When Receiving Feels Unsafe: Healing the Overgiver’s Nervous SystemIn this episode of The Anxiety Recovery Podcast, Valerie dives into one of the most misunderstood trauma-responses she sees in anxious attachment:why receiving — support, love, money, care, ease — can feel unsafe, even when you deeply want it.Valerie is joined by Marina Triner, The Compassionate Somatic Coach, for a raw, nervous-system–centered conversation about the overgiver’s dilemma:you’re excellent at caring for others… yet the moment someone tries to care for you, your body tenses, shuts down, or goes into vigilance.Together, they explore:✨ Why receiving triggers danger signals in an overactivated nervous system✨ The early relational patterns that wire in “I’m the giver — that’s how I stay safe”✨ The somatic roots of guilt, shame, and hyper-independence✨ How women learn to feel responsible for everyone else’s emotional world✨ Sneaky ways overgivers sabotage support, love, and abundance✨ Why “being poured into” can feel overwhelming or undeserved✨ The deeper fear beneath the thought: If I let someone give to me, they’ll see how much I need… and they’ll leave.Marina also shares deeply personal stories from her own healing — moments when someone tried to support her and her first instinct was to reject it — and what those reactions revealed about her nervous system.You’ll learn:💛 How to uncouple receiving from threat💛 How to build capacity for support in real time — in the body, not the mindset💛 How to step into feminine receptivity without feeling weak, needy, or dependent💛 What it actually looks like to retrain your body to tolerate — and eventually welcome — love, money, help, and careIf you’ve ever said:“I’m so good at giving… but receiving makes me anxious,”this episode will feel like coming home to yourself.Connect with Valerie on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/healwithval/Connect with Marina on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/marina.y.t/Listen to Marina's Podcast "Deep Within Podcast" here: https://marinayt.com/podcast

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