeners with?
17:04–19:34
Speakers
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