REAL AF with Andy Frisella
1036. Q&AF: Potential Vs Execution, Handling Rapid Growth & Becoming Mentally Tough
15 Jun 2026
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Chapter 1: What is the main topic discussed in this episode?
What is up, guys?
It's Andy Frisella, and you're listening to the show for the realest. Say goodbye to the lies, the fakeness, and delusions of modern society, and welcome to motherfucking reality. Guys, today we have Q and AF. That's where you submit the questions, and we give you the answers. DJ, tell them how they can submit their questions.
Yeah, guys, you can email your questions in to askandyatandyforsella.com. You can also click the link in the description below, submit them there, or just drop them in the comments of the Q&A videos on YouTube.
If this is your first time listening, we have shows within the show. We've got Q&AF, which you're about to hear, and then we have CTI, which stands for Cruise the Internet. That's where we put topics on the screen. We speculate on what's going on. We make fun of all these idiots in the world. Then we talk about how we the people have to solve these problems going on in the world.
Sometimes you're going to get real talk. Real talk is just 5 to 20 minutes of me giving you some real talk. And then other times we have 75 hard verses. 75 hard verses where someone comes on the show who has completed the 75 hard program and transformed their lives. They talk about how they were before, how they are now, and how they've utilized the 75 hard program. to make that transformation.
If you're unfamiliar with 75 Hard, it is the initial phase of the Live Hard program, which is the world's most popular mental transformation program in history. And it's also free. You can get it at episode 208 on the audio feed. Again, that's 208 on the audio feed only. It is not on YouTube. There's also a book available called The Book on Mental Toughness. You can buy that at andyfercella.com.
It's not free, hence why I said you can buy it. But there's a whole bunch of extra information. If you're someone that likes the ins and outs and likes to know the whys and the hows and the nuts and bolts of how everything works, it's a great book. Sometimes it's in stock, sometimes it isn't because we're always selling out of it.
If you're that kind of person, you go to the website, buy the book. We're happy to have your support, but it's absolutely not necessary. You can get it for free at episode 208. And then another thing is we are the largest show in the world that does not run ads. The reason we don't run ads is because I don't want anybody to question why I'm saying what I'm saying or try to keep it real AF here.
All right? So... Do us a favor, man, and help us grow the show. That's all we ask. Put a lot of time, a lot of energy, a lot of money into producing this show for you guys. And we just ask that you help us grow it. So if it makes you think, if it makes you laugh, if it gives you a new perspective, if you think it's information worth sharing, do us a favor and don't be a hoe. Share the show.
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Chapter 2: How can I stop wasting my potential and start executing?
And now he's a fucking legend. OK, if you did something for 30 years, you'd be pretty fucking good at it, too. And that's the reality that people don't understand. They don't understand that it takes way longer than you think. It costs way more than you think in terms of effort and life experience.
what you think is sacrifices, which are actually investments if you follow through, but also just acknowledging that the one skill that you actually lack that's keeping you from being able to go from that dream to reality outside of just choosing what you want is you haven't learned how to adhere to a plan. okay, which is called discipline, all right?
And once you fix that one skill set, the ability to draw out a plan and adhere to it and stick to it, now you're in a position of power because most people can't do that. Most people lack the ability to stick to a plan long enough for the results to materialize. And If chefs did this, we'd have some shitty motherfucking food. Okay.
Just like cooking a meal and you go get a cookbook and it has a set of directions. If you lack the ability to follow the directions, how's your food going to turn out? Okay. Now, if you lack the ability to follow a set of directions over the course of your life, How's your life going to turn out? It's going to turn out by circumstance.
And that's why so many people think that they are not in control of what they actually do, when in reality, they're in control of all of the shit that matters. And we tell ourselves these stories over and over and over again about how we're not actually in control. But the truth is, you're just telling yourself that, A, because you may not have figured it out yet, or B,
You don't want to actually address the problem and become the kind of person that can follow a plan. So once you sort through all of this shit and you say and you acknowledge, all right, man, I don't have the discipline. I don't have the grit. I don't have the mental toughness.
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Chapter 3: Why do people struggle with execution despite having potential?
I don't have the tenacity and the fortitude. I don't have the ability to persevere past that first punch in the fucking face, okay? And the second and the third and the hundredth. Once you acknowledge that, you can start to become that kind of person. And once you become the kind of person that can not just follow through, but can get literally everything ripped away from them.
You can lose your home. You can lose your arm. You could fucking get sick. Bad things can happen. The weather can be bad. A hurricane can come fucking a blizzard. It doesn't matter. And you still continue to go. You cannot be fucked with you. Your success becomes inevitable because you refuse to quit and you have the skill set of following through.
especially when you don't feel like it and especially when everybody else quits and when you do that over the course of time you end up being the person standing on the mountain when everybody else went back down that's how it works and there's no magic to it dude it's not glory it's not
it's not romantic it's not fun all the time but i'll tell you what is fun what is fun is when you can look back and you can say i saw all this shit in my head 20 years ago now i'm living it that's fun So we got to be real about what it actually takes. And you ask what keeps most people, that's what keeps most people away from it, dude.
They can't acknowledge or they're ignorant to the fact that it takes a skill set that you must develop and practice and keep sharp over the course of your life. to make that dream happen once you've chosen it. And this is why when people, this is why we built LiveHard. This is why 75Hard exists because it's the number one problem that keeps people from success, okay?
It's not just about getting your body in shape. It's about sharpening the skill set of discipline. And you know, people who criticize 75 hard, they'll say things like, well, if it worked, you wouldn't have to do it twice. Well, I mean, I don't know, bro. Do you got to take a shower every fucking day?
You got to wash your nuts.
You know what I'm saying? Like, it's a perishable skill set. You know, you guys at the security company, you got to keep your shooting up. Oh, yeah. You got to practice shooting every week. If you don't shoot for four weeks, your shooting goes down. It's the same thing with musical instruments. It's the same thing with Training to run a race. It's the same thing.
And for some reason, society looks at these things and they think that they are traits instead of skill sets. And if you can make the mental shift and understand that your discipline is the most important thing that you can develop, and if you develop it, then keep it sharp. Once you get that, dude, you're not limited by anything.
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Chapter 4: What are the challenges of managing rapid business growth?
Yeah, way more accessible, ironically. People were way more accessible. Well, now everybody's, you know, they want to fucking... posture and they want to charge and you know but like bro you got to remember like these guys who were running these studies and back then no one gave a about them these are just dudes sitting in their office running studies on you know uh muscle protein synthesis and
know fat loss and like all these different things so like i'd figure out where the they were and i'd call them on the phone they were probably excited yes yes and so i just did what i had to do to talk to credible people to to increase what i knew and then you know after a number of years you know the next day the next day i knew more next six months i knew more the next three years i knew a lot more and after 10 years i knew what the i needed to know
But you went. Yeah. I love it, dude. I love it. Guys, Andy, our third and final question, Andy. Question number three. Andy, I'm 31. And I recently went through a rough stretch. Work was stressful. Money was tight. And there were some family stuff going on all at the same time. What bothered me wasn't the situation. It was how I handled it. I got short with people.
I stopped taking care of myself and basically abandoned every habit I'd built. It made me realize that when life gets hard, I become a completely different person. So how do you build the kind of character that doesn't disappear the second things get difficult?
Well, you got to invest in building yourself into that kind of person. That's what we talk about with LiveHard. If you can only operate when everything is good, I hate to break it to you, but you're not going to be able to operate most of the time as an entrepreneur because most of the time as an entrepreneur, shit's burning the fuck down.
Even when everybody's smiling and they're pretending it's good, there's so much bad shit happening that you're trying to solve, you're not going to be able to be effective. So you have to understand, and you already do, you've already learned the lesson. Understand this. By you asking the question, you already have figured out the answer.
Most people would not have the awareness to understand that I need to fix how I reacted in this scenario so the next time I don't react that way. That's a pretty high level of awareness that most people do not have. So having that level of awareness is a very good sign that you have what it takes to be successful long-term.
You had a problem, you had a situation, which by the way, every entrepreneur goes through this. They have life too, man. People get sick, their dogs get sick, they get in car accidents, bad shit happens, the economy changes. Fuck, dude, you could go on and on and on and on and on.
The secret to being a great operator is that you have to be able to operate effectively at a high level when shit is not going well. And so if you're someone who can only operate when things are going well, you're going to get killed by everybody else that can operate no matter what. So, by the way, there's very few people like that. But it can be built. It can be trained. It can be acquired.
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Chapter 5: How can I build mental toughness in difficult times?
But what better reason to train yourself to handle that shit now? So then when it does come and there is a lot on the line, you can keep your shit together when you know everybody else is quitting. Every single successful that I consider successful entrepreneur operates at a high level no matter what's happening around them, okay?
If they get derailed, if they get bad press, if fucking something happens, a natural disaster, it doesn't matter. Their shit still gets done at a high level and oftentimes at a higher level when things are challenging because they understand that this is a test that they have to pass in order to keep the space between everybody else.
You're not the only motherfucker that bad shit's gonna happen to you. It's gonna happen to all your competitors. It's gonna happen to everybody that you're in business against.
and you want to be the person that when that shit happens you can push right through it and knowing that every single time they don't you're gaining more market share you're gaining more momentum you're gaining more ground that's the game that's how people start out at zero with
you know let's say a hundred other competitors and then at year five you know these people have gone through hard times and there might be 50 left at year 10 there's more hard times and then there might be 10 left and at year 20 there's two left And you're fucking winning and everybody else is out of the game. And that's how it works, dude.
So training yourself to be one of these people who could push through these difficult times is not a nice thing to have. It's a requirement of long-term success. And all you have to do is realize that most of the things that affect your outcomes are always in your control. Okay? Yeah, people are going to fuck you over. Yeah, bad things are going to happen. Yeah, you're going to have a bad idea.
Yeah, the market's going to shift. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. But at the end of the day, you can control what you drink, what you eat, the information you put in your mind, who you associate with, all of these, how you move your body. These are the things that create the most effective weapon, which is you. You're the fucking weapon.
that allow you to push through so even when there's total chaos in your life if you can still stay in control of the things that are in your control you will keep the momentum moving forward while everybody else falls off most people will never understand this most people will go through a time like this person just said and they will say ah well fuck you know what
I got divorced, my fucking house burnt down, the economy shifted, and they'll just fucking quit. They just quit. Out of my control. Yeah, they'll just quit, dude. And that's not how it works. Those are the times that it's most important to get dialed the fuck in and make sure that you keep whatever the fuck you can and keep moving forward.
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