TPP 472: Dr. Ann-Louise Lockhart on Transforming Conflict Into Connection with our Teens
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Full-Tilt Parenting: Strategies, Insights, and Connection for Parents Raising Neurodivergent Children
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I'm Debbie Reber, and you are listening to Full Tilt Parenting. And today we're talking about one of my favorite topics: what it really means to connect, collaborate, and let go of control as our kids grow into themselves as they enter those transformative teen years. My guest is Dr. Anne-Louise Lockhart, a pediatric psychologist, parent coach, and author who helps overwhelmed parents raise confident, emotionally healthy. The kids and teens. She's the founder of A New Day Pediatric Psychology and has been featured in the New York Times, Parents, Huff Posts, and on The Today Show. And her new book, Love the Teen You Have: A Practical Guide to Transforming Conflict into Connection, is what we'll be talking about today.
I loved this book, and actually it comes out today as you're listening to this episode. So, in this conversation, Anne Louise shares insights from her book and offers a powerful reframing of what it means to parent through those teen years. We talk about shifting from control to curiosity, along with individuation, cognitive dissonance, and why living a fulfilling life as a parent is actually one of the best ways to model healthy behaviors for our teens. Anne Louise also reminds us that it's never Never too late to repair, reconnect, and love the teen we have right now. Such a great conversation. A reminder, if you want to watch this, you can head over to my YouTube channel. It's Full Tilt Parenting.
While you're there, please subscribe, maybe share it with a friend or two. We're trying to really grow that community. Thank you so much. And now here's my conversation with Dr. Anne Louise Lockhart. Hey Doctor Lockhart, welcome back to the podcast. Thanks, Debbie. Happy to talk about your new book, which I just had a chance to read. I'm very excited about it. Before we talk about that, you have been on the show before, and I'm gonna have a link in the show notes.
What is the main purpose of Dr. Ann‑Louise Lockhart’s new book “Love the Teen You Have”?
Listeners, please go back and listen to that conversation. It was a fascinating conversation on breaking generational cycles. But would you give us an overview in the context of this book, the work that you do in the world, and then why you wanted to focus on teens?
Yeah, absolutely. So a lot of the inspiration behind this comes from my teenage years experiences with my mom because we had a really great relationship early on, and then there was a rupture and there was a disconnect between my mom and I that led to a lot of teenage rebellion on my part. And a lot of that inspiration behind Love the Teen You Have is my experiences personally. And then also in my 20 years experience as a psychologist and a parent coach, seeing teens and parents experience these ruptures that sometimes they feel it's too late to repair. And I want parents and teens to know that it's never too late and they can have that relationship. It really is never too late. So that's where a lot of that came from.
And really I poured everything that I've learned over the years. I've experienced my clients that I've seen. And put them all in one in a sort of a manual for parents so that it can be this evergreen, always going to resource content that they can use for a quick reminder or a guide or anything like that to help with the disconnect that occurs and really transforming all that conflict into more of that connection. So really it's a combination of my pediatric psychology work as well as parent coaching work and all of the years of. the research that I've done.
With your personal experience in there too. It's great.
Yes. Exactly.
Well, I love this age. I have a soft spot in my heart for teens. I wrote books for teens many years ago. I considered myself a recovering teen.
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Chapters
5 chapters
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What is the main topic discussed in this episode?
0:00–2:20
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What is the main purpose of Dr. Ann‑Louise Lockhart’s new book “Love the Teen You Have”?
2:20–11:14
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How did Dr. Lockhart’s own teenage experiences shape the ideas in her book?
11:14–25:56
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Why is shifting from control to curiosity the key to connecting with teens?
25:56–27:15
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How can parents adjust their approach when raising neurodivergent teens?
27:15–40:53
Speakers
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