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Have you ever felt like you've always been anxious?Not because of one breakup or one traumatic event, but as long as you can remember, almost like you've "always been this way"?In this episode, I sit down with Haile Tanner, Family Constellation Facilitator, nervous system coach & emotional processing practitioner, to explore how anxious attachment, chronic anxiety, and repeating life patterns may be rooted in something much deeper than your own experiences.We dive into the world of Family Constellation Therapy, generational trauma, and legacy burdens, the unconscious emotional burdens that can be passed through families from one generation to the next. Together, we explore how these inherited patterns can shape your relationships, self-worth, anxiety, and even the way you experience love.Haile shares how Family Constellations invite us to ask a powerful question: "Is this actually mine?" We discuss why some people feel like they're carrying an invisible weight they can't explain, why the same relationship, emotional, financial, or health patterns often repeat across generations, and how healing can begin when you finally put down a burden that was never yours to carry.I also share my own experience of healing inherited family patterns through somatic therapy and how releasing ancestral burdens created shifts that years of insight alone never did.In one of the most vulnerable parts of our conversation, Haile also shares her personal journey of healing after two abortions and how Family Constellation Therapy helped her process grief, reconnect with herself, and find healing in a way she never expected.If you've spent years trying to heal your anxious attachment, fear of abandonment, or chronic anxiety but still feel like something deeper is keeping you stuck, this conversation offers a powerful new lens for understanding your healing journey.If this episode resonated with you, be sure to subscribe to The Anxiety Recovery Podcast, leave a review, and share it with someone who needs to hear that they may not be broken, they may simply be carrying something that was never theirs to begin with.If anxiety or anxious attachment keeps showing up in your relationships, even when love is there, your body may still be living in the past. I am an anxious attachment specialist & trauma informed somatic coach who helps people heal their anxious attachment using somatic healing & nervous system regulation.I have 4 spots open for 1:1 somatic support for people who are ready to reduce their anxiety/anxious attachment patterns. Somatic work helps your nervous system release old survival patterns that were formed before you had words, patterns like fear of abandonment, constant scanning, or feeling like you have to hold everything together to stay loved.When your body feels safe, connection no longer feels like something you have to earn.Book your free discovery call here to see if we’re a good fit to work together: https://calendly.com/freedomwithvalerie/discovery-callConnect with Valerie on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/healwithval/Listen to the podcast Val was mentioning about how she healed ancestral trauma through brainspotting with the Developer of Brainspotting - David Grand: https://open.spotify.com/episode/67Ky3uoNceomDC1stdT59R?si=930245b9da314ea3Listen to the podcast Val was mentioning about how she healed the Fear of Being Jewish with Ari Kantor here: https://open.spotify.com/episode/0nzOvzFkZzpkI6dpGQXv8e?si=6f0c95adf20a4485Join Haile's Anxious To Secure Challenge here: https://stan.store/HealingwithHaile/p/secure-by-summer-challengeConnect with Haile on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/healingwithhaile/?hl=enConnect with Haile on Tik tok here: https://www.tiktok.com/@healingwithhaileConnect with Haile on Youtube here: https://www.youtube.com/@HealingwithHaileCheck out Haile's Website here: Anxiousattachmentstyle.com