A lot of gay coaching is built around healing shame. Keegan isn't here to say that's wrong.Shame is real. The stuff that gets wired into us growing up as gay men in a straight world, learning to hide, learning we're different, that's not invented. It matters. It needs acknowledging and working through.But there's a version of gay personal development that becomes a waiting room. You sit in it processing your childhood, doing the inner work, and you wait until you're fixed enough to actually live your life. This episode is about why that waiting room is a comfortable trap.The argument Keegan makes is a simple one: you don't heal your way into a good life. You build your way into one. Confidence isn't buried in your past waiting to be dug up. You earn it by doing hard things, building a body you're proud of, doing work that means something, being in relationships that actually challenge you. As you build those things, the old shame quietly loses its grip.Inner work has a place. But it earns that place when you pair it with specific action. Otherwise it's just rumination with a fancy word.What's covered:The difference between processing shame and hiding behind itWhy healing becomes an identity with no finish line for a lot of gay menConfidence as something you build, not something you unearthWhy you can't think your way out of a doing problemHow to out-build shame rather than just sit with itWhat this looks like inside GMCAlso in this episode: a look ahead to the Unapologetic Man Live event in London this Saturday (20th June), the Cornwall retreat, and the Montreal MAD deposit deadline at the end of June. Wnat to join us at one of our upcoming events? Email Keegan on [email protected] Find and connect with Keegan and the GMC Community: InstagramGMC InstagramEmail: [email protected] Click here to subscribe to Keegan's weekly newsletterFor more behind the scenes content about Keegan and GMC, watch him on YouTube

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