Handing the Shame Back
Episodes
Merry Xmas Everyone
23 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
We are on all social media platforms:Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HandingtheShameBackInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/handingtheshameback/X:...
Xmas Panel Discussion
20 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
This Xmas panel discussion looks at ways we, as survivors get through this time of year. We each have our own view on how it manifested and can manif...
Tips for Supporting Survivors #27
19 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Untapped potential in survivors is huge. We don't often talk about it, but we all feel it and sometimes What if questions can surface. How do y...
Self Love
18 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
One of the things we struggle with as survivors is self love.It is difficult for us to feel it, when so much of what we experienced made us hate ourse...
Soulutions Interview: The Roles we adopted to survive the abuse
15 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Chantelle and I discuss the roles we needed to adopt as children experiencing sexual abuse. We had to take on these roles to survive what we went thr...
Sam Troth Interview
13 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Sam is a survivor, a father of 6 and is on a hikoi (walk of awareness) throughout NZ to spread awareness about male sexual abuse. What helped him to h...
Tips for Supporting Survivors #26
12 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Supporting your survivor through validation is key. Not using words like, you are amazing is also vital when they are in a dysregulated or trauma stat...
Staying Positive
11 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Sometimes its hard for us to feel positive when all around us feels doom and gloom. Believe it or not, there are some ways to navigate this so you are...
Mark Attwood Interview
08 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Mark Attwood brings out the power of the big Angels supporting me. This was Quite an emotional and moving interview, one that surprised even me.HELP...
Nae Marsters Interview
06 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Nae is a woman who has turned her trauma into healing. she runs Whatumanuwa a company which provides Solace and Serenity workshops using mindfulness, ...
Surviving Christmas
04 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
This week my blog focus is on surviving the Xmas and holiday season. We can sometimes feel off balance as Survivors, but this specific time of year ...
Interview with Isami Daehn
29 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Welcome to Activist, Survivor and Speaker Isami Daehn, she is a subject matter expert in anti human trafficking and child safety. Her mission is to be...
Inner Critic
27 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Ever really think about that voice inside your head, the one telling you what to do? Berating you and usually making you feel less than?Welcome to yo...
Tips for Supporting Survivors #24
25 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Survivors and the Inner Criticotherwise known as our inner voice, judge, parent etc.This can be something we believe and follow without question. But ...
Panel Discussion - Male Survivors Canterbury
24 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
This panel discussion opens the door into the suffering and reality of Male Survivors in NZ and globally. Three brave men discuss their reality, the a...
Interview with Paulie Stevens
22 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Meet Paulie Stevens, a survivor of abuse whose perpetrator got over 100 years in prison. The judge called him a prolific pedophile, and the worst he h...
The Choice
20 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
The Choices we make are available to us every day in many different ways, and we don't often consider the power they contain. Every choice we mak...
Upcoming Releases #19
19 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Survivors needing inspiration? Look no further!Live on the channel this week: I interview Paulie Stevens who wrote the book You Cant Hurt Me, He was a...
Tips for Supporting Survivors #23
18 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
This week we focus on the holiday season.This can be a really difficult and triggering time for survivors as that was when abuse could occur more freq...
Panel Discussion - November 2022
17 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
This powerful discussion with Louise Nicholas, Advocate, Libby and Kate from REOSA (ripple effects of sexual abuse), Alison Mau advocate/journalist an...
Recognize our Power Interview
15 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Kelly and I discuss impacts of child sexual abuse from childhood through to adulthood. We cover off my childhood and the ongoing impact childhood trau...
Grief
13 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Grief is usually associated with death, and therefore not often discussed in survivor communities, but what if I was to tell you that for all survivor...
Upcoming Releases #18
13 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
On the channel this week: Panel Discussion with Louise Nicholas, Advocate, Libby and Kate from REOSA (ripple effects of sexual abuse), Alison Mau ad...
Tips for Supporting Survivors #22
11 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
This week we focus on Grief. The 7 stages there are and where your survivor may be, and where they could move to. There is no right or wrong, it just ...
Aquarious Rising Interview
11 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
The theme for this month with Chantelle is Dissociation....We look at how it helped survivors of sexual abuse as children, but may not be quite so nee...
Interview with Jim Heaney
09 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Jim Heaney lives in Chicago, Illinois and is a survivor of child sexual abuse. He is an advocate and author of 'A Book for Someone', just re...
Broken Pieces
07 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Broken Pieces depicts what we as child sexual abuse survivors experience to a greater or lesser extent at random or frequent times, depending on what ...
Beginnings
07 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Beginnings can be challenging for survivors of child sexual abuse. If we chose them, they are less problematic, if not: our PTSD or CPTSD kicks in big...
Upcoming Releases #17
06 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Updates on the channel this week: Panel Discussion with Louise Nicholas, Advocate, Libby and Kate from REOSA (ripple effects of sexual abuse), Alison ...
Gareth Icke of Right Now Interview
03 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Gareth Icke of Right Now (Ickonic) interviews me. We discuss my book Flightpath to Healing - A Guide for Child Sexual Abuse (CSA) Survivors, which I h...
Tips for Supporting Survivors #21
03 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Tips for Supporting Survivors.This week, I discuss the 3 key areas of Reactions to Sexual abuse: emotional, physical and psychological. I list a few i...
Interview with Andrew Pledger
01 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Welcome to Andrew Pledger, a Cult survivor, and survivor of child sexual abuse. Andrew discloses for the first time publicly the sexual abuse he suffe...
Upcoming Releases #16
30 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Included in this weeks line up to the Channel: Welcome to Andrew Pledger, a Cult and survivor of child sexual abuse. My blog on Beginnings, and The in...
Shaun Attwood Panel Discussion
29 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
I put this panel together to highlight the severity of the statistics of child sexual abuse globally. On the panel are Maggie Oliver, from the UK, whi...
Tips for Supporting Survivors #20
27 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Tips for Supporting Survivors. We look at the damaged parts of ourselves, because they are a 'thing' and they do exist. As a result, it is h...
Interview with Dallas Pickering
25 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Dallas Pickering is a survivor of over ten years of sexual abuse in state care. Although she disclosed to a social worker and signs of abuse and negle...
Triggers
23 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Triggers are commonly experienced by us as survivors of child sexual abuse. They can seemingly come from nowhere, and usually depict a memory from chi...
Upcoming Releases #15
23 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
On Handing the shame back this week:Dallas Pickering shares what happened to her including being abused in state care. My blog on triggers, and a pa...
Interview with Sarah Gallardo
20 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Welcome to Sarah Gallardo, Author, Survivor and Director and Founder of Sarah Speaks up, A non profit promoting awareness of domestic violence. She sh...
Dani Henderson Interviews me
18 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Dani Henderson, spiritual therapist interviews me - about my second book Flightpath to Healing - A Guide for Child Sexual Abuse (CSA) Survivors, whi...
Tips for Supporting Survivors #19
18 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Tips for Supporting Survivors this week is on doubt. Survivors may feel it is still is a part of who we are. Why? Because even tho we knew it was wron...
Signs
16 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
This blog offers some support and resource on searching and finding signs for when we need them the most.For survivors of child sexual abuse, these ti...
Upcoming Releases #14
15 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
On Handing the shame back this week:Sarah Gallardo Survivor, shares her story, which is very inspirational and moving. My blog on signs, which can be ...
Ripple out Effects of Child Sexual Abuse
15 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Although childhood sexual abuse occurs in childhood, the impacts are far reaching and go deep into adulthood as well. Have a look at this clip on some...
Interview with Matiu Taitoko
11 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Matiu Taitoko is a survivor of years of sexual abuse. He is now a peer support worker helping other male survivors in Canterbury, (Male Survivors Cant...
Tips for Supporting Survivors #18
11 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Tips for Supporting Survivors. This week the focus is on Boundaries. Have a listen as what you hear will provide more context around why setting bound...
Manipulation
09 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Manipulation is something well known to us as survivors of child sexual abuse. It begins in silence and secrecy and unknowingly, and unwillingly we be...
Upcoming Releases #14
09 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
On Handing the shame back this week:Matiu Taitoko Survivor, shares his story. While remaining humble, he is also inspirational. My blog on Manipulatio...
Sean Stone Interviews me
07 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
For the full interview go to BeeYou TV and sign into Sean Stone's channelSean Stone interviews me - and here is a snapshot of that.We discuss f...
Interview with Jess Tyson
04 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Meet Jess Tyson Fellow Survivor, Founder and Director of Brave Charitable Trust. She wasMiss World NZ in 2018. Journalist for current affairs Whakaata...
Clarity
03 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
This blog offers some ideas on finding and keeping clarity in your life.For survivors of child sexual abuse, it can often be missing in action. Due to...
Upcoming Releases #13
02 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Coming up on Handing the Shame Back YouTube this week: My blog on Clarity and how it is sometimes lost to us as survivors. Don't miss the great i...
Tips for Supporting Survivors #17
30 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Tips for Supporting Survivors. This week the focus is again on Dissociation. Have a listen as what you hear will help you understand a little more, ab...
How it all Began....
29 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
This details how Handing the Shame Back Began, with Founder Gloria Masters finding the path that led to the YouTube Channel and eventually the Foundat...
Interview with Matt Ashton
28 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Matt is a Survivor of sexual abuse. He was a gang member until the age of 30. He has turned his life around to help other male survivors in NZ. He doe...
Upcoming Releases #12
25 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Coming up on Handing the Shame Back YouTube Channel this week: My blog on Toxic People, and why they are well known to survivors. Friday morning (NZt)...
Toxic People
23 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
This blog offers some support and resource on identifying the characteristics toxic people displayFor survivors of child sexual abuse, these people ar...
Tips for Supporting Survivors #16
23 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Tips for Supporting Survivors. This week the focus is on Statistics. Have a listen as what you hear will help support your loved one, and even encoura...
Upcoming Releases #11
20 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Coming up on Handing the Shame Back YouTube Channel this week: My blog on courage, and why finding it (for survivors) can be a challenge. The big news...
Courage
19 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Courage is as unique to us as our thumbprints. Courage is also linked closely to vulnerability, particularly for survivors of child sexual abuse. Due ...
Tips for Supporting Survivors #15
16 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Tips for Supporting Survivors this week is on dissociation. This helped protect your survivor, but what if its not so helpful anymore? Have a listen t...
Forgiveness
15 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
This blog offers some ideas to consider around forgiving others. One powerful thought behind forgiveness, is that the only person that can free us fro...
Panel Discussion
13 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Our panel discussion this month focuses on the dreadful numbers of young people who have taken their own lives, and the staggering statistics that exi...
Aquarious Rising Interviews me
12 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Chantelle and I discuss the topic of forgiving your abuser and how this huge decision is personal and unique to the survivor and therefore remain thei...
Upcoming Releases #10
12 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
On Handing the Shame Back YouTube Channel this week: A look at forgiveness, a very complex issue and one not to be hurried. A panel discussion on effe...
Shame
07 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Shame is well known to survivors of child sexual abuse, I consider it to be the most significant symptom we carry. Have a listen as to how you can be...
Stephan Neff Interviews me for the second time....
30 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Stephan and I discuss topics ranging from the Keeping ourselves safe programme run by NZ Police to homeless people and why that might be.We are on...
Feeling Different
30 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Feeling different is well known to survivors of child sexual abuse (CSA)What happened to us felt wrong, thereby ensuring we stood apart from others.In...
Tips for Supporting Survivors #14
29 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Sometimes as Survivors we 'apologise' too much.Why do we do that?Have a listen as to how you can support your loved survivor into changing t...
Interview with Jane Epstein
28 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Welcome to Jane Epstein: She is a survivor of Sibling Sexual Abuse, and shares some real insights with us about this. Did you know that over 40% of ch...
Tips for Supporting Survivors #13
23 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Tips for Supporting Survivors is on forgiveness this week.Is forgiveness something Child Sexual Abuse (CSA) survivors should do? Are we better people ...
Upcoming Releases #9
22 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Updates On Handing the Shame Back Youtube channel this week: My Blog on Anxiety. A Survivor interview with Jane Epstein - one of the founders of 5Wave...
Interview with Kim Spencer
19 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Kim Spencer is a survivor of incest who experienced a tumultuous childhood. She has now found a way to turn what happened to her into helping others. ...
Tips for supporting survivors #12
16 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Did you know there are 8 types of boundaries, and that each one has its own specific characteristics? As Survivors we tend to find boundaries difficul...
Upcoming Releases 8
15 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
On YouTube Handing the Shame Back this week, we have my blog on Rejection, which survivors can relate to only all too well.The Survivor interview is w...
Diane Forster Interviews Me
15 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Diane and I discuss CSA and impacts globally.We are on all social media platforms:Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HandingtheShameBackInstagram: htt...
Interview with Dr. Jackie Parsons
09 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Meet Dr. Jackie Parsons.She has a PHD in counselling, education and supervision. She is a passionate advocate for people. and talks about both: An...
Upcoming Release On The Channel
07 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
This week on the YouTube Channel 'Handing the Shame Back': Dr Jackie Parsons discusses anxiety in motion and what that is!My Blog on Resili...
Tips for Supporting Survivors #11
07 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Tips for Supporting Survivors #11. The focus is on sensory soothing, Listen to how we as child sexual abuse (CSA) survivors find many ways to self soo...
Interview with Anneke Lucas
07 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
SEVERE trigger warning: Anneke Lucas - child trafficking survivor, from Belguim.Her book called: Quest for Love - Memoir of a Child Sex Slave is also ...
Panel Discussion on CSA issues
04 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Discussion on CSA landscape in NZ, what is happening and who is doing what.Focus given to Flightpath to Healing - A Guide for CSA Survivors, released ...
Tips for Supporting Survivors #10
01 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Tips for Supporting Survivors #9. Did you know there are 8 different types of triggers Child Sexual Abuse (CSA) Survivors experience? How can you help...
Shaun Attwood Q&A
01 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Shaun Attwood QnA session on issues helpful to CSA Survivors.We discuss how to respond to a child disclosing abuse among other things.We are on all so...
Anxiety
29 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Anxiety is well known to us CSA Survivors.It steals our piece of mind, and can have us unable to enjoy the moment.Have a listen as to how you it may b...
Tips for Supporting Survivors #9
25 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
CSA Survivors experience invalidation a lot.comments like:You'll get over itEverything happens for a reasonWhy are you making a bit deal out of i...
Upcoming Releases 7
24 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
On my YouTube Channel: Handing the Shame Back this week:My blog on The Four F's (Fight, flight, freeze and fawn)Survivor Interview with Dr. Kat R...
Interview with Dr. Kat Rosenblatt
24 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Dr Kat Rosenblatt is an: Author, Public Speaker International Survivor Leader of human trafficking and abuseShe has written several books, the first...
Pre-Order Guide
20 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Exciting news all - My book calledFlightpath to Healing - A Guide for Child Sexual Abuse (CSA) Survivors is available for pre-order from Monday 25 Jul...
Tips for Supporting Survivors #8
18 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
DARVO technique described. Useful for all Survivors to understand.DenyAttackReverseVictimOffenderStrategy is used against us constantly to derail and ...
Upcoming Releases 6
18 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
On my YouTube channel this week: My Blog on Power, the type we all have, that is not always used. Dani Henderson - spiritual therapist from Costa Rica...
Interview with Kalpa Gupta
12 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Meet Kalpa GuptaSurvivor extraordinaire, she used to be a financial services director working with public traded companies, she is currently the CEO o...
Tips for Supporting Survivors #7
11 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
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Updates This Week
10 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
On the show this week:Blog on KindnessMedia Spotlight: Theresa Carpenter hosts Stories of Survivors, interviews me. We discuss why there is such low a...
Rejection
08 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Ever feel like you are being rejected?Or that you are not included in situations you would like to be?Have a listen and see how rejection features in ...
Theresa Carpenter Interviews Me
08 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
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Dani Henderson Interviews Me
07 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
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Tips for Supporting Survivors #6
05 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
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Madeleine Black Interviews Me: Highlights
05 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
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Resilience
04 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Blog on ResilienceResilience is something we all have to varying degrees.Did you know you can build on it and grow it even further?Have a listen to my...
Upcoming Release On The Channel
03 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
My blog on DissociationMy interview with Male Survivors, discussing the court system and process for survivorsMy interview with Neil Harding, leading ...