Matthew Cox | Inside True Crime Podcast
Border Arrest Nightmare: Single Mom Arrested at the Border
Tue, 14 Jan 2025
Megan shares a heartbreaking story about motherhood, addiction and overcoming adversity. Megans LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/megan-racer-a82720224?challengeId=AQHZnY-D35BX-QAAAYi6Nq4LpTTmxNwNY2_rnX20Cy3RBcC4Rfxc-kwBVe4wQiZoVox4ArtahqGU4OfLxaNPhSLpQQmM_BjV9Q&submissionId=d02d2dc4-648b-6817-fe81-3d755771ed1a&challengeSource=AgFbU9VccUf16wAAAYi6Num3VVnSTofUCJL6OxeBCqceuqjjczD8_PdzKyTsSxs&challegeType=AgHd9YT1d-B07QAAAYi6Num6-iAlHJkC6hEprasfW6mreofQJYMnk3g&memberId=AgGUPDXNbbmXqQAAAYi6Num-OlERVL5ZoKaqM0x-r2KVnQ0&recognizeDevice=AgHpDfGEvrcymgAAAYi6NunBQEfoJT6BODtuZcWxXbMggjjKDVp1 Follow me on all socials! Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/insidetruecrime/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@mattcoxtruecrime Do you want to be a guest? Send me an email here: [email protected] Do you want a custom "con man" painting to shown up at your doorstep every month? Subscribe to my Patreon: https: //www.patreon.com/insidetruecrime Do you want a custom painting done by me? Check out my Etsy Store: https://www.etsy.com/shop/coxpopart Listen to my True Crime Podcasts anywhere: https://anchor.fm/mattcox Check out my true crime books! Shark in the Housing Pool: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0851KBYCF Bent: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BV4GC7TM It's Insanity: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08KFYXKK8 Devil Exposed: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08TH1WT5G Devil Exposed (The Abridgment): https://www.amazon.com/dp/1070682438 The Program: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0858W4G3K Bailout: https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/bailout-matthew-cox/1142275402 Dude, Where's My Hand-Grenade?: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BXNFHBDF/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1678623676&sr=1-1 Checkout my disturbingly twisted satiric novel! Stranger Danger: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BSWQP3WX If you would like to support me directly, I accept donations here: Paypal: https://www.paypal.me/MattCox69 Cashapp: $coxcon69
Chapter 1: What led Megan to a life of addiction?
I learned at a young age that if I say the right things and I do the right things, then I can get away with things. When I was first getting loaded, like I would start to escort, right? Like that was the perfect way for me to figure out how to make money. I remember looking down at the... Right. And I just thought like, wow.
And I got these butterflies, you know, and up to this point, I was very anti doing anything like that. And I just remember getting these butterflies and I look down again and I'm like, man, I don't think that's going to be enough for tonight. My first instinct is to get loaded and then to be a mom. Like it's it's always been wired that way.
And I was presented with an opportunity, an opportunity to go down to Mexico to make some money if I were was willing to transport some drugs back. 12 o'clock at night and she gets a phone call that like her daughter's just been arrested. And she has to come get her grandkids from Mexico. Like, I'm going to go back to Mexico. Like, I'm going to cross the border. Like, my kids are OK.
I'm across the border. I'm going to find somebody who has a . I'm going to kill somebody.
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So let's go ahead and just kind of start from, you know, the beginning, which is like, you know, like where were you born brothers, sisters, you know, parents, were they in the picture or that sort of thing?
OK, yeah, I was born in Phoenix, Arizona. I've been out here. I'm still in Arizona my whole life. My parents were both born out here. My kids were born out here. So I have three generations worth of people living in Arizona. I have one sister who's about seven years younger than I am. So I started my addiction journey much sooner than she did. But we're both in recovery. and are sober today.
But, you know, I grew up with both my parents in the household. Um, the, the house was, I mean, my house was loving, you know, like I knew my parents loved me and I knew that they could provide well for me. And, um, there just wasn't like connection, you know, there wasn't a lot of emotional connection going on in my household.
And for me, it was a really challenging thing as an adult to start then forming those connections with people, especially even after having kids. It was this cycle that I had to consciously break. Autism runs in my family and I'm, I'm 100% sure my dad's just undiagnosed on the autism spectrum. So as much as he was able to provide and he was a good provider, he just emotionally wasn't available.
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Chapter 2: How did Megan's childhood influence her relationships?
Uh, so yeah, I'm in my senior year college and I have one class to graduate, to get my bachelor's in criminal justice. And then, you know, to, to go to law school and I quit, I quit my senior year.
and my my drug habit got really really bad at that point i i think the specific reason you quit because it was getting in the way of my drug using okay everywhere you fail you were failing you just couldn't do both no no i i think a lot of it is just a failure to succeed Again, I don't think I'm worth much at this point, especially failed relationship after failed relationship.
And where I'm putting my worth is in relationships. So my senior year rolls around. And so I do have this bad drug habit, right? I'm living with a man who I don't really like. And then I find out I'm pregnant. And just a combination of everything. I don't want to do life anymore. Don't want to do this world anymore because the drugs are supposed to make me happy. I'm not, I'm not happy, you know?
And so I go through our pregnancy and it's, it's just tumultuous with him. You know, it, he turned, he ended up becoming a heroin addict at this time during my pregnancy. And I'm, I'm trying to quit using oxys while I'm pregnant. And it's like, I can't, I can't stop. Um, about seven months into my pregnancy, like we're no longer talking at this time. I'm like back at with, with my mom.
I ended up quitting, um, using the opiates at like seven months pregnant with my daughter. And, um, I, I, I have my daughter at nine months, you know, like with, with my pregnancies. Right. I didn't tell my mom I was pregnant. She didn't like Sean. She never approved of him. You know, nobody in my family liked him. Nobody's liked any of the men I've been with, but, um,
So I finally tell her around, you know, seven months pregnant that I'm like, hey, you're going to have your first grandkid, by the way. And it shines. And, you know, she was just like, oh, there wasn't there was never like excitement around my pregnancies. So I guess talking about those things is really hard. It wasn't a fun time for me, like being in my 20s and being pregnant and
you know, looking back at it now, I really missed out. Like I missed out on, on the joy and the looking forward to having a kid. Cause I can't get my shit together. My mental health sucks. And like, I keep wanting to get loaded and now I have a child on the way.
Your mom didn't, I thought you said like you were living with your mom. She didn't notice you were pregnant.
Well, I ended, I was about like seven months pregnant when I moved in with her, but no, you, I, you can't really tell that I'm pregnant when I'm pregnant. Wow. It takes a while.
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Chapter 3: What were the turning points in Megan's addiction?
Um, but if not, like, you know, what's out there, you know, and, and I was able to make like, um, a name for myself in this industry, like a good name. You know, one where they're like, oh, Megan Racer. Yeah, I know her. She's I love her. Right. Like, oh, she's really good at what she does. And it's like a male dominated industry.
You know, I thrive in places where people tell me I can't do something. I'm like, great. I'm so glad you did that because I'm going to show you why I can. And, you know, I get to make pretty decent money doing what I do. I get to travel doing what I do. I get to meet tons of people. that have lots of letters behind their names.
And, you know, I've been to school for years and years and years, and I'm respected by them. And this is such a different, it's just such a transition from where I was almost five years ago. You know, I'm coming up with my five years sober and the five years to the day that I was arrested in July. And it just, it kind of,
amazes me because I spent 14 months total locked up right and that's with like detention and prison and all that like 14 months on a 30-month sentence with then seven months home confinement and from the time I was arrested in 2018 in July to now um like I I'm kind of shocked you know I'm shocked at the things I was able to make happen
Where people find excuses, I find reasons to push harder, you know, and I love having motivated people around me that are just like that. I love people who have stories and pasts and they have a history with being knocked down and getting back up like those are the most those are the people I want to work with.
That's the person I want to work side by side with, you know, like the owner of the company I worked for has spent a good portion of his life in prison. And that was like, oh my God, you know, and he's just a smart, genuine, like good hearted, good morals and value kind of person. It was just like, you're my new mentor, you know, like you did this really fucked up kind of crazy stuff and early on.
And now you're like doing something with it. You're making a difference. you're helping people like you're helping moms and dads get their daughters back and their sons back. And that's so important to me. And I don't, I wouldn't have been able to get to this point and make an impact like I do without, like you said, without getting arrested that day.
Right.
You know, if I wasn't arrested, I probably wouldn't have made it. I was shooting up a couple of grams of heroin a day was a bad meth habit, you know? Like if I didn't kill myself, like I probably would have put my kids in harm's way and harmed them. You know what I mean? Like God intervened in that moment and was like, you're going to have to go through all this pain, Megan.
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