Elevate group conversations with a 'magical question'
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You're listening to Life Kit from NPR. Hey, it's Marielle. I think we've all been to a gathering where we were bored out of our skulls. Or where the conversation felt stiff and awkward. Where we found ourselves daydreaming about being anywhere else, really, but preferably at home, tucked into bed. But what about the reverse? The dinner party where people are actually connecting. Where folks are interesting and interested. Where the room sparkles with possibility.
How do we get there? Start by throwing a gathering you want to attend. Host something that literally makes you giggle, makes you be like, yeah, I want to do that.
Priya Parker is a conflict resolution facilitator and author of the book The Art of Gathering. In it, she says, it's important to be intentional about gathering and to understand why we're actually bringing a particular group of people together. Now, she says the sky's the limit when it comes to gathering because most of us are bored with the same old thing.
And so when you get invited to like Anne's party where her like rug that she bought in Istanbul on her solo vacation post-divorce finally arrived and she wants to like roll it out and is literally like two feet by four feet. It's like a delightful invitation.
What is a 'magical question' and why is it important?
But there's more to it than that, right? Once you're actually at a gathering, whether you're the host or you're an attendee, how do you make the room sparkly? You might try something Priya calls magical questions.
A magical question is a question posed to a group that everybody in that group would be interested in answering. And everyone is interested in hearing each other's answers.
Priya says we can think of magical questions as conversational doorknobs, a way to meaningfully connect with other people without having to agree or have the same tastes or life experiences. On this episode of Life Kit, what makes a magical question? How to come up with one, how to offer it to a group, and how to decide on your answer. And don't worry, we will give you plenty of examples.
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Okay, Priya, what makes something a magical question? A magical question is specific. It invites people to not give their opinion, usually, but to give a story. A magical question also complicates the individual. I'm a conflict resolution facilitator, and one of the things that I've learned over many years is, you know, often we try to think that the best way to relieve conflict is to try to pretend that a group is the same.
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