TPP 460: How Do We Get Kids the Support They Need in School Without an IEP?
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Full-Tilt Parenting: Strategies, Insights, and Connection for Parents Raising Neurodivergent Children
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Hey there, I'm Debbie Reber, and this is Full Tilt Parenting, a podcast for parents raising neurodivergent kids in a strength-based neurodivergent affirming way. And this is a parent leaning episode, which means I answer a listener's question often with the help of one of my parent coaches from the Differently Wired Club community. To submit a question for a future parent leaning episode, just go to TiltParenting.com/slash lean in. And that's tilparenting dot com slash L E A N I N. And so today, Margaret Webb is joining me. If she's not on your radar, Margaret is the author of the wonderful new book, A Hero's Journey in Parenting, Parenting the Child You Didn't Expect When You Were Expecting. And I'm also so fortunate that she is the lead parenting coach in my Differently Wired Club, where she provides a ton of support for the parents in that community.
So thank you so much for being here, Margaret. I'm so glad to be here. So let's get to today's question. This one comes from the mom of a seven year old and she wrote to us, My son thrives in school and therefore doesn't qualify for an IEP. The issue is he is basically masking all day. He comes home either amped up, falling apart, or no energy at all. Weekends and holiday breaks are a disaster when he's out of his routine. How do we get kids the support they need in school without an IEP? It feels impossible to add more after-school appointments and give him the downtime his nervous system needs. So, great question. And rather than interrupting, our wisdom, which we will be sharing shortly. Let's take our ad break right now, and then we will get to the answers when we get right back.
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Okay, so we are gonna tackle this question again. This is the mom of a seven-year-old. Her child does not qualify for an IEP. He's masking all day, so he seems fine. So he's not getting support, but when he comes home, he is falling apart. Weekends and holiday breaks are a disaster. And this parent wants to know how do we get them the support they need in school without an IEP? I'm actually gonna ask you to take this one first. You are a foreign former teacher, I'm really curious to hear what your wisdom is on this one.
Yeah, so the first thing that came to mind was if there is a disability to inquire about a possible five oh four plan. Where, you know, you're able to think about like, are there asks or tasks that your child is being asked to do during school that is requiring a lot of energy from them and requiring the masking. And so knowing that upfront and getting the teachers involved to see, yeah, like, okay, my hunch is that. This is probably a kiddo who's a perfectionist, who's a gold star seeker, who's like a high achiever, and so it's like I gotta keep it together. It could be a people pleaser. I gotta keep it together at when I'm at school. And then when I come home, then that's when I get to unleash, release, and the parents are often kind of surprised because it's like, whoa, you know, like I'm getting this feedback from the teachers that like everything's great at school, but then I get this kiddo who's like utterly exhausted.
With regards to the parenting aspect of that. find and like really think about what are the flow type activities that your kiddo like that helps them to kind of recharge.
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