E278: How to Get Out of a Relationship Rut: Your 4-Week Plan
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Why do so many couples feel stuck in a relationship rut?
Forty-four percent of people, that's almost half of people said yes currently in a rut. I also asked, like I gave one of the options was not now, but we've had one in the past. Forty percent of people said that they have had at least one rut in the past and never had a rut, five percent of liars.
Wow. That I mean great great for the five i you know, it's five percent of people that haven't been in relationships very long.
Yeah. Like we've been in like the first year or two. Six months.
Hello and welcome to the Pillow Talks Podcast. We're your hosts Vanessa
and Xander Marin.
I'm a sex therapist with over 20 years of experience.
And I'm just a regular dude. We share the ups and downs in our relationship while giving you step-by-step techniques for improving yours.
Make sure you subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally doable sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors, and so much more. It's the sex education you wish you'd had. If you are feeling like you're in a rut in your relationship right now, you are in the right place. Today's episode, we're gonna do something different that we I don't think we've ever really done something exactly like this before. We have talked about relationship ruts before because they are surprisingly common. I think when you're in the middle of a rut, It's very easy to feel embarrassed and ashamed and feel like other people don't wind up in this kind of place.
But they actually
everybody's happy. Everybody's happy but me. It's it's happening for everybody else and we're just stuck.
They're very common. That doesn't make them any less enjoyable. Like doesn't feel good when you feel like you're stuck in a rut with your partner. So we decided to come up with a four week structured game plan for getting out of your rut.
Yeah, 'cause who doesn't want a good game plan?
Yeah, I mean, uh, you know, we've given tons of advice before about like different ways to get out of a rut, but I thought it would be useful for us to like really come up with a super specific plan of like, okay, four weeks, here's what we're doing in each week. We're also trying to make this really manageable. This is not like go on a two-week vacation and then everything will be great. Um, these are, you know, little activities, bang for your buck kind of stuff. But But a specific plan for helping you get out of that rut.
Yeah, I I think that's so important because I think one of the ch most challenging things in relationships is that everything can feel so big. Even all the advice can feel really big. And it's like, okay, yeah, we're in a rut. I know we gotta do we gotta communicate better. I know we gotta have more emotional intimacy. I know we gotta have more physical intimacy. I know we gotta have more date nights. But like how the heck are we gonna do all of that? It feels so impossible. feels like you know you've like fallen really deep in in a hole and it's like I can't reach the top I can't jump out I can't climb out like how do I even start getting myself out of this? I I know that I need to get out of the hole, but I don't know how to, which is why you know we just wanted to break this down into actual, okay, you're gonna do this today.
You're gonna do this midweek. You're gonna do this at the end of the week. All right, next week you're gonna do this. So So I we're super excited. For this, but before we actually start sharing that game plan with you, I gotta tell you this week's review of the week. Reviews are so important and are so helpful in helping our podcast grow. So what we do is we pick a review every single podcast. Um, it's either a review for the podcast itself or for one of our products. And if you hear your review read aloud, then you've won a free masterclass from us. All you have to do is DM us on Instagram. Instagram or email us at info at vmtherapy.com to claim your prize. And if you want to leave a review, well, you can uh DM us about any of the courses of ours that you've purchased, or leave a review on Apple Podcasts.
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