Live IFS

199: Justine A. revisits

10 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 "...it's all made up" The Skeptic doesn't trust me, the process, or Justine. Justine takes the direct route, attains Hubble-vis...

198: Rachel A. revisits

07 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 Worthlessness parts came up as result of last call. We talk about our work together, and concerns about public Discord conversations, then attemp...

197: Mio A. revisits (J Edit)

06 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 "Everything being taken away" a 2 year old in a hurricane, whose wants haven't mattered. We discuss "agendas". 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather...

196: Olivia A. revisits (J Edit)

05 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 Possible ADHD diagnosis brings up "Not good enough" exile. "Blocking / fear of freaking out" and "Agenda" show up along the way. Strategies for s...

195: Aandraya A. revisits (J Edit)

01 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 A grownup protector-in-exile: "back to bed", sick-mentality.  🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): P: Superhero, form...

194: Ian A. revisits

27 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 Salvation. The Devil. A sliver of light. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): Doubt about getting into routine "Last is no...

193: Daniel A. revisits

25 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 "The truest essence" 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): Anger and grief (one part) lead us to "tired of being judged", ...

Pro: Islena Faircrest with Jo A.

21 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 Somatic therapist & yoga teacher since 2000, Islena Faircrest is an IFS & trauma informed transformational coach, serving clients globall...

192: Mio A. revisits

19 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 Feeling threatened by her daughter. Hopelessness, judgement, the 13 year old, and the parts she protects. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be d...

191: Olivia A. - first call

18 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 Shaming, anxiety and plenty of others have objections to Olivia's excitement about IFS. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs):...

190: Jo A. revisits

15 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 Anxiety about the job that starts next week, but coming from a different part. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): 12 yea...

189: Justine A. - first call

13 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 The "thinking part" holds it all together, and points to an exile in utero. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): Thinking ...

188: Rachel A. revisits

11 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 A check-in check-in and the judge judge. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): The judge of others The judge of the judge ...

187: Aandraya A. revisits

09 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 The pressure of going along with external, inconsistent beliefs. We pick up where we left off and find an exile (who protects another) to unburde...

186: Ian A. revisits

07 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 Addiction, survival, the animal in the zoo, conscious blending. 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: We didn't set out to do IFS today so I did...

185: Jo A. revisits

05 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 Concerns about a new job, that she won’t know what to do and will be shamed. A three-year-old who always has to know things (or pretend to) go...

184: Daniel A. revisits

03 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 Through a sandstorm we arrive with an exile*, murderous rage says it wants out, and we get creative in handling overwhelm.  *I assume 🔹 ...

183: Rachel A. revisits

01 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 Still a part feeling left out. 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: Feeling rushed during unburdening is tough, but I take responsibility for i...

182: Brandon A. revisits

30 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 Another lightning round. A Protector → Protector → Exile setup? The driven one, the void, and what lies beneath: a lot of pain. 🔹 Part (L...

181: Mio A. - first call

28 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 "I'm getting a new friend!" Mio has done a little parts work with a therapist, but never like this. Powerful.  She said later: "This session...

180: Hanna A. revisits (J edit)

27 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 Two teams battle over an exile who doesn't want to be alive. We go for it. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): The Direct...

179: Daniel A. revisits

26 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 A new record? 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): 1. Afraid of overwhelm 2. Fear of being misunderstood Exiles: Worthl...

178: Rachel A. revisits

24 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 "Oh it's you, mommy" 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): The possessive part doesn't want to share (the attention) The 6...

177: Ian A. revisits

22 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 Abstract! A manager/critic that can't go along with contentedness. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): Toothy gear. Thro...

176: Aandraya A. revisits

20 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 Parts-work hangovers, and meeting the critic. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): Critic, maybe overlapping with Anger U...

175: Jo A. revisits

18 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 “How many parts are there? When are we going to be done?” A protector wants Jo to just get over it. We spend half our time with him and the o...

174: Daniel A. revisits

16 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 Romance, Demons, invisible walls and black magic. Laughter, tears, revenge. Fear of rejection, worthlessness, overwhelm. Distrust of self. And a ...

173: Rachel A. revisits

14 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 Rachel is happy! Is that a part? Is anyone getting left behind? ----- 🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form 😀Come chat with ...

172: Frauke A. - first call

12 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 Frauke is about to receive an award, but a part doesn't want it. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): In chest, hot Conce...

171: Rosie A. revisits

10 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 It's good. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): "Too much me, too much need." Badness. Yearning for heartfelt connection. ...

170: Jo A. revisits

08 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 Layers. A part shows up as two. The 25 year old and the 3 year old. 3 year old tells us more fears, we witness more than ever before. Guilt of “...

169: Daniel A. revisits

06 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 After negotiating with multiple protectors, Daniel makes contact with the exile. My prediction from last time seems to be bearing out. I believe ...

168: Rachel A. revisits

04 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 "She had everything she needed... except love". We revisit the part from last time, or one related; a possessive part, not wanting to share (frie...

167: Aandraya A. revisits

02 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 The migraines went away! Then came back... We go to the exile behind this angry protector, and to that disastrous night it all started. 🔹 Par...

166: Curtis A. revisits

31 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 “Are you gonna take care of me?” The heavy, responsible part holds everything up by holding others down. We find an infant and get to unburde...

165: Jo A. revisits

27 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 The room full of babies, we dive straight in and do some unburdening. 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: Time will tell ----- 🗳 Send ano...

164: Daniel A. revisits

25 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 Daniel is all in. He's developed the habit of regular parts work, is cataloging them all, deciding who to go to next. I'm deadweight! ----- 🗳...

163: Rachel A. revisits

23 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 That exile is still happy! (Though a part wants to feed her answers). We do half an unburdening with the lonely tween. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear...

162: Aandraya A. revisits

21 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 Work with the overachiever seems to have paid off. Now we meet the cause of the migraines.  **Aandraya texted me 5 days after our call: migr...

161: Anne A. - first call

20 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 Anne plans to coach using IFS and is ready to work with the big issue threatening her marriage. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age,...

160: Jo A. revisits

19 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 A different approach leads us to the overwhelmed woman and the people pleaser. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): Overwh...

159: Daniel A. revisits

16 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 "I never felt like anyone was there for me because I never felt like I was there for myself" Daniel followed up with me after the call saying “...

158: Rachel A. revisits

12 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 Exile #2: "The sling and everything"  (Rachel was exhausted after our last call. Turned out to be covid.) 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather...

157: Rosie A. revisits

10 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 Protectors on hiatus. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): The infant. Less than one year old Infant can't say what she n...

156: Aandraya A. - first call

08 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 Aandraya's "wonder woman" part is losing hope; after 25 years of migraines, and 10 years of Lyme disease, the anxious-avoidant "just stay sick / ...

155: Jo A. revisits

06 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 A room full of babies, and a critic we've met, but haven't quite helped. I'm driving and somewhat scattered, fortunately we combine self energy. ...

154: Daniel A. revisits

04 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 Putting others first brings out feelings of victimhood. We also spot "against forgiving myself" / "the underdog", "the emperor", and the exile be...

153: Rachel A. revisits

03 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 It's time to bring that little girl home from the hospital. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): Protector: You shouldn't ...

152: Zach A. - first call

02 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 Zach's been in therapy since age 16 and just left his Level 3 IFS practitioner after 6-7 sessions. We spend less than half the call doing parts w...

151: Hanna A. revisits

29 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 Hanna believes she is neurodivergent, but getting a diagnosis in her country is extra challenging, so without a diagnosis she prefers to stick to...

150: Jo A. revisits

28 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 Lots of protectors upfront. We work systematically, bringing some fresh insight from a 3 year old. We cover new ground like dealing with possible...

149: Daniel A. revisits

26 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 The anger and the anxiety. We let them play. 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: I told Daniel it would be fine for him to be late to our meet...

148: Rosie A. revisits

24 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 Figuring out figuring out. An attempt at direct access. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): The figuring out part, the ot...

147: Rachel A. revisits

22 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 Rachel is overwhelmed. We talk to anger, and circle exiles. I introduce the "self like" caregiver concept.  🎓 What I'd like to do differ...

146: Ian A. revisits

20 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 Recent public speaking is stressing Ian's system. We perform an exorcism. (kidding!) 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): ...

145: Jo A. revisits

18 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 A failed drug test provides a nice opportunity for parts work. We go straight to a 15 year old exile. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing...

144: Luke A. revisits

16 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 Now what? 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: I had to keep attending to my own sad part: "Well, guess you don't need me anymore". More import...

143: Daniel A. - first call

14 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 "Just being compassionate turned this little kid completely around." Daniel is relatively new to IFS. We meet lots of parts. 🔹 Part (Location...

142: Brandon A. revisits

12 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 The twelve year old feels lost in space, the drive to fill it protects, the organizer responds. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age,...

Pro: Percy Ballard with Molly #2

08 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Percy is a Harvard-Trained Psychiatrist, IFS Psychotherapist, and soon to be sex and relationship coach. His work with Psych Garden includes Psychede...

141: Rachel A. revisits

06 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 Worthlessness leads to anger leads leads to tears. We're covering a lot of ground, and contacting an exile, though parts blend with each other an...

140: Jo A. revisits

04 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 Jo: I can't do check-ins on my own. Me: prove it. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): Fear, three year old Head, clingin...

139: Rosie A. revisits

03 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 Rosie came back! I demonstrate yet again that the practitioner doesn't have to be very clever for IFS to work; the healing comes from you. Let's ...

138: Luke A. revisits

02 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 Why do I do this? It's been a month: has Luke's work with the exile paid off? With a bundle of new diagnoses, is parts work relevant? And about t...

137: Alexander A. revisits

30 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 A part that hates disappointing people, including me. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): Around the heart Afraid of bei...

136: Brandon A. revisits

28 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 Brandon does it his way. I feel like a passenger on an excursion far from the beaten path, but with a driver I trust completely. I play 'cou...

Pro: Emily Kerpelman with me, James

26 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Emily is a Personal Development Coach and Level 1 Certified IFS Practitioner.  Her coaching method is centered around listening, providing guidan...

135: Jo A. revisits

24 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 ""You're not allowed to have fun"" part, we learn more about where that comes from. Plus babies. But first a followup: the ""no boundaries"" part...

134: Rosie A. - first call

22 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 A whirlwind of parts. I scramble for footing. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): Alone, not good enough → Prove I'm good...

133: Rachel A. - first call

20 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 Rachel sees an IFS therapist, but thinks they may have hurried through some steps (protectors before exiles). We get to know those protectors, an...

132: Curtis A. - first call

18 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 Productivity > stress > freeze > flatten/avoid. Amazing how similar these patterns are in so many of us, and how profound an introductio...

131: Brandon A. revisits

16 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 We aim for the angry firefighter, but managers don't want us to go there. The exile is so close. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age...

130: Jo A. revisits

14 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 New parts? Sexual harassment triggers Jo’s firey protector, who could relax if this “afraid to set boundaries part” wasn't so afraid… the...

129: Luke A. revisits

12 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 The Exile. We’re at full power. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): The exile, the boy in the sandbox Age 4 or 5 Need...

128: Elena A. revisits

10 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 A part says “your crazy”, but an irritated protector doesn’t want us to go there. It then reveals an exile of helplessness. We also meet a ...

127: Ian A. revisits

08 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 Got 'em! 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): Exile: "I've been waiting here all my life" Age 10 It's not ok to just be...

126: Brandon A. revisits

06 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 The anger. The isolator. The little boy. The disassociator. Bullied, misunderstood, alone, yelled at, bored. We got a great map, and make contact...

125: Jo A. revisits

04 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 The little boy is at it again. Busy busy. Some wandering around trailheads, then connection is formed. We both try to get creative around killing...

124: Luke A. revisits

02 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 Rage shows up when it's not wanted. How is it connected to the sprinter, the panic, the black hole of worthlessness? And did he have that con...

123: Alexander A. revisits

30 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 What does a firefighter see? 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): Addicted to internet/YouTube. right side the terror…...

122: Jane A. - first call

28 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 Jane's been with an IFS therapist for 6 months, so when she shows up today with an exile, we go straight through. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rat...

121: Ian A. revisits

26 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 This is different. I try to make good on my commitment to followup with an exile, but that "shoveler" was from the wrong notes, wrong caller. Sor...

120: Jo A. revisits

24 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 Jo reports some healing since contacting the baby; what a shift In this protector! We do a lot of just talk about IFS. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear...

119: Luke A. revisits

22 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 Is LiveIFS a cult? Deception, marriage. Parts are still a'rumblin', but compare this to our first call. He's doing the work; will it pay off? 🔹...

118: Alexander A. - first call

20 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 What is boredom? We start with a big bundle and quickly zero in, creating a new relationship and insight with a protector. Afterwards, Alexander ...

117: Elena A. - first call

18 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 The critic is here now, at work, everywhere. Elena has been playing with IFS for a few months. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, ...

116: Hanna A. - first call

16 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 The rage, the suppressor of rage, and the hurt part underneath them. With her experience and clarity, a part of me worries I'll waste her time, j...

115: Jo A. revisits

14 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 New parts! Distracted from self care. Exiles protecting exiles, the 4 year old keeps the baby from crying. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be ...

114: Amanda A. - first call

12 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 Amanda sees an IFS therapist, though they also use other modalities. Her familiarity with the model shows; we advance through many layers here. S...

113: Brandon A. revisits

10 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 Lightning Round! Can we get anywhere in 20 mins? 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): 🎓 What I'd like to do differently...

112: Luke A. - first call

08 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 A royal rumble of parts! I'm sure a few of my own are in the mix. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): 🎓 What I'd like t...

111: Parker A. revisits

07 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 A bullying critic fights the one who wants romance, and has no idea who the Self is. We're led to a 5 year old, abandoned. Suicidal and achy part...

110: Jo A. revisits

04 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 Feelings of worthlessness, sadness. I'm trying some new things. Careful not to push past protectors. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing,...

109: Ian A. revisits

02 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 The neurotic part and the bullies. The 10 year old, neglected and alone. We jump around a lot in this convo, perhaps well-outside the IFS framewo...

108: Brandon A. revisits

31 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 Lots of parts and thoughts at first. Tension between the pleasure seeker and its critic. There's an exile behind it all, but we stay with protect...

Pro: Jen Patterson with Amanda A.

26 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Jen is a Level 3 IFS Practitioner, a former scientist with a doctorate in biology, and a CrossFit coach. She’s committed to helping people both find...

107: Molly A. revisits

24 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 "So used to not being wanted." We negotiate with two protectors: "don't-trust" and its critic. They're trying to solve the same problem, and let ...

106: Parker A. revisits

23 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 An exile behind convulsions, afraid of dad, ashamed of desire to kill him. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): overwhelme...

105: Jo A. revisits

22 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 It’s been 2 months since we last talked. We're jumping around a bit in this convo. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): ...

Pro: Rebecca Lellek with me, James

21 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Rebecca is a Clinical Hypnotherapist, founder and director at Montana School of Hypnotherapy, and a Level 3 Certified IFS Practitioner. Her passion is...