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What if the patterns in your relationships are not just about communication, compatibility, or choosing the wrong person, but subconscious wounds your nervous system learned years ago? In this episode, Dr. Taz sits down with Thais Gibson, PhD, bestselling author, counselor, speaker, attachment theory expert, and founder of The Personal Development School, to explore how attachment styles, childhood conditioning, core wounds, subconscious programming, and nervous system regulation shape the way we love, fight, connect, and pull away.In this episode, Thais explains why the conscious mind often cannot overpower the subconscious mind, and why so many people keep repeating the same relationship patterns even when they know better. She breaks down the four attachment styles: secure, anxious, dismissive avoidant, and fearful avoidant, and explains how each style can show up in adult relationships, dating, marriage, family dynamics, conflict, ghosting, love bombing, emotional shutdown, clinginess, and the painful push-pull cycle.Dr. Taz and Thais discuss why affirmations may not be enough to heal deep core wounds, why the subconscious mind responds more to emotion and imagery than language, and how childhood experiences can become the lens through which we interpret adult relationships. Thais also shares a practical 21-day rewiring exercise using memory, emotion, visualization, and repetition to help shift core wounds like abandonment, betrayal, shame, unworthiness, and fear of being trapped.If you’re listening to this and thinking, “I know something is off in my body, but I don’t know where to start,” join the Circle here: 👉 https://holplus.co/circleAttachment is not just a relationship story. It is a nervous system story. Dr. Taz and Thais discuss how unresolved attachment wounds can keep people in fight-or-flight, create emotional trigger cycles, increase conflict in relationships, and shape the health of families across generations.Learn more about support related to this conversation: Integrative Mental Health Services for Emotional Wellbeing: https://holplus.co/services/mental-health/Dr. Taz and Thais also discuss why anxious and avoidant partners are often drawn to each other, why secure attachment can feel boring before someone heals, why high-conflict couples can still change when both people are willing to do the work, and why healthy relationships require more than insight. They require rewiring core wounds, understanding your needs, regulating your nervous system, learning healthy communication, and building real boundaries.If you struggle with relationship anxiety, emotional shutdown, fear of abandonment, fear of betrayal, ghosting, love bombing, conflict, people-pleasing, or repeating the same relationship cycle with different people, this episode will help you understand the deeper pattern and where healing can begin.About The Guest:Thais Gibson, PhD, is a bestselling author, counselor, speaker, and one of the leading voices in attachment theory and personal development. She is the founder of Gibson Integrated Attachment Theory and co-founder of The Personal Development School, where she helps people understand and rewire subconscious relationship patterns, attachment wounds, and emotional conditioning.About Dr. Taz:Dr. Tasneem Bhatia (Dr. Taz) is a triple board-certified integrative medicine physician,bestselling author, and founder of hol+ a multi-location integrative medicine practice.Learn more: https://doctortaz.com/aboutStay Connected:Connect further to Hol+ at https://holplus.co/- Don’t forget to like, subscribe, and hit the notification bell to stay updated on future episodes of hol+.Book a Hol+ Consultation: https://holplus.co/locations/virtual/Follow Dr. Taz on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drtazmd/https://www.instagram.com/liveholplus/Subscribe to the audio podcast: https://holplus.transistor.fm/subscribeSubscribe to the video podcast: https://www.youtube.com/@DrTazMD/podcastsGet your copy of The Hormone Shift: Balance Your Body and Thrive Through Midlife and MenopauseConnect with Thais Gibson:https://www.personaldevelopmentschool.com/ https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/Host & Production TeamHost: Dr. Taz; Produced by ClipGrowth.com (Producer: Pat Gostek)Chapters 00:00 Why affirmations may not heal core wounds 03:35 Thais Gibson’s story and the subconscious mind 08:12 How childhood conditioning shapes adult relationships 10:55 The four attachment styles explained 13:14 Anxious attachment, abandonment, and relationship anxiety 17:55 Dismissive avoidant attachment, ghosting, and emotional shutdown 24:17 Fearful avoidant attachment and the push-pull cycle 29:21 Why certain attachment styles attract each other 35:00 The 5 pillars of rewiring attachment patterns 38:40 Why affirmations do not work