How to Make Better Decisions As a Couple, #616
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How did Mike and Juli introduce their 32-year marriage and decision-making theme?
Hey, welcome to Java with Julie. This podcast is a production of Authentic Intimacy, which is a ministry helping people make sense of God and sexuality. And hey, I've been away for a couple months. Most people probably don't know that because we've been still releasing episodes that are recorded before I left, but I've had a sabbatical, which has been amazing. And I'll talk about that a little bit next week. But for this week, I brought a very special person with me, none other than my husband, Mike Slattery.
Mike. That's it. I'm here. Here in the flesh.
Yeah, so I'd say a few months ago we shared you and I talking on our cruise.
Our cruise?
Well, we were on the cruise.
It was not our cruise.
But I can't tell you how many text messages and emails I got that week. Like, oh, I loved hearing from Mike. He's so funny. You've got to have him on more. So here we go.
Those are all from my mom, right?
There were a few.
My publicist.
Yeah, yeah. So back by popular demand.
That's right. There you go.
Yeah. Nobody knew that I was hiding how funny my husband is.
That's right. You get me all to yourself, right? There you go. All the humor.
Now I'm sharing you.
Yep. There you go.
So we just celebrated 32 years of marriage.
Yes, we did.
Last week we had an anniversary.
Went out to a date, went to a nice Brazilian place. Yes. That was really fun.
It was. It was fun to think about memories.
Yes.
And one of the things that you do over 32 years of marriage is you make a lot of decisions together. Yes. So I guess we know a thing or two about making decisions, although we're still learning. But yeah, can you think of a decision we made even maybe within the last week?
Well, we're to go to dinner. Yes, we did. Where are we going to go for anniversary? Where we go for anniversary dinner? I think that was one. What else? I know. It just seems like we're in a rapid fire season of decisions have to be made quickly just with life stage that we're at. So I think that comes out as pretty quick. So I think we've been doing a lot of that.
Yeah. Making decisions about our adult children, how to be engaged with them and caring for our parents. Yeah. neighbors and just all kinds of stuff, whether it's financial decisions, work decisions. So we also work together. But let me ask you, is there one decision early in our marriage that you think revealed how differently we approach things?
Am I allowed to bring those up? Sure, go for it. I can edit you. You can edit me? You have the power of edit? Well, he told me not to bring this one up. And don't bring it up.
No.
No, I mean, I think that's a good one, though. Because you were right. Well, that helps. That's definitely leaning. No, but I do think, because I think both of our... Vantage points have merit to it, but I think in that particular one, it really truly showed how our decisions were based on our own personal experiences. Do you want me to talk about the dreaded decision? Go for it, yes. Well, the dreaded decision was we were, what were we, 10? No, 10 years in. About 10 years in married and we had kids and we had two vehicles at the time and we had an SUV and we had your Saab that they don't make anymore. Yeah. And I was driving your Saab because you needed the SUV for the kids, put the car seats in and all that fun stuff.
And I was going to work in the winter and I was on the road and the guy in front of me is completely wrong. Stepped on his brakes too quickly. I wasn't playing with the radio. It was before iPhones and all that fun stuff. And I hit him and I slid into him. I did step on the brakes, but I just slid. It was going downhill. And it wasn't, I was going like maybe 10, 15 miles an hour, but it did, you know, the sobs are made for safety and they crumble like a cookie. So it totaled the car, even though the car was fine in the sense that they just can't replace it because of the old model, all the fun stuff. So anyway, so we're in the car market all of a sudden and we had a little bit of money from the insurance company for the sob and I'm like, okay, let's put this as a down payment for a new vehicle.
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Chapters
4 chapters
1
How did Mike and Juli introduce their 32-year marriage and decision-making theme?
0:00–6:47
2
What early car-buying story reveals their different financial decision styles?
6:47–20:31
3
How do small day-to-day choices build patterns that affect a marriage?
20:31–37:33
4
When should couples delegate decision areas and how did the Slatterys divide responsibilities?
37:33–46:37
Speakers
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