Live IFS

300: Genie A. revisits

30 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 0-1000: The Avalanche. And a house without secrets. 🔹 Parts: P: Distractors: "It's all in the past" Don't want to hear abo...

299: Mio A. revisits

28 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 Sitting quietly. "Not facts or stories, but feelings." 🔹 Parts: Enveloped in shame, zombied. A 7 year old in blue overalls. Needs ...

298: Clare A. revisits

26 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 Live Live IFS! Out of control: A tsunami, prairie fire, & baby. “I just don’t see how that could possibly work”.  🔹 Parts: P: Hea...

297: Bee A. revisits

24 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 Puzzle pieces: Sex, "Hurry", Dad 🔹 Parts: P: Walk fast, hurry, don't miss a thing. Bull in a china shop to get to healing. Ple...

296: Charlotte A. revisits

22 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 Stay in the lines, you two 🔹 Parts: P : Get it done, the fighter pilot P: The teacher, her bosses, her students, her pension, her drinks…...

294: Scott A. revisits

20 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 The peacemaker(s) and the frustrated part(s). 📌New milestone: On our last call, my 363rd recording, I forgot to hit record. 363 in a row! See...

293: Justine A. revisits

18 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 Showstopper: Life & IFS — without Live IFS?? 🔹 Parts: Groundless, panic. Not sleeping. Not playing around. I don't have the answ...

292: Olivia A. revisits

16 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 Can parts cause inflammation? Disapproval from on high: “I'm going to be found out, punished, I'm the one who’s wrong”. 🎓 What ...

291: Genie A. revisits

14 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 Sitting with the part that gets annoyed with my mother! 🔹 Parts: P: Annoyed with mother, putting it all in storage, like a hoarder. Unsafe, ...

290: Mio A. revisits

12 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 "Am I evil?" Buried under layers of shame. Why so heavy handed? 🔹 Parts: Grandpa, mom, and me (Don’t kill her, shame her, and 7 ...

289: Clare A. revisits

10 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 The tallest tree; grounded. 📌 Clare followed up: Still have “my girls” (the first one with the tools and the second one from the box) wit...

288: Bee A. revisits

08 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 "You're handicapped and that's ok." It replaced my mother. 🔹 Parts: Pull to go. Frustrated with: Don’t go there. Let me...

287: Brandon A. revisits

06 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 Conquering fear. To be or not to be (Self) 🔹 Parts: 7 to 10 year old, incapable, not enough Early teens, distraction, addiction P: give u...

286: Theresa A. revisits

04 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 The limit; driving over. 📌 Theresa followed up: been feeling more connected, curious, playful in my massage practice the last few days, even w...

285: Jovan A. revisits

02 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 “This isn’t what life is supposed to be like” 🔹 Parts: 6yo. Never want to grow up. Terrified, confused, depressed. Isolated, infinitel...

284: Scott A. revisits

31 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 A perfect day for nervous. Don't feel joy, don't feel good, or then you'll talk and get in trouble. 🔹 Parts: Focus on one thing...

283: Justine A. revisits

29 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 Round 2: A way out. You are fear, and I am here. 🔹 Parts: It hurts so much that she doesn't matter enough. 14 yo doesn't want to be...

282: Olivia A. revisits

27 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 A clearer view ... a sense of hope ... things are better than they’ve been, but … 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: Maybe I should ha...

281: Charlotte A. revisits

25 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 Touch or drown; a statue worn down by unwanted touch. Self is the water, Self is the lifeguard. 🔹 Parts: P: The school teacher, manager of ...

280: Genie A. revisits

23 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 I am the host now! Testing Mother Bear energy.📌Genie followed up: https://liveifs.com/2023/06/23/genies-blanket/ Hi James, Well that was an ...

279: Mio A. revisits

21 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 Guilt & Shock. What is the connection between "Dont stop me" & Shame? 🔹 Parts: Don’t stop me needs: not to be stopped or...

278: Clare A. revisits

19 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 "We used to feed ducks at the pond, when I was little" 🔹 Parts: The 14yo: Independent, but wishes she knew things, had more tools,...

277: Bee A. - first call

17 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 “You’re gonna believe, and you’re gonna be alone” Muzzling the dreamer. 🔹 Parts: E: Dreamer has a broken heart. Armored, heavy, dis...

276: Justine A. revisits

15 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 “Im here with and for her, she’s not alone anymore” Justine can do it! 🔹 Parts: “I don’t know how to do this” The good girl, D...

275: Theresa A. revisits

13 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 My little demon child. Making it right when parts-work goes wrong. 🔹 Parts: E: The 7 year old (aged throughout unburdening). Mom gave away c...

274: Olivia A. revisits

11 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 Making time to grieve. Can love save the day? 🔹 Parts: The un-deserver "Accept the facts: you could have done more, you didn't, so...

273: Jo A. revisits

09 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 Laughter, tears, & good news! We both bring something new today. 🔹 Parts: P: stay busy! The boy controlling robots E: world is too cru...

272: Scott A. revisits

07 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 "A warmth in my heart" for "lights-out, don't go there."📌 Scott followed up:Thanks for the session once again. I feel ...

271: Brandon A. revisits

05 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 "A sense of awe" Another speed run. 🔹 Parts: P: The Dreamer/Planner (fear of boredom and alone) P: The Consumer/Addict (fear of ...

270: Charlotte A. - first call

03 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 "What kind of mother...?" Humiliated and betrayed: a mother in exile. Charlotte has been playing with IFS for over a decade, and is a f...

269: Genie A. revisits

01 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 Wonderland, a family story, and the part they left out. 🔹 Parts: P: Concern. Smooths the path, keeps from tripping up, stumbling around. Alw...

268: Mio A. revisits

30 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 "How dare you!" Continuing our last convo, we encounter the Rage in Red. 🔹 Parts: P1,2: The Tranquilizer and Pushing away P3: T...

267: Clare A. revisits

28 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 “There’s something coming”. Meandering, parts meet Self. 🔹 Parts: P: The steel core, intellectual, the stopper (but also saying don’...

266: Jovan A. revisits

26 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 How am I supposed to act in this situation?* 🔹 Parts: P: Laughter, afraid of being excluded P: You should be more serious, afraid of a ter...

265: Theresa A. revisits

22 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 The shit kicker and- Oh, a baby on my knee! *Part shares a song: https://youtu.be/SI8RmHw1QpY 🔹 Parts: P: 27yo, leather jacket, tough. If n...

264: Olivia A. revisits

20 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 “Acceptance is a cope, not a strategy”. An airtight gang of 3 (or more) fights to keep the love out. Love finds a way. 🔹 Parts: The Age...

263: Jo A. revisits

18 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 Judgement around appearance/weight. Legacy and cultural burdens. 🔹 Parts: Not emotional eating, but the part that judges appearance Face, t...

262: Justine A. revisits

16 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 "Prove it!" & "This is yours" The keeper of keys, an ally. 🔹 Parts: The top guy, the Keeper of keys still asking to ...

261: Scott A. revisits

14 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 Fear of grief. "...there's a hole in my chest and people can see inside of it" 📍Scott followed up: ... to help our work together...

260: Genie A. - first call

12 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 Background rage toward injustice is causing problems. Genie has listened to several Live IFS calls, done some therapy, but never an IFS Session....

259: Mio A. revisits

10 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 Pushing to claim my space keeps me up at night… Romance, boundaries, and a surprise visit from The Tranquilizer (dissociation) 🔹 Parts: ...

258: Clare A. revisits

08 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 Close the book, just move on, have fun! But something is holding back... 🔹 Parts: P: Just move on, have fun! And the other side of that pa...

257: Theresa A. revisits

06 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 Acquiescing, Going along with unwanted touch. And James gets feedback. 🔹 Parts: Assertive (but always shut down) say no to this touch! Acqu...

256: Jovan A. revisits

04 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 "...to self-discover without shame". Meeting an exile & more very welcome questions about the process. 🔹 Parts: P: Terrified....

255: Scott A. revisits

02 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 "No longer defending myself from 'bad' thoughts", ruminating. Appreciating the beauty of protectors. 🔹 Parts: Don’t go t...

254: Olivia A. revisits

30 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 Existential, Fear of death. Building on her connection with task manager, Olivia is ready to meet those exiles! Protectors, on the other hand... ...

253: Jo A. revisits

28 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 "The one part that doesn't belong": a part resembling dad, enraged by children not listening or fighting. 🔹 Parts: 5 year old...

251: Justine A. revisits

24 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 James talks with the part that doesn't. 🔹 Parts: Keep the doors locked. Needs to be seen and appreciated first 🎓 What I'd like ...

250: Me, James - Solo

22 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 "A nice boy" 📍At around 14m I resolve the awkward 3rd (4th?) person pronoun stuff. And sorry about the background noise, I was playi...

249: Brandon A. revisits

20 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 Be competent or feel worthless. 🔹 Parts: P: Competent critic. Fear of failure. Thinks Brandon is 7. Wants to defer to: P: Distractor, dayd...

248: Theresa A. revisits

18 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 Co-parts-working for ADHD. 🔹 Parts: P: The pusher/rusher. Uses clinching anxiety to get it all done, to the point of not being able to enjo...

247: Mio A. revisits

16 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 "A different way of looking at sadness" 🔹 Parts: E: 8yo. The guilt pushes down the rage and mourning. Loss of dad, grandmother a...

246: Scott A. revisits

16 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 "This wasn't in the plan and nothing has worked". When Self doesn't know what to do. 📍 Context: You're joining us after...

245: Olivia A. revisits

14 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 The tangled battle for effortless calm. Fun conscious blending, Self plays hide-and-seek. 🔹 Parts: The task manager is at the surface, may...

244: Luke A. revisits

12 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 "Everything is so much easier" - a view from the other side(?) 🎓 What I'd like to do differently:Processing so many new perspect...

243: Jo A. revisits

10 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 Not all exiles are young. 🔹 Parts: P: Don't do creative stuff, Throat, Afraid of going off deep end, suicide, and pain of rejection. R...

242: Jovan A. - first call

08 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 IFS 101: (a.) Meeting a protector. (b.) Q&A, glimpses of most welcome parts. Jovan is new to IFS, but not the landscape. Diagnosed w ADHD an...

241: Clare A. revisits

06 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 The whirlwind wants to play, a pushy part gets in the way. -----🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form😀Come chat with us: Discor...

240: Justine A. revisits

04 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 IFS for headaches. What is this crazy magic? 🔹 Parts: P: The headache. Blocks out the emotional pain of: E: Failing to relate. People aren...

239: Mio A. revisits

02 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 "I'm bad, I'm bad, I'm bad for rejecting my mother." Another exile? 🔹 Parts: E: Guilt for rejecting mother. Obscured...

238: Olivia A. revisits

31 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 "Nothing will make anything right." The biggest scariest exile and the stressed-out captain. 🔹 Parts: E: 9yo. Anxiety, dread. &q...

237: Theresa A. revisits

29 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 "You will not receive love, just give up" on romance. 🔹 Parts: P: "Just give up" is persistent but not dramatic. In the...

236: Rosie A. revisits

27 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 Direct access of the Reacher. After listening back to this (about 3 months and sessions later) Rosie followed up: "...noticed this reaching ...

235: Scott A. - first call

25 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 “I’m a mess” The feral 7-year-old in me says: no describe. 🔹 Parts: Avoidant 7yo on the edge of the forest (two parts?). "Just ...

234: Justine A. revisits

24 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 IFS is hard! Full body fear and anxiety. Who is it? 🔹 Parts: Fear and anxiety, a monster, "my inner fire, power", yellow. Not a...

233: Mio A. revisits

21 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 "Cursed, untouchable, incredibly lonely, and desperate... she rejected her mother because of the way she was touching her." 🔹 Parts...

232: Theresa A. revisits

19 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 "Don't do dumb stuff!" Don't give people false hopes. All seems straightforward, and exile-less. I suggest we keep searching. ...

231: Jo A. revisits

17 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 Picking up where we left off, hopelessness for itself and all the hurt children out there. 🔹 Parts: Jobee, age 3 🎓 What I'd like to...

230: Aandraya A. revisits

15 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 "I can't just be alone" an exile unburdened. Implicit direct access. 🔹 Parts: P: Figure it out, get the secret information, a...

229: Justine A. revisits

13 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 Judgement and the parts stifling it. “Relaxing into love with somebody is too dangerous”, “no man can be trusted”* *Justine says I may ha...

228: Mio A. revisits

11 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 The youngest part, a baby frozen in fear. Can Mio help without knowing the history? 🔹 Parts: The world is not safe, nobody will come to hel...

227: Theresa A. revisits

09 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 Influence, "going along with things I didn't want to do." "I didn't think those other things had anything to do with this....

226: Olivia A. revisits

07 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 Body image, attractiveness, weight, exiles, and the joy of sadness. 🔹 Parts: Manager, fears it can't do its job with conflicting info ...

225: Daniel A. revisits

05 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 Two calls in one: 1. Not really an IFS call, just an update on how Daniel's doing. 2. Going with the flow didnt work, The Control Nazi defen...

224: Justine A. revisits

03 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 "You're making this up!" Head-to-head with the cynical skeptic. 🔹 Parts: The skeptic. Repeats "you're making it up&...

223: Mio A. revisits

01 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 The fear of sex & intimacy; too painful & shameful to explore for the protector-protector. 🔹 Parts: The wall, the fortress. Protect...

222: Theresa A. revisits

29 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 Unburdening an exile behind "Quitting weed and alcohol will make me boring." 🔹 Parts: PvP: Be structured vs be fun. Concerns ab...

221: Jo A. revisits

27 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 Anxiety, “no time for self care”, from a part we haven't met before? 🔹 Parts: Anxious, buzzy productive Afraid of loneliness that...

220: Rosie A. revisits

25 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 Frustration takes credit for all important work. The exiles must wait. 🔹 Parts: E1: Panic when "they're not even trying to under...

219: Justine A. revisits

23 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 Can we alleviate this headache with IFS? And unkept promises; the thinking part has resentment. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age...

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22 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

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218: Mio A. revisits

21 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 "You're ugly, you're nothing." Pretty/ugly, anorexia, and parts with secrets. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, ...

217: Aandraya A. revisits

19 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 Simple, but not easy. When parts try to do IFS. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): Task master. Angry, intimidating. Ti...

216: Theresa A. - first call

17 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 Yearning for romance vs Stop trying. Eyerolling wants patience. We glimpse multiple exiles? *Theresa has ADHD, is into body-work and has listened...

215: Olivia A. revisits

15 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 "You can't handle what I have to say... Who are you to even do this?" The cringe, the doubt, the exile. Round 2. 🔹 Part (Locat...

214: Jo A. revisits

13 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 “You’re too broken to live in this world” gets between Jo and her work with an exile. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Nee...

213: Jo A. revisits

13 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 Jo forgot what part to check in with, I think that's new. An indication that we are onto something very important? We learn about the stepdad...

212: Jo A. revisits

13 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 The part that plays dad! 🎓 What I'd like to do differently:I don’t know why we didn’t find this sooner… Maybe we're missing some...

211: Jo A. revisits

13 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 The comic-book villian, the wicked witch, the judge's judge, and a 3 year old gets a name. Jo had a list of parts, but we went to some new p...

210: Jo A. revisits

13 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 "It has to be 100%": judgmental / insistent on Jo having a particular meditation practice. Afraid if we don’t get it right the mons...

209: Justine A. revisits

11 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 "Reveling in her fury", an unburdening. Seems we have (enough) trust from the sharp thinker, the cynic, the fear. 🔹 Part (Location,...

208: Mio A. revisits (Wrong order, should go before 202)

09 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 Making space for the exile. Slow is fast. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): "Don't take it away from me, leave...

207: Daniel A. revisits

07 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 As many parts, but now one at a time. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): The caretaker Self hate and anger “stand u...

206: Rosie A. revisits

05 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 "I'm not ok with me". Rosie shares 2 techniques she's discovered for connecting with exiles. 🎓 What I'd like to do diffe...

205: Olivia A. revisits

03 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 Productivity, distraction, the burden of being too much, a bullet in the heart. What is fun? What is love? Attention, listening, cringe, the fee...

204: Justine A. revisits

01 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 The familiar knot in the solar-plexus, the binging firefighters, the skeptic "this is all made up, don't trust your intuition", th...

203: Rachel A. revisits

30 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 Begin again. A focused conversation, starting with targeting an exile "not good enough". 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Ag...

202: Mio A. revisits (Wrong order, should go after 208)

28 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 The caretaker and associates have been pushed to their limits. We finish what we started with that exile. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be do...

201: Daniel A. revisits

26 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 Parts we may have bypassed: The caretaker, keeping other feelings from being overwhelmed. "When I allowed it to express it anger, it got muc...

200: Olivia A. revisits

23 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

🔸 Going direct with "Afraid he's right". We also talk grief, forgiveness, and accountability. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be d...