Live IFS
Episodes
104: Ian A. revisits
18 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
🔸 IFS for physical pain? Can a part cause 2 weeks of stomach trouble? We find out fast. “Play fair, be kind. Stop defining me as just pain.” 🔹...
103: Evelyn A. - first call
16 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
🔸 Evelyn wants to get to know the judge. We also find an 11 year old, afraid of rejection. Parts wanting to scream surprised me. And I do a little ...
102: Brandon A. revisits
14 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
🔸 Brandon just got a promotion hours ago, he’s at work & riding high. But there's also a critic, judge, saying he can’t handle it. It's alw...
Pro: Chad Northcott with Sam A.
12 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In addition to IFS, Chad’s approach to therapy utilizes training in EMDR, DBT, and Mindfulness. He also incorporates Direct Neurofeedback as an adju...
101: Jo A. revisits
10 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
🔸 Jo is in rehab. And we don’t have long to talk, so we go fast; a people-pleasing ballerina needs us. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doin...
100: Ian A. revisits
08 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
🔸 A recent death & other big life changes. A casual stroll along some trail heads, when suddenly, a five-year-old! A new part! 🔹 Part (Loca...
Pro: Percy Ballard with Molly
06 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Percy is a Harvard-Trained Psychiatrist, IFS Psychotherapist, and soon to be sex and relationship coach. His work with Psych Garden includes Psychedel...
99: Gaby A. - first call
03 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
🔸 Gaby's a psychologist who works with kids, but has not tried IFS. We move pretty quick. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs):...
98: Sam A. - first call
31 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
🔸 This part is pissed. And so many show up. Sam is big into IFS and meditation, he and I have done some work before, so I step back, while he leads...
97: Brandon A. revisits
29 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
🔸 “I thought it was just a black hole”. Fears of being misunderstood, inadequate. The explainer part allows us to meet a new exile. 🔹 Part ...
96: Jo A. revisits
27 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
🔸 A suicidal part puts Jo in the psych ward. We go meet exiles again. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): - Suicidal - in che...
95: Carmen A. - first call
25 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
🔸 The unblending doesn't happen. Too much of a language barrier? I won't call it a failure - later she says she’s never gone this deep before! 🔹...
94: Ian A. - first call
23 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
🔸 "You aren’t perfect so why try?" Ian isn’t entirely new to IFS, has done a few IFS-ish sessions with a therapist. Today we meet the part hitt...
93: Linda A. revisits
21 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
🔸 The time keeper is blended. Linda leads the way, discovering a new part, its relation to her father, to disappointment and shame. 🔹 Part (Loc...
92: Brandon A. - first call
19 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
🔸 The procrastinator and the judge. Brandon has done this before, with an IFS therapist and a lot of his own study. I think we have a lot in common...
91: Molly A. revisits
17 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
🔸 A new part! I suspect I'm talking to a part, that this isn't Self battling the rigid “don’t go” part. We bring it out. She's eager to go li...
90: Jo A. revisits
15 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
🔸 “Who cares, that was so long ago?” ... This Exile needs a redo. Jo gives it a voice. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs)...
89: Linda A. revisits
13 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
🔸 No script here, just listening and reacting with self energy. It always works. Linda is appreciating the spiritual side that was lost, pushed asi...
88: Leah A. revisits
11 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
🔸 Another super somatic call, but this time I was ready for it! This one is particularly meditative, despite my compensatory talking to fill the si...
87: Molly A. revisits
09 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
🔸 Romance... Reconnecting with an ex-boyfriend put parts on high alert. Molly's "figuring-out" and "explaining" parts are strong here. Do we have e...
86: Jo A. revisits
07 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
🔸 We go straight to an exile and Jo jumps right in. Showing this exile it’s not a mess, maybe the weed-smoking part can relax. 🔹 Part (Locati...
85: Linda A. revisits
05 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
🔸 An "unfamiliar confidence". A content exile. What's here now, when there is no problem to solve? 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age...
84: Leah A. revisits
01 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
🔸 This is different. Leah's in her own somatic world, using tools she knows well. Meanwhile I’m asking questions... It's only our second time wor...
83: Molly A. revisits
29 Jun 2022
Contributed by Lukas
🔸 We're so efficient, like lucid dreams, just walking through walls. An exile holds the shame of feeling unwanted, and wonders if we can help. 🔹...
82: Jo A. revisits
27 Jun 2022
Contributed by Lukas
🔸 We discuss how to do a check-in, so I'm talking more than usual. Then we meet the exile before a bossy protector. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rat...
81: Linda A. revisits
25 Jun 2022
Contributed by Lukas
🔸 “Nobody was around…” A 4 year old is at the front of the line today, and ready to do some unburdening. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather b...
80: Leah A. - first call
23 Jun 2022
Contributed by Lukas
🔸 This is fun! We talk addiction. Would you believe Leah has no knowledge of IFS or parts work going into this call? (She was referred by another c...
79: Molly A. revisits
19 Jun 2022
Contributed by Lukas
🔸 Who are you when there are no problems to solve? This is mostly me describing my check-in practice. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, ...
Pro: Shira Fruchter with Jo
17 Jun 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Shira runs a private practice in Jerusalem offering therapy to adults and couples, and has over 15 years of clinical experience. She is a "Level 3" ce...
78: Jo A. revisits
15 Jun 2022
Contributed by Lukas
🔸 We try new things, something I learned from Toni Herbine-Blank: two hands to hold two parts. I don't follow up on check-ins, to give space. 🔹...
Pro: Lucas Forstmeyer with Linda
10 Jun 2022
Contributed by Lukas
If you've searched for IFS on youtube, you've no doubt encountered Lucas. He's created a ton of free resources, which is just one of the ways he suppo...
76: Will A. revisits
08 Jun 2022
Contributed by Lukas
🔸 Hopelessness, and this part is not unblending... I try explicit direct access. We end on a high note. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing...
Pro: Bill Tierney with me, James
03 Jun 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Bill is a certified IFS practitioner and personal development coach. Twice per week, with co-leader Alison Dyer, he leads a free Parts Work Practice g...
77: Linda A. revisits
30 May 2022
Contributed by Lukas
🔸 Perfect test scores, but always feeling “not good enough”. This 4yo exile is mad, feels abandoned. (This is our 3rd call, but the first that ...
75: Molly A. revisits
17 May 2022
Contributed by Lukas
🔸 It's magic! Molly unburdens the 10 year old who saw her father being arrested, and never saw him again 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doin...
74: Jo A. revisits
11 May 2022
Contributed by Lukas
🔸 Something new! Jo says check-ins aren’t happening for her. I suggest we kinda do one together, and ask her to lead. It seems to work. This is s...
73: Parker A. revisits
10 May 2022
Contributed by Lukas
🔸 Topic: Sex. Language: NSFW. We meet at least 5 parts in this call. Robert is big into IFS. We have a chatty “about IFS “ rapport , not as str...
72: Casey A. revisits
09 May 2022
Contributed by Lukas
🔸 An 'emergency' call. Casey is so distraught, slept for one hour last night. Seems past parts work opened the lid, revealing more unhappy parts. ...
71: Me, James revisits
02 May 2022
Contributed by Lukas
🔸 Molly's first time as practitioner! And I brought a not-easy one to her. We do a debrief at the end. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing,...
70: Molly A. revisits
30 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
🔸 Clearly Molly does her homework! We dive in with the part that slices in w guilt whenever she’s having fun. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather ...
69: Jo A. revisits
28 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
🔸 Jo gets the know a numbing part, and unburdens the depressed part it protects. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): the depr...
68: Parker A. - first call
27 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
🔸 With an IFS therapist for months, but no exile unburdening… we talk to the part that is angry at his therapist. Most callers don’t have a bas...
67: Casey A. revisits
25 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
🔸 The tired part relaxes, the “you fuck up part” shows up. We get to an exile and do some unburdening. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be do...
66: Richard A. - first call
21 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
🔸 Richard knows this part, and has experience with somatic therapy, but not working with an IFS practitioner. (Though we did a session a few weeks ...
65: Molly A. revisits
19 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
🔸 Molly's moving quickly, consistently meeting and working with parts on her own. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): - Anxio...
64: Jo A. revisits
17 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
🔸 Part: "hurry up, no time for parts check-ins." But then we meet the starving prisoner, and do a nice unburdening. Sorry about call quality, I'm d...
63: Aizhan A. revisits
15 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
🔸 This is self connecting with parts! 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): Multiple parts. - The ones that want to immigrate. ...
62: Sonya A. - first call
13 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
🔸 A lively convo. Sonya knows this dictator part all too well. I get into some explaining, as this part is very no-nonsense and has little trust in...
61: Casey A. - first call
09 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
🔸 Casey is a friend. A compulsive-eating part won’t speak, then vanishes entirely. Perservering, she finds something miraculous. We laughed! We c...
60: Molly A. revisits
03 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
🔸 Minds blown! This call has it all. She thought the part was her! And I love hearing that she's doing the work with the 6-year-old. 🔹 Part (Lo...
59: Jo A. revisits
01 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
🔸 Efficient! Fear around feeling so good! 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): - afraid part, teen - afraid Of going bac...
58: Me, James revisits
30 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
🔸 I'm very surprised to go to this place so fast. You can hear my energy shift when I realize the exile. Unburdened! 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Ra...
57: Aizhan A. revisits
28 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
🔸 A new approach - we're meeting at not-around-midnight for Aizhan. Parts from past calls still came up, but she has more Self energy to stay with ...
56: Emily A. revisits
26 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
🔸 An exile wants proof, and is answered. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): - a part like w teddy bear. - sternum ...
55: Aizhan A. revisits
24 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
🔸 Tension here! She's losing trust in me (or a part is). Are parts of mine reacting? 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): - Sa...
54: Jo A. revisits
22 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
🔸 A 5 year old exile brought back from a dark place. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): - The judge part that lives in the h...
53: Me, James revisits
20 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
🔸 So nice! I'm surprised by an unfamiliar part after I show up with what I assume are the usual problems that I either don’t want to face, or a...
52: Molly A. revisits
18 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
🔸 Whoa! I won’t ruin the suspense but it’s a great one, and only our second call! 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): - A...
51: Emily A. revisits
16 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
🔸 A celebration! An exile she hadn’t met before, unburdened. I say very little in this call. A good template for how to do IFS solo. 🔹 Part (...
50: Aizhan A. revisits
14 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
🔸 We're way off-script! Starting with tears, and a cacophony of parts vying to be heard. Despite the sadness, fear, doubt, Aizhan communicates with...
49: Jo A. revisits
12 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
🔸 "If the sadness comes out, we'll be punished. It's not ok to be sad"... A protector is comfortable being uncomfortable . We try a couple new appr...
48: Me, James revisits
10 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
🔸 Jo is practitioner! And guess what, I'm nervous! Nervous I might want her to do something differently and not know how to say it, or that I won’...
47: Molly A. - first call
08 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
🔸 The most efficient call? Too efficient? The longing sounds exile-y to me, and I’m being more insistent about not going to exiles with first-tim...
46: Emily A. - first call
06 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
🔸 Emily has significant IFS experience! She is quick to touch-in to a vulnerable exile part. Still, I encourage her to stay with the protector: the...
45: Jo A. revisits
04 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
🔸 A scary clown with sharp teeth in her stomach and shoulders, afraid of the monster. Thinks she’s a teen... We're going in. 🔹 Part (Location...
44: Me, James revisits
02 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
🔸 Jo is Practitioner! I'm still nervous, but the session is smoother. A familiar exile (fear of success?) shows up, and I vow to go straight for it...
43: Aizhan A. revisits
28 Feb 2022
Contributed by Lukas
🔸 Not an IFS session, this is what it looks like when we decide not to do IFS. We're both early risers, and because our time zones are 11 hours apa...
42: Alinda A. revisits
26 Feb 2022
Contributed by Lukas
🔸 Powerful. She's new to IFS, she's in tears, and still the intuition is there, Self knows how to heal. We meet the part that is not ready to allow...
41: Lisa A. - first call
24 Feb 2022
Contributed by Lukas
🔸 A fast paced first-call. Fun! We meet a protector and its exile, dealing with the pain of being alone. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doin...
40: Alinda A. - first call
21 Feb 2022
Contributed by Lukas
🔸 Alinda is ready to meet younger parts, but it's our first call, so I’m being cautious & insisting that we spend some time with protectors. ...
39: Me, James - first call
19 Feb 2022
Contributed by Lukas
🔸 Jo is practitioner! I'm nervous! How much should I share on the pod? How much should I guide Jo? It's a lot to think about. This was recorded in ...
38: Jo A. revisits
18 Feb 2022
Contributed by Lukas
🔸 Jo meets the battered woman, the grandmother, who can only clean and clean and hope to not be battered! We set her free! I'm short on time on thi...
37: Will A. revisits
15 Feb 2022
Contributed by Lukas
🔸 NOT an IFS session, instead we talked *about* IFS, & how to check in. I give some instruction. The First half of call is just hearing from hi...
36: Aizhan A. revisits
15 Feb 2022
Contributed by Lukas
🔸 We get more targeted this time. Aizhan goes to an exile to be with it in the way it seemed to need. We discuss changing external circumstances. A...
35: Jo A. revisits
15 Feb 2022
Contributed by Lukas
🔸 We start with a 15 year old, learn about a 10 year, and finally find the curled up 3 year old. Exile: Unburdened. I'm a little lost in the beginn...
34: Shecoya A. revisits
15 Feb 2022
Contributed by Lukas
🔸 She's back! I'm a little covid-y in this one. If the ending seems more awkward than usual, it's because we decided to talk non-IFS stuff, so that...
33: Aizhan A. - first call
15 Feb 2022
Contributed by Lukas
🔸 Aizhan is in Kazakhstan (and perhaps the first subscriber to the podcast!) The time difference presents some challenges. And I forgot to write a ...
32: Zoe A. revisits
15 Feb 2022
Contributed by Lukas
🔸 I'm nervous because I think I did a bad job the first time we talked. It helped that I expressed that to her pre-recording. 🔹 Part (Location,...
31: Will A. revisits
15 Feb 2022
Contributed by Lukas
🔸 Parts + parts + parts. We start with the target: a numbing part. But others won't step back. We go through the process with a different part, but...
30: Will A. - first call
18 Jan 2022
Contributed by Lukas
🔸 Will is not entirely new to IFS. His parts have names already. I'm hesitant to work with the 3 year old at first, so we spent some time picking a...
29: Jen A. - first call
18 Jan 2022
Contributed by Lukas
🔸 Is this outgoing part a firefighter? No trouble tapping-in, always interesting when working with someone for the first time. 🔹 Part (Location...
28: Jo A. revisits
18 Jan 2022
Contributed by Lukas
🔸 Understanding the weed smoking part, protecting her from the depressed, lay on the couch part. We get to know them both and the external family t...
27: Zoe A. - first call
18 Jan 2022
Contributed by Lukas
🔸 I'm a little shook, feeling out of my depth here. Zoe presents with wanting to know an inner child. This one sent me back to the drawing board. #...
26: Angela A. revisits
18 Jan 2022
Contributed by Lukas
🔸 There is a scared child in there. Our 2nd call, we go deeper, but still building trust. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs):...
25: Angela A. - first call
23 Dec 2021
Contributed by Lukas
🔸 An analyzing part has a good deal of input, but we'll talk again and I'll be better prepared for it : ) 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doi...
24: Stacey A. - first call
23 Dec 2021
Contributed by Lukas
🔸 Great for a first call, I direct us toward the protector instead of the exile. Worst audio quality but it improves dramatically after the first ~...
23: Fernando A. revisits
23 Dec 2021
Contributed by Lukas
🔸 I make assumptions and push my point too much. Sorry, Fernando! 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): Anxiety, but it is prot...
22: Jo A. revisits
23 Dec 2021
Contributed by Lukas
🔸 With an exile here. We're now at the point where we hardly have to exchange words. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): The ...
21: Colleen A. - first call
23 Dec 2021
Contributed by Lukas
🔸 Notice the shift from "explainer" to compassionate, I love it. An author and podcaster in to horror, halloween... 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rat...
20: Christopher A. revisits
14 Dec 2021
Contributed by Lukas
🔸 I found this conversation difficult. Christopher gets into story-telling, analyzing, and my patience dwindles. But there was a shift somewhere in...
19: Jo A. revisits
14 Dec 2021
Contributed by Lukas
🔸 Efficient! 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): Curled up in chest. It wants her to work, creatively, to overcome depression...
18: Dawn A. - first call
14 Dec 2021
Contributed by Lukas
🔸 Dawn is a visualizer, which makes for a good story, and can make my role easier. She has no trouble connecting and communicating with her parts. ...
17: Fernando A. revisits
14 Dec 2021
Contributed by Lukas
🔸 Our second call. The first one broke and is probably lost forever. It starts a little slow, but gets good! 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be ...
16: Clare A. - first call
14 Dec 2021
Contributed by Lukas
🔸 The lost Episode! This is the first IFS session I recorded for a public audience, before the podcast was conceived. I had been doing regular peer...
15: Jarvis A. revisits
03 Dec 2021
Contributed by Lukas
🔸 Great convo, I think we were both in an excellent space. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): Dull ache in lower back... may...
14: Christopher A. - first call
03 Dec 2021
Contributed by Lukas
🔸 A suicide attempt left him with a traumatic brain injury. He has names for many parts, including the part of himself that tried to kill him, and ...
13: Andrew A. - first call
03 Dec 2021
Contributed by Lukas
🔸 Andrew brought a lot of curiosity and came alive in this call, but we didn't get past the frame of wanting to explain and "overcome". 🔹 Part ...
12: Chloe A. - first call
03 Dec 2021
Contributed by Lukas
🔸 Chloe's experienced w energy work, is able to connect with and work with her parts quickly. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Nee...
11: Jo A. revisits
03 Dec 2021
Contributed by Lukas
🔸 As usual Jo goes deep! Unburdens an exile 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): 15 yo protector / exile, fear of abandonment....
10: Pattiya A. revisits
14 Oct 2021
Contributed by Lukas
🔸 We meet an exile, and it's very sweet. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): The pain and sadness of feeling not pretty enoug...