In this powerful and eye-opening episode of Please Me, we're diving into the uncomfortable but critical topic of how abuse often hides behind the mask of love, jealousy, and control. Host Eve sits down with Shawn Schutt and Amanda Courier, co-hosts of the Touchy Subjects podcast, to unpack the hidden layers of domestic violence and sexual assault—and how abusers manipulate relationships long before physical violence ever occurs. Shawn and Amanda specialize in breaking the silence around topics most people avoid—and today, they’re exposing the subtle yet dangerous tactics abusers use to gain power and control, from isolation and jealousy to phone surveillance and emotional manipulation. In this episode, we discuss: The true definitions of domestic violence and sexual assault How jealousy is often the first red flag—and why society normalizes it The role of identity and how marginalized communities face unique risks Abuse tactics like isolation, phone control, and manipulation disguised as "love" Why leaving an abusive relationship is far more complex—and dangerous—than it seems Steps to safely leave an abusive situation and how to seek support Whether you're navigating a relationship, supporting a friend, or just want to be more informed—this is an essential conversation everyone should hear. Trigger Warning: This episode contains discussions about domestic violence, sexual assault, and manipulation, which may be distressing for some listeners. Resources & Support: Vote for Eve Hall as Best Educator and Best Educator Website at the ASN Awards: If you’re enjoying the show and feel it’s been helpful, I’d be honored if you could take a moment to vote for me as Best Educator and Best Educator Website in this year’s ASN Awards. Your support means so much to me! Vote here: ⁠2025 TOP 8 FINALIST | 2025 ASN Awards⁠ Connect with Eve: Support the Podcast: Become a ⁠Patreon⁠ member for ad-free episodes, exclusive content, and early access Website: Please Me Online - Reach Eve and stay connected. Interested in a free 15-minute consultation to talk about coaching for health or intimacy, or to explore physical therapy services for sexual health concerns? First, book your appointment here: calendly.com/pleasemebyevecreations/10-min-call-me-on-owwll. Then, download the OWWLL app and use my free call code EH576472 so we can connect directly on the platform. I look forward to supporting you on your personal intimacy journey! If you or someone you know needs help, contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 or visit thehotline.org. Additional Episodes Mentioned:Diddy Party Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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