Handing the Shame Back

Tips for Supporting Survivors #47: Self-esteem

14 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Self EsteemWhen you know your survivor is not feeling good through the way they are behaving or the words they are using, through not validating thems...

Allen Goodall Interview - Part 2

11 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Meet Allen GoodallHe is a Survivor, training to be a peer support worker and runs mens support groups.He experienced sexual abuse beginning at age of ...

Survivor Tip #53: Connecting the dots

07 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Connecting the DotsMaking sense of behaviour we use as adults that we know doesn't serve us is hard, but there will be a connection to the past i...

Allen Goodall Interview - Part 1

04 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Meet Allen GoodallHe is a Survivor, training to be a peer support worker and runs mens support groups.He experienced sexual abuse from the age of 3 an...

Your Child Blog

28 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Your memories emerging when your child turn the same age you were when the abuse began is much more common than you may imagine.It is also frightening...

Justine Dean Interview - Part 2

21 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Meet Justine DeanCoach, Mentor, ConfidanteFrom the age of 3, Justine experienced many abusers throughout her childhood and teenage years. Her mother s...

Survivor Tip #52: What about me?

17 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

What about me?If you are the child of a narcissistic parent, it would have been almost impossible to be given any space, comfort or protection. There ...

Justine Dean Interview - Part 1

14 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Meet Justine DeanCoach, Mentor, ConfidanteJustine experienced many abusers throughout her childhood and adolesence. You can reach out to Justine at J...

Tips for Supporting Survivors #46: Healthy Bonds

10 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Healthy BondsYour survivor having healthy and transparent relationships is of course, optimum.When this is not so, you will see their behaviour change...

John Cardamone Interview - Part 2

07 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Meet John CardamoneHe is a  Survivor, Educator, and Speaker from Victoria in Melbourne.When he was between 6-7 years old he was abused by a family me...

Survivor Tip #51: Triggered by children

04 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Triggered by childrenThis is very common for parents who are survivors.When our children (of the same sex as us) turn the age we were when the abuse b...

John Cardamone Interview - Part 1

30 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Meet John CardamoneHe is a  Survivor, Educator, and Speaker from Victoria in Melbourne.When he was between 6-7 years old he was abused by a family me...

Finding You blog

27 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

SurvivorsThe real you was unable to withstand the abuse, so the false self stepped up to help, and is what you used to to cope with the trauma.Through...

Jeanie Dean Interview - Part 2

23 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Welcome to Part 2 of Jeanie Dean's interview.She is an Expert Witness | Safeguarding Safety Risk Expert | Trauma Informed Investigator and specia...

Survivor Tip #50: The Real Me

18 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

The real meHow we had to adapt to survive our child sexual abuse and who we became as a result is not necessarily who we 'really' are. Perha...

Jeanie Dean Interview - Part 1

16 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

From Melbourne Australia, a warm welcome to Jeanie Dean, who is an Expert Witness | Safeguarding Safety Risk Expert | Trauma Informed Investigator and...

Tips for Supporting Survivors #45: Encouragement

12 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

EncouragementYour survivor may feel weary and down at times about their history of child sexual abuse. Though expected and normal, they may need some ...

Luke Wiersma Interview - Part 2

09 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Luke WiersmaMeet this brave Survivor who runs Leaderboard Meetings for Survivors of child sexual abuse. Luke was abused by an older woman as a teenag...

Survivor Tip #49: Self Advocacy

05 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Self AdvocacyIs one way of having your own back and looking after youThe three components to this are: to understand what your needs are,  to know wh...

Luke Wiersma Interview - Part 1

02 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Luke WiersmaMeet this brave Survivor who runs Leaderboard Meetings for Survivors of child sexual abuse. Luke was abused by an older woman when he was...

Using your voice blog

29 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

SurvivorsAs it wasn't safe to use your voice as a child, it can feel very important to you to use it today.Honour that within you, there is a par...

Brinn Langdale Interview - Part 2

26 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Brinn Langdale continued...Therapist. Speaker. Writer Abused by her brother 2 and a half years older than her, from 4 till age 15, Brinn was 18 befor...

Survivor Tip #48: Leading a double life

23 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Leading a double lifeAs children who were being abused,  we still had to go to school, play sport and carry on as though everything was fine. No one...

Brinn Langdale Interview - Part 1

19 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Meet Brinn LangdaleTherapist. Speaker. Writer Abused by her brother 2 and a half years older than her, she had thought they were best friends. The ab...

Tips for Supporting Survivors #44: Holding the space

15 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Holding the SpaceThis is about you.When supporting survivors we can end up depleted or overwhelmed or even fed up.That's okay, and to be expected...

Neil Milton Interview - Part 2

12 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Meet Neil Milton - Part 2GM of Child Safe Australia, and founder of the Table Talk Project.Neil was abused by an older child at his school, which carr...

Survivor Tip #47: I am enough

08 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

I am enoughWe struggle with this, because what was taken from us among other things was: pride, self-love and feelings of self worth. What arose inste...

Neil Milton Interview - Part 1

05 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Meet Neil Milton - Part 1GM of Child Safe Australia, and founder of the Table Talk Project.Neil was abused by an older child at his school, which carr...

Dilworth Exposé

01 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Dilworth ExposéMeet Neil harding who is leading the class action against Dilworth school for the deliberate and planned sexual abuse of boys in their...

It's not your fault blog

24 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

SurvivorsIf for any reason you carry guilt about what happened to you, you are not alone, we were all conditioned to feel this. Whichever way you were...

Tess Gonzales Interview - Part 2

21 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Tess Gonzales - Part 2Christian. Survivor. Advocate.Tess suffered  incest at the hands of her mother, who drugged her. She was eventually abused by h...

Survivor Tip #46: Not fitting in

17 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

For survivors everywhere, we can sometimes we feel we don't fit in with others, in part because our experience was very different to theirs, and ...

Tess Gonzales Interview - Part 1

14 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Meet Tess Gonzales - Part 1Christian. Survivor. Advocate.Tess not only suffered prolonged Incest by mother but was drugged throughout as well. Her bro...

Tips for Supporting Survivors #43: It's not their fault

10 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Its' not their faultThe survivor in your life, may still feel its their fault, that somehow they caused the abuse to occur.Although to you , it m...

Scott Beard Interview

08 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Meet Scott Beard at NZ PoliceHe is a Detective Inspector with the New Zealand Police, leading several teams including: the child protection team, the ...

Mike Chapman Interview - Part 2

07 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Meet Mike Chapman - Part 2From the age of 3, he was abused by his father and then trafficked to others.Through research and dedication Mike was able t...

Survivor Tip #45 - It's not your fault

03 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

It's not your fault!For some survivors, they still carry a feeling that what happened to them was their fault.No! It was never your fault.The adu...

Mike Chapman Interview - Part 1

31 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Meet Mike Chapman - Part 1From the age of 3, he was abused by his father who had other victims as well. His mother had never wanted children, his fath...

Taking Charge Blog

27 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

SurvivorsBefore any action is taken, lies the thought that precedes it. Before any thought occurs, lies a feeling.Doesn't it make sense then to ...

Cathy O’Brien Interview - Part 2

24 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Meet Cathy O'Brien - Part 2Healed and vocal survivor of CIA MK Ultra mind control. Cathy's story all began with being born into a multi gene...

Survivor Tip #44 - The 3 R's

20 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

The 3 R'sRegulateRelateReasonIf you are self regulated; calm and centred, you are then able to relate to a person or idea in a more measured way....

Cathy O'Brien Interview - Part 1

17 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Meet Cathy O'BrienHealed and vocal survivor of CIA MK Ultra mind control. Cathy's story all began with being born into a multi generational...

Tips for Supporting Survivors #42: The Power to Heal

13 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

The Power to HealIts vital to remind the survivor in your life, that  they have everything within them needed to heal from their trauma. Namely: thei...

Donald Cribbs Interview - Part 2

10 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Meet Donald Cribbs - Part 2Trauma survivor. Author. Licensed professional counsellor specialising in trauma.By the time he was 6 years old his parents...

Survivor Tip #43 - Your Voice

06 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Your VoiceLots of survivors have had their voice robbed many times over, maybe initially as a child, and then again as an adult, when sharing your sto...

Donald Cribbs Interview - Part 1

03 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Meet Donald Cribbs - Part 1Trauma survivor. Author. Licensed professional counsellor specialising in trauma.By the time he was 6 years old his parents...

Tips for Supporting Survivors #41: Self Talk

28 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Self TalkMood changes are common for survivors to feel. It's important to become aware that their mood hasn't suddenly changed out of nowhe...

Cheryl Hunter Interview - Part 2

25 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Meet Cheryl Hunter - Part 2Author and Media Expert who helps others share, Cheryl shares her very powerful and public story and her linking of Wabi-Sa...

Survivor Tip #42 - Being Captive

21 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Being CaptiveThis term often takes people to visions of being trapped physically. Although this does happen, what is far more common and likely to hap...

Cheryl Hunter Interview - Part 1

18 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Meet Cheryl Hunter - Part 1Author and Media Expert who helps others share, Cheryl was raped as a teenager at 14, then kidnapped at 18 years of age and...

Held Captive Blog

15 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Survivors, We often consider that what keeps us imprisoned is not just what happened to us but how other people then treat us. What if I was to tell y...

Feature Interview - Paul Hutchinson: Part 2

11 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Meet Paul HutchinsonExecutive Producer of The Sound of Freedom movie and founder of Liberating Humanity.Paul shares his personal experience of being i...

Survivor Tip #41 - Breaking the Chain

07 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Breaking the ChainThis is linked to Paul Hutchinson's interview held earlier this week, and listed across social media platforms.Survivors, when ...

Feature Interview - Paul Hutchinson - Part 1

04 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Meet Paul HutchinsonExecutive Producer of the Sound of Freedom movie and founder of Liberating Humanity.Paul shares his personal experience of being i...

Coming up this week: 5-9 Feb

04 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Welcome to this Weekly update:On the show we have Paul Hutchinson Executive Producer of The Sound of Freedom movie. This focuses on the hideous crime ...

Being Believed Blog

30 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Being BelievedSurvivors, One of the hallmarks of being a survivor can come with the experience of not being believed. This appears in many forms but ...

Tips for Supporting Survivors #40 - Being Believed

28 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Being BelievedThis is linked to Donna's interview held this month and listed across social media platforms.Being believed is really powerful for ...

Coming up this week: 29 Jan - 2 Feb

28 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Welcome to this Weekly update:On the show we have my blog on Being Believed, to my mind the most powerful experience a survivor can have, listen as to...

Survivor Tip #40: Legacy

25 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Your LegacyThis is linked to Kristi McVee's interviews held earlier this week, and listed across social media platforms.Survivors, you can end up...

Kristi McVee Interview - Part 2

23 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Welcome to Part 2Speaker. Author. Ex-child Abuse Detective and Specialist Child InterviewerShe was abused at 6, and told her grandma who immediately c...

Kristi McVee Interview - Part 1

21 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Meet  Kristi McVee  Speaker. Author. Ex-child abuse detective and specialist child interviewer She was abused at 6, and told her grandma who immedi...

Coming up this week: 22-26 Jan

21 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Welcome to this Weekly update:On the show we have Kristi McVee  Speaker. Author. Ex-child abuse detective and specialist child interviewer She was a...

Survivor Tip #39: Being Believed

18 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Being BelievedThis is linked to Donna Bulatowicz interviews held earlier this week, and listed across social media platforms.This is one of the most p...

Donna Bulatowicz Interview - Part 2

16 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Meet Donna Bulatowicz - Part 2Teacher. Writer. Survivor.As a young girl, Donna was abused by another girl for several years, and then by a teacher whe...

Donna Bulatowicz Interview - Part 1

14 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Meet Donna Bulatowicz - Part 1Teacher. Writer. Survivor.As a young girl, Donna was abused by another girl for several years, and then by a teacher whe...

Coming up this week: 15-19 Jan

14 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Welcome to this Weekly update:On the show we have Donna Bulatowicz who is a teacher, writer and survivor.She was abused by another child for several y...

New Year Update

04 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Happy New Year EveryoneWe haven't forgotten you!We are having a well deserved break and preparing an amazing line up for you.We will commence str...

Survivor Tip #38: Admitting Abuse

21 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Admitting AbuseThis is linked to Stuart Lord's interviews held earlier this week, and listed across social media platforms.When an abuser admits ...

Stuart Lord Interview - Part 2

19 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Meet Stuart Lord - Part 2Survivor. Educator. Social Justice AdvocateStuart is the founder of the boy scouts survivor group of America,  and from the ...

Stuart Lord Interview - Part 1

17 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Meet Stuart Lord - Part 1Survivor. Educator. Social Justice AdvocateStuart is the founder of the boy scouts survivor group of America,  and from the ...

Coming up this week: 18-22 Dec

17 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Weekly updates on the channel delivered fresh to your door.This week on our YT Channel is Stuart Lord who is the founder of the boy scouts survivor gr...

Survivor Tip #37: Body Boundaries

14 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Body BoundariesThis is linked to Cathy Studer's interviews held earlier this week, and listed on the channel.Because of the sexual abuse we endur...

Cathy Studer Interview - Part 2

12 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Meet Cathy StuderAward winning author and CSA Prevention advocate.Between the ages of 6 - 12 Cathy was abused by stepfather tricked her into believing...

Cathy Studer Interview - Part 1

10 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Meet Cathy StuderAward winning author and CSA Prevention advocate.Between the ages of 6 - 12 Cathy was abused by stepfather who told her her mum knew,...

Coming up this week: 11-15 Dec

10 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Weekly updates on the channel delivered fresh to your door.This week on our YT Channel is Cathy Studer, who  from 6 - 12 was abused by stepfather who...

Survivor Tip #36: - Validation

07 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

ValidationThis is linked to Frank Rogers interviews held earlier this week, and listed on the channel.We need validation because, as survivors,  we h...

Frank Rogers Interview - Part 2

05 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Meet Frank RogersSurvivor. Teacher. Author.Frank experienced intergenerational abuse in several ways: he was sexually abused by his mother from infanc...

Frank Rogers Interview - Part 1

03 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Meet Frank RogersSurvivor. Teacher. Author.Frank experienced intergenerational abuse in several ways: he was sexually abused by his mother from infanc...

Coming up this week: 4-8 Dec

03 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Weekly updates on the channel delivered fresh to your door.This week on our YT Channel is the amazing Frank Rogers who was abused by mother from birth...

Tips for Supporting Survivors #39

29 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Having SomeoneIf you're reading this - that someone is probably you.Please know how important you actually are.Let me explain: Because the abuse ...

Having Someone

26 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Survivors, Having someone who stands by you and supports you is gold.The feeling it evokes when that person has your back, is almost indescribable. ...

Coming up this week: 27 Nov - 1 Dec

26 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Weekly updates on the channel delivered fresh to your door.This week on our YT Channel is my blog on Having Someone.This is so important for us as sur...

Survivor Tip #35: Grooming

23 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

GroomingAs adult survivors, did you know we could still be carrying remnants of that into adult lives today? We were groomed through threats, bribery...

April Giauque Interview - Part 2

21 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Meet April GiauqueGhostwriter. Author. Podcaster.She was abused the summer she was 7 by a senior in high school. To deal with the trauma she worked at...

April Giauque Interview - Part 1

19 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Meet April GiauqueGhostwriter. Author. Podcaster.She was abused the summer she was 7 by a senior in high school. The manipulation and grooming was cal...

Coming up this week: 20-26 Nov

19 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Weekly updates on the channel delivered fresh to your door.This week on our YT Channel is survivor April Giauque.She was abused one summer by a senior...

Survivor Tip #34 - Having Someone

16 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Having SomeoneIs crucial for us as survivors. What started our abuse was the secrecy, silence and shame. It was hidden as was our voice. Having someo...

Angela Williams Interview - Part 2

14 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Meet Angela Williams - Part 2Survivor. Advocate. Author.00:52 Angela's Story continued05.39 A Hot mess11.49 No Adults helped her20:52 SummaryShe ...

Angela Williams Interview - Part 1

12 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Meet Angela Williams - Part 1Survivor. Advocate. Author.01:05 Angela's Story07.09 Child Humiliation14.24 Snapped at 1623:11 SummaryShe was abused...

Coming up this week: 13-17 Nov

12 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Weekly updates on the channel delivered fresh to your door.This week on our YT Channel our survivor is Angela Williams She was abused by her stepfathe...

Survivor Tip #33 - Repressed Memories

09 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Repressed memoriesThis is a very common for us as survivors. It simply means the mind buried what happened, because the events were too traumatic for...

Gigi Kilroe Interview - Part 2

07 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Meet Gigi Kilroe Part 2Survivor. Advocate. Author and Speaker.  Quick recap:  Gigi was abused by  her half brother 13 years older than her from the...

Gigi Kilroe Interview - Part 1

05 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Meet Gigi KilroeSurvivor. Advocate. Author and Speaker. For ease of viewing go to:01:22 Gigi's Story 07.11 The photo revealing all 14.34 Notic...

Coming up this week: 6-10 Nov

05 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Weekly updates on the channel delivered fresh to your door.Survivor Interviews are published on the channel each week.All Survivor tips, blogs and Tip...

Survivor Tip #32 - Self-Sabotage

02 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Survivors and self sabotageThis shows itself in us refusing to ask for help, or not completing a deadline in time, It may be that we start picking fi...

Nathan Spiteri Interview - Part 2

31 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Nathan Spiteri - Part 2 of his story00:00 Introduction & Recap01:16 Impacts and navigating healing23:22 SummaryNathan is a Survivor. Advocate. Wri...

Nathan Spiteri Interview - Part 1

29 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

00:00 Introduction00:55 Nathan's Story25:35 SummaryMeet Nathan Spiteri - Part 1 of his storySurvivor. Advocate. Writer. Actor Nathan was targete...

Tips for Supporting Survivors #38

26 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

 DysregulationThis is commonly described as someone who struggles with managing emotions, or controlling their impulsive behaviour. This is a common ...

Silence

22 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Survivors, Silence has been used against us in destructive and manipulative ways, mainly  to keep us silent and therefore the secret, hidden and buri...

Survivor Tip #31 - Family ties

19 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

SurvivorsNot having a relationship with family members is difficult enough without people judging us for it. In this clip I discuss ways to navigate t...