TPP 495: Schooling, Detours, and Launch — What I’d Do (and Not Do) Again
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Full-Tilt Parenting: Strategies, Insights, and Connection for Parents Raising Neurodivergent Children
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What question does Debbie answer about her child’s unconventional schooling?
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I'm Debbie Reaver, and this is Full Tilt Parenting. And this is a special short episode. I'm kind of recording it spontaneously, but I got a question emailed to me, and I realized I get a similar question to this almost on a weekly basis. So I thought I would just jump on the mic and record an answer. So this is the question that was submitted. Now that your child is in college and 21 years old, after homeschool and then Private school, how are things going? Looking back on the schooling journey and the journey overall, is there anything that you would change? Is there anything that you would not change? Okay, so that's the question. And I spent some time really thinking about this and reflecting on would I have changed anything?
And if so, what? So since this is a shorter episode, I'm gonna take a pause now for sponsor break. And when I get back, I will share what I came up with when I reflected on this question. I'll be right back. Okay, if you're just joining me after the break, just to recap, I am answering a question that I got sent to me, and it's representative of a question I hear from parents a lot. And that is now that my child is 21 years old, has launched into a university experience, and knowing how unconventional our schooling and my kids' childhood was, is there anything that we would have changed, anything that we would not have changed? So I wanted to share my thoughts with you. Before I even get into it, I'm gonna say up front that I'm very, very conscientious of respecting my young adult privacy.
So if you've been with this show for a very long time, you know that my kiddo and I launched Tilt together 10 years ago with a Facebook Live. And also Ash was a guest on multiple podcast episodes.
How does Debbie describe the varied school experiences her child had from preschool to university?
So a lot of y'all feel like you know my child. And you do, you have that kind of glimpse into who my kid was at that time. But now as a young adult, I'm gonna leave my child out of this and I'm gonna focus on my experience. So looking back on the schooling journey, many of you guys know that we did have multiple school experiences, you know, a couple of different preschools and then kindergarten and half of first grade was in one private school. And that was a messy breakup. And then the second half of first grade was in another private school. And that ended, even though we weren't ready to break up, we were broken up with. And then second grade was a public school, but in a full time gifted program with an IEP and additional supports.
And then after that, our entire family moved to the Netherlands from Seattle. And then that was the start of our Homeschooling journey, which I ended up doing for six years. And then high school was an kind of alternative private high school, which had a unique model, was actually a one-to-one learning model. Then a gap year, and now year two of a very rigorous traditional in the UK system, traditional university. So that's what it looked like. So looking back. I definitely would not change any of the big decisions that we made along the way. I was following the advice that I share with so many parents now. And that is approaching my child's schooling with curiosity and with nimbleness and being responsive to what is happening right now.
So I say this a lot, but it's very few of us that are gonna find a school fit early on in our kids' academic journey, their path, and then five, ten years down the road, they're still in the same program, right? Our kids are always changing, their needs are always changing, environments change, and sometimes what worked really well for a period of time stops working. And so it really behooves us to be responsive to what is happening on the ground and being willing to always step back and saying, is this still a good fit?
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Chapters
5 chapters
1
What question does Debbie answer about her child’s unconventional schooling?
0:00–2:15
2
How does Debbie describe the varied school experiences her child had from preschool to university?
2:15–6:00
3
Why does Debbie say she wouldn’t change any of the major school‑choice decisions she made?
6:00–11:34
4
What role did a gap year play in her child’s development and why wouldn’t she change it?
11:34–16:44
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How does Debbie explain the pressure she felt making early education choices and what would she do differently?
16:44–17:20
Speakers
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