E273: How to Try New Sex Positions Without Killing the Mood
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How can couples start introducing new sex positions after being together for years?
I I think what many women don't realize is that like there are many shades of an erection. Like
Is that gonna be your book? The Many Shades of Erections by Xander Moran.
That's good. The the Shades of Erection.
Hello and welcome to the Pillow Talks Podcast. We're your hosts Vanessa
and Xander Marin.
I'm a sex therapist with over 20 years of experience.
And I'm just a regular dude. We share the ups and downs in our relationship while giving you step-by-step techniques for improving yours.
Make sure you subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally doable sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors, and so much more. It's the sex education you wish you'd had. This week we are talking about trying new positions in the bedroom. And we're gonna tell you all about it in a minute, but this has been a very hot topic for us recently because we have been updating something and having to do a lot of our own personal research on new positions.
Tough guys, tough work.
But I kinda wanna rat on us. Rat rat us out? Yeah,
rat us out.
Rat on us. Rat us out. Sounds a little weird. I wanna tell on us.
Okay.
Something a little embarrassing. What? Okay, so we've been trying out a lot of new positions, right? And we uh we like scoured the internet because there are some incredibly weird websites out there with some of the worst positions I've ever seen. And we were like, you know what? We gotta try 'em all. Maybe, hey, maybe they're on to something. Maybe we're the dummies thinking like, look at this ridiculous, like AI, super creepy website. Like, maybe we're the ones wrong and these positions are actually great.
It's possible.
Spoiler alert, they were all terrible. None of those made the cut. But we also turned to our community. We asked people, like, hey, if somebody gives us a position that we have never heard of or tried before, we're gonna pick one winner and you're gonna win a prize. And we got some really interesting ones from our community. So we've been trying out a whole bunch of positions, and we recently have found someone, some that were winners. And so Xander and I We were adding them to one of our guides. Again, we'll tell you more about this like a little bit later. But we are getting them custom illustrated and we are working with our copywriter to like help us write really fun copy about like how to get into the position and how to move and all this like fun stuff for it.
Do you know what I'm talking about? I've n
I've I'm I'm listening with baited breath.
Okay, so actually there are two embarrassing things. One is that in order to get all these custom illustrations made, we had to take photos of ourselves in the positions. Fully clothed, by the way. Fully clothed. But like it was Like as much work as I've done on getting more comfortable with my own sexuality, with my body, with our sex life, as much as we like talk about our sex life on this podcast, on the internet, in front of literally millions of people, I was so embarrassed taking those photos. Well, I mean Well, I mean,
it makes sense 'cause we don't show our sex life. That's not a part of our business. Despite all the creepy people that do ask for that online. We don't do that.
So I actually like When I was sending them, I so we took the photos and then I either like cropped our faces out of it or sometimes I put like a big smiley face emoji. Nice. So I'm like I'm just like I I don't want somehow if these photos get lost on on the illustrator's end or something, like I don't want these photos of us like in sex positions out on the internet. So that was like embarrassing. Also we had to like send them to all of our employees too. Okay, help us write the copy for this one. Like, you know, I I would give our copywriter all the instructions on it and she's like helping me make the copy like more fun and playful. So it's just like sorry, this is a weird part of your job that you have to receive photos of your bosses like in sex positions.
But the second thing, the more embarrassing thing, is that there this was this happened over the course of several days.
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Chapters
6 chapters
1
How can couples start introducing new sex positions after being together for years?
0:00β7:23
2
What is the most underrated sex position (that isnβt missionary)?
7:23β19:27
3
Why does switching out of missionary often kill the mood, and how can you avoid it?
19:27β29:54
4
What should you do when your partner goes soft while transitioning between positions?
29:54β41:23
5
Which pillows or pieces of furniture make new positions easier and more comfortable?
41:23β51:33
6
How long should you give a new position before deciding itβs not working?
51:33β1:00:15
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