TPP 467: A Conversation with Nefertiti Austin About the Diagnosis That Changed Everything
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Full-Tilt Parenting: Strategies, Insights, and Connection for Parents Raising Neurodivergent Children
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I'm Debbie Rieber, and this is Full Tilt Parenting, a podcast for parents, caregivers, educators, providers, anyone raising, loving, and supporting neurodivergent kids. Today I'm talking with writer and memoirist Nefertiti Austin about her journey parenting a neurodivergent child and the many realizations that come with it. You may know Nefertiti from her powerful memoir, Motherhood So White, a memoir of race, gender, and parenting in America. Which sparked important conversations about the erasure of diverse voices in motherhood. Her newest book is called She's Just Spirited: Parenting a Neurodivergent Child and the Diagnosis That Changes Everything. And in it, she continues that deeply honest exploration, this time through the lens of raising a differently wired child.
So, in this conversation, you're about to hear, Nefertiti shares the challenges and gifts of navigating labels. the role of educators in her family's story, and the ways adoption has shaped her parenting experience. We also talk about what it means to adapt as parents, letting go of old visions and dreaming new dreams that embrace our kids' unique paths. I had a chance to read Nefertiti's book in advance. I really loved it and I'm excited to share this conversation with you. So here is my episode with Nefertiti Austin. Hey Nefertiti, welcome to the podcast. Thank you so much. I'm excited to talk about your new book and your story and get into it all. So we're gonna actually just dive right in. We've known each other for a few years.
We've talked about our kids and about parenting. We've talked about your book Motherhood So White, where you shared your story of becoming a mom through adoption as a single black woman. And now you have a new book out. It's called She's Just Spirited Parenting a Neurodivergent Child and the Diagnosis That Changes Everything.
How does the episode introduce Nefertiti Austin and her new book?
And so I'm wondering as a way to kick us off, if you could share a little bit about how you came to realize that neurodivergence was going to be a significant part of your family's story.
The first clue, but I missed it, should have been when the social worker handed her to me and said, Oh, she's gonna have all the labels. But I really dismissed that. And also by that time I was almost seven years into parenting. So I kind of felt more secure as a parent. I had grown with my son and I felt like I had some tools in the toolbox. I thought, yeah, okay, whatever. And slowly but surely that prophecy did come to pass and I finally recognized it in kindergarten. That was when my light bulb went off that. Oh, there's something more at work than a little girl who's just a whirling dervish and is happy and fun, smart. But also unable to regulate herself.
Yeah, and I I kind of can't believe that all the labels was one of the first things you heard about your daughter. So I'm wondering when you heard that, you really were just like Okay, but I've got this. I'm a seasoned parent.
The timing of it was probably not great, and at that point I was very emotionally invested in I am going to be a mom for a second time through adoption. This is my son's sister. She completes our family. So I didn't take it as something that'd be detrimental. You know, it wasn't like a danger sign, but I I heard her. And in that moment, there really wasn't anything I could or was willing to do about it. I wasn't going to be like, oh, well, never mind, you keeper, I wasn't gonna do that. So I just kind of went with it and we went on about our day, about our lives.
And then you said around kindergarten was when you kind of started realizing like, okay, I'm having a sense of what this means. When was that in relation to when you wrote Motherhood So White?
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Chapters
7 chapters
1
What is the main topic discussed in this episode?
0:00–2:20
2
How does the episode introduce Nefertiti Austin and her new book?
2:20–7:32
3
When did Nefertiti first realize her child was neurodivergent?
7:32–11:17
4
Why does Nefertiti prefer the word “spirited” over negative labels?
11:17–16:39
5
How do labels like “angry” affect Black neurodivergent children in school?
16:39–22:09
6
What role do educators play in supporting neurodivergent kids, according to Nefertiti?
22:09–26:53
7
What steps are involved in the assessment process for a neurodivergent child?
26:53–31:12
Speakers
1 identifiedMore from Full-Tilt Parenting: Strategies, Insights, and Connection for Parents Raising Neurodivergent Children
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TPP 521: A Conversation with Dr. Peter Gray About Restoring Childhood
TPP 253a: Advocate and Author Jonathan Mooney on Why Normal Sucks
TPP 520: Dr. Özgür Bolat on Why Rewards Backfire and the Real Science of Motivating Kids