Can You Be Friends with Your Ex?
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Can you really stay friends with an ex?
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What grounds do you need to consider before being friends with an ex?
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If you're wanting civility with someone who's wanting intimacy, it doesn't work. If you're wanting civility with someone who wants drama, it doesn't work. And I know you know who I'm talking about, right? You know you've tried in situations to be the civil one. to be the peaceful one, to be the conscious one. But because they didn't want that and they didn't want that from you and they didn't want to mirror that, it didn't work out that way. Hey everyone, welcome back to On Purpose. I'm your host, Jay Shetty. Thank you so much for tuning in. I'm so grateful that you've decided to reconnect, whether you're hiking, walking, walking your dog, cooking, driving to or from work. Thank you so much for being here. i was speaking to a friend the other day and she asked me this question she said to me can you be friends with your ex and my response was who are you talking to and it's one of these questions that i get asked a lot and when this particular friend asked me this question there was a part of me that was worried but there was a part of me that was open
And I think it's because for years, my quick response has been, no, not really. And then I realized how different this question was for people who had kids together, for people who had shared friends together. There were different versions of it. And I think often we can discount or dismiss the opportunity without recognizing the factors. So I thought it was important to do an episode about it because I think it's a lot more complex and subtle than we often give it credit for. Now, before we even get started, there are grounds for not being friends. Before exploring this question, I want to establish some ground rules. Not every ex deserves friendship. Did your relationship end in a peaceful manner? Did your ex treat you well?
Are they dangerous, volatile or toxic and an untrustworthy person? Were you ever mistreated or did you ever feel unsafe? Were you disrespected or taken advantage of emotionally, sexually or financially? Were you lied to or cheated on? If any of these things are true, I would avoid even considering becoming friends with your ex. But assuming things ended kind of mutually and acceptably, or as well as possible considering you did call it quits, here's a rule of thumb. You're more likely to be friends with an ex if you and your ex had a nice breakup. But here's the thing. It will still always be complicated. Even if things ended well, understand that becoming friends with an ex is a tricky, landmine-filled journey.
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Chapters
8 chapters
1
Can you really stay friends with an ex?
0:00–1:21
2
What grounds do you need to consider before being friends with an ex?
1:21–7:16
3
What are the four core reasons people stay friends with their exes?
7:16–13:38
4
How do unresolved feelings affect friendship with an ex?
13:38–22:39
5
What signs indicate that friendship with an ex won't work?
22:39–24:34
6
How to set boundaries when attempting friendship with an ex?
24:34
7
Why is emotional maturity important in friendships with exes?
12:55
8
How to manage shared friends after a breakup?
5:56–31:01
Speakers
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