We all do it—the little "tests" we give our spouses without ever telling them they're being tested. Will he notice? Will she remember? Does he even see me? Does she even care? Maybe it's the party we planned, the extra hours we put in at work, or that new haircut or dress we're hoping they'll notice. We put in the effort…and then quietly wait to see if they pass the test. And when they don't? Well, let's just say it doesn't always go the way we hoped. So why do we do this? And is there a better way to get the connection and attention we're really longing for? Grab your Java and join us for the conversation. Co-host: Hannah Nitz We want to hear from you! Did you enjoy this conversation? Leave us a rating & review in your favorite podcast app. Follow-up Resources: Finding the Hero in Your Husband by Dr. Juli Slattery What's It Like to Be Married to Me? And Other Dangerous Questions by Linda Dillow Blog: Did He Pass the Test? by Juli Slattery Follow Hannah Nitz at @hannahnitz Follow Authentic Intimacy at @authenticintimacy

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