In this episode Sal, Adam & Justin speak with Adam Lane Smith, a licensed psychotherapist and highly sought-after relationship expert. Why he does what he does today. (4:45) What is Attachment Theory and how can it affect you as an adult? (5:59) Cooperating in conflict. (11:14) Breaking down the 4 Styles of Attachment. (14:09) Why are the women the first to ask for a divorce? (19:55) Old knowledge that has been lost. (23:36) Why men need to feel powerful. (28:06) Understanding the order of operations with your partner. (32:12) Which attachments attract each other? (35:41) Marriage glue. (41:05) The four pieces of relationship security. (44:32) The murkiness with the division of labor. (49:56) The poor messaging to young men. (54:47) Why women are in a no-win circumstance right now. (58:57) Why kids are so anxious and depressed. (1:01:43) The ramifications of too much access to pornography. (1:04:05) Why a booty call does not turn into a marriage. (1:06:48) The biggest challenges with modern life. (1:10:13) Why we are more like chimps than bonobos. (1:11:52) His thoughts on dating apps. (1:15:44) The four characteristics of a good father. (1:25:03) How most parents do not have a relationship with their kids, they manage them. (1:28:40) Tactical rituals to be a better father. (1:31:09) Why phones are one of the BIGGEST killers of sex. (1:37:05) The role of the father during pregnancy. (1:41:00) Why women with attachment issues have issues breastfeeding. (1:45:40) The importance of leading your partner into healthier attachment. (1:48:10) Run your marriage like a business and it will thrive. (1:49:55) Why homeschool? (1:53:57) The value in having oxytocin bonding routinely with your partner.(1:56:22) The pros and cons of psychedelics. (2:00:37) Related Links/Products Mentioned Visit The Attachment Bootcamp for an exclusive offer for Mind Pump listeners! **Promo code MIND at checkout for 50% off** Visit Legion Athletics for the exclusive offer for Mind Pump listeners! **Code MINDPUMP at checkout for 20% off** June Promotion: MAPS Cardio or Summer Shredded Bundle or the Bikini Bundle 50% off! **Code JUNE50 at checkout** Exhausted Wives, Bewildered Husbands: Why your marriage is hurting, and how to blossom as a couple - Book by Adam Lane Smith Is 'Opting Out' The New American Dream For Working Women? Vasopressin - Hormone | Everyday Health Sex at Dawn: How We Mate, Why We Stray, and What It Means for Modern Relationships Frans de Waal | Speaker | TED Different: Gender Through the Eyes of a Primatologist – Book by Frans de Waal Mind Pump Podcast – YouTube Mind Pump Free Resources Featured Guest/People Mentioned Adam | Relationship Psychology (@attachmentadam) Instagram Jordan Peterson (@jordan.b.peterson) Instagram

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