How Purity Culture Messed With Our Sexual Desire, #610
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What is the purpose of this episode and who are the hosts?
Well, hey there, welcome to another episode of Java with Julie. I'm your host, Julie Slattery. And this podcast is an outreach of authentic intimacy, a ministry dedicated to helping you make sense of God and sexuality. Hannah, thanks for joining me again. Thanks,
Julie. Anytime.
Yeah, we've been hanging out quite often lately.
I know. Do you have something you want to talk to me about that you keep asking me on? Or you just are like,
let's
keep bringing her back.
Well, I'm
coming back. And today I'm coming back with a little throwback. Julia, I, as a millennial, get a lot of targeted Instagram videos about what it was like growing up millennial. Mm-hmm. Which just is a sign that I'm getting older. Because when you're a kid, they don't make videos like that. Do you know what I mean? Because
you're living
it. But now that we're all turning 40, there's throwback stuff. You're all turning 40. I'm not. You've passed
the 40. Yeah, I am way
fat. Way
fat. Not much. Not
much, not much.
Yeah,
quite a bit. But anyway, today we're doing a little throwback, thinking about those early 90s, 2000s times,
or as
my kids like to call it, the 1900s, whenever they talk about when me and Caleb were born. I
love it.
Okay, so if you grew up in the 90s or 2000s, just a little, just like to prickle your ears of the throwback, that little feeling inside of you of nostalgic childhood, sounds we remember.
How did growing up in the 90s‑2000s shape our nostalgia for church culture?
Yeah.
Dial-up internet. Do you remember the noise that
AOL made when it was connecting?
Or getting kicked off the internet when someone picked up the phone. That always happened. Another nostalgic, we think about the clothing, the layered tank tops. I was really into the popped collars.
Yeah. Long
necklaces. Yeah. And then one more. I was thinking senses. The smell of Blockbuster. The
smell
of Blockbuster. Yeah. Do you remember? I don't remember the smell.
There
was a smell. I do not
remember that. It just
smelled like VHS tapes
and plastic. What is that smell?
I don't know. Maybe I'm unique in this. But anyway, I was thinking of those throwback nostalgic things. But today we're going to talk a little bit about not just life in the 90s, the 1900s, and the 2000s, but if you grew up in the church, what it was like. So you might have remembered listening to Adventures in Odyssey, some of those Christian throwback things. And another thing we're going to talk about, not as fun as Blockbuster, we're going to talk about purity culture.
Yeah, well, a month or so ago, my friend Dana Gresh was on the podcast with me. We were dissecting some of the good and the bad and the ugly of purity culture. And if you didn't listen to that episode, we're going to link to it. I highly recommend you listen to it. We're not going to rehash that episode. But particularly today, what I want to talk about is how purity culture messed with our understanding of sexual desire. And what does it look like to approach sexual desire from a healthier perspective? And I would say perhaps even a more biblical perspective. So that's the direction we're going to go.
And Julie, I know that even with Dana, you talked a lot about this, but it's kind of crazy how this concept was everywhere in the evangelical church. It wasn't just like a once a year teaching, like this whole idea of purity culture shaped how so many of us of my generation thought about our bodies, thought about God, thought about sexuality. I mean, it was everywhere.
It was
like a flag
of
this time of life. So yeah, tell me more then about where
we're going to go with that. Yeah, I mean, I think some of it, Hannah, I maybe just missed it. So, you know, I remember growing up with some vague messages about purity and save sex for marriage and things like that. But I don't think it was full on like for you all where it was everywhere you went, there were those messages. And so you were impacted by it more. I was probably more impacted by the silence of the church. But I know you're friends. I mean, you grew up in church culture. Well, I
grew up in church culture and Christian school. I had a double whammy, Julie. So, I mean, it was really coming from all directions.
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Chapters
8 chapters
1
What is the purpose of this episode and who are the hosts?
0:02–1:27
2
How did growing up in the 90s‑2000s shape our nostalgia for church culture?
1:27–4:38
3
Why does purity culture still affect our view of sexual desire today?
4:38–9:22
4
What personal stories illustrate the impact of purity teachings on desire?
9:22–16:21
5
What research shows how purity culture influences sexual satisfaction and pain?
16:21–24:20
6
How does the Song of Solomon reveal a biblical view of desire and intimacy?
24:20–30:51
7
What practical steps can churches and small groups take to discuss sexuality healthily?
30:51–35:37
8
How can listeners apply a holistic, God‑centered approach to their own sexual desire?
35:37–37:26