The Baggage Reclaim Sessions

Ep. 121: The Release & Relief of Giving Up On Try-ing

05 Jan 2019

Contributed by Lukas

I just try so hard. I just keep trying. No matter what I do… No matter what I try… Sound familiar? In the first episode of 2019, Natalie shares a ...

Ep. 120: Dear Friend, Why The Distance?

14 Dec 2018

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In another episode from the friendship series, Natalie tackles the painful subject of when a friend distances or cuts off.  Instagram | Events | ...

Ep. 119: Happy Christmas, Ex! And By The Way...

07 Dec 2018

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It's that time of the year when there can be a temptation to text/Facebook message/call/gift your ex or someone you fell out with. In this episode, Na...

Ep. 118: Will The Real You Please Stand Up?

30 Nov 2018

Contributed by Lukas

People often get in touch with Natalie feeling as if they've been rejected for being the real them, but a bit of digging often reveals that they were ...

Ep. 117: Love Languages?

23 Nov 2018

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Natalie revisits the topic of needs, delving into why we all give and feel love differently and so we can't assume that people will know what we need ...

Ep. 116: Conflict Doesn't Have To Spell The End of a Friendship

16 Nov 2018

Contributed by Lukas

How confident do you feel about raising an issue with a friend? If you avoid talking about what's on your mind for fear that the friendship will end o...

Ep. 115: We Don't Have To Crush Our Self-Esteem This Season

09 Nov 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Starting to feel a niggling anxiety about family, your social life, how much money you have to spend or whether you're a "success"? It's that time of ...

Ep. 114: Have I Outgrown My Friendship?

02 Nov 2018

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Whether it's life stage, personal growth or the friendship stagnating, sometimes we feel as if we've outgrown a bond (or that our friend has outgrown ...

Ep. 113: Let Me Stop You Right There

26 Oct 2018

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Ever found yourself feeling trapped in a conversation or drama that you don't want to be a part of? Turns out, you don't have to hold yourself hostage...

Ep. 112: The Trouble With Emotional Blackmail

19 Oct 2018

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In this episode, Natalie delves into the tricky topic of emotional blackmail. What is it, which of our feelings alert us to its presence, how it manif...

Ep. 111: You Matter Too

12 Oct 2018

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In this episode, Natalie talks about getting on board with the need for self-care so that we can protect and nurture our emotional and psychological w...

Ep. 110: Jealousy & Envy in Friendships

05 Oct 2018

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Natalie delves into the topic of jealousy and envy in friendships, including recognising the difference, some of the reasons why they show up, why the...

Ep. 109: The Four Qualities

28 Sep 2018

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In this episode, Natalie explains how if we desire a mutually fulfilling relationship where our emotional needs can and will be met, we need to be, re...

Ep. 108: A Friend Should.....

21 Sep 2018

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In the second in a series of episodes this autumn on friendship, Natalie explores how and why some of the expectations we have lead to pain. It turns ...

Ep. 107: Getting Grounded About Intuition and Anxiety

14 Sep 2018

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In this week's episode, Natalie talks anxiety and intuition, and why we're bound to feel anxious in any situations where we've routinely ignored our i...

Ep. 106: Friendship Means Different Things To Different People

07 Sep 2018

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They say our friends are the family we'd choose for ourselves, but so many people who struggle with friendship tolerate unsatisfying relationships the...

Ep. 105: Sorry Seems To Be The Hardest Word

31 Aug 2018

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In this episode, Natalie explores why so many people experience pain over receiving (or not receiving) an apology. From feeling unworthy due to how so...

Ep 104: Did We (Or They) Meet The Threshold For Pursuing Romantic Interest?

24 Aug 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Chatted with somebody online or been on a first date that seemed so promising, only to experience crickets or hear that they don't feel the same way? ...

Ep. 103: Trial & Error, Baby!

17 Aug 2018

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Ever kicked yourself for missing out on something, convinced that it was the perfect person/job/house/opportunity only to discover later that you dodg...

Ep. 102: On Feeling Like A 'Failure' (Why Are You Still Single? Why Aren't You More Successful?)

10 Aug 2018

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In this episode, Natalie talks about confronting her fear of failure, fear of success.  Instagram | Events | Blog | Membership

Ep. 101: Help, Support, or Fuzzy Boundaries?

03 Aug 2018

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This week, Natalie explores the tricky subject of distinguishing between help and support so that we can maintain the healthy boundaries we need to en...

Ep.100: Are You Exceeding Your Bandwidth? (You're Not The Energizer Bunny)

27 Jul 2018

Contributed by Lukas

In this week's episode, Natalie explains the concept of recognising your bandwidth so that you can take care of your emotional, mental, physical and s...

Reconnecting

20 Jul 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Natalie is back with The Baggage Reclaim Sessions. What do you do when you have a grand plan? Discover that life might have other ideas in store for y...

Ep.99: Listening To Yourself & Knowing When To Call It

13 Oct 2017

Contributed by Lukas

In this final episode, Natalie talks about big decisions, why we get stuck, and why we can't see what lies up ahead but we've still got to take the le...

Ep. 98: Speaking Out About Speaking Out

06 Oct 2017

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Warning: This episode includes references to incidences that some listeners may prefer not to hear about or they may find triggering if they've experi...

Ep. 97: Focus On You, F-F-Focus On You

29 Sep 2017

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In this week's episode, Natalie talks about why focusing is about being discerning and committing, and why we allow ourselves to get busied up in all ...

Ep. 96: Is It Time To Go On a Social Media Diet?

22 Sep 2017

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In this week's episode, Natalie shares what she's learned from ten months of being on a social media diet. What started off as temporarily deleting Fa...

Ep. 95: Can We Talk For A Minute? Ambiguity's Not My Thang

08 Sep 2017

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, Natalie talks about what ambiguity is, the types of situation that can result, and how we can use our participation in an ambiguous s...

Ep. 94: We Are Allowed To Grow (Yes We Are!)

01 Sep 2017

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In this episode, Natalie talks about how despite exceeding our own or other people's expectations for us, it's as if we don't dare to believe it, inst...

Ep. 93: Am I Lying To Myself?

25 Aug 2017

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In this episode, Natalie talks about how to recognise when we're not exactly being truthful with ourselves, what causes us to do things like denying, ...

Ep. 92: You're Not My Usual Type (But You Could Be With Some Changes)

18 Aug 2017

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, Natalie shares a story about a relatively new relationship to illustrate why we mustn't ignore code amber/red warnings.  Email: podc...

Ep. 91: Who's In Your Entourage?

11 Aug 2017

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In this episode, Natalie delves into the topic of trust and being discerning about who we let into our Circle of Trust.  Email: podcast@baggagereclai...

Ep. 90: Pretending To Be Something We're Not

04 Aug 2017

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, Natalie delves deeper into this season's topic of 'closing the gap' by explaining roles, including why we adopt them, how they play o...

Ep. 89: I Am 40

28 Jul 2017

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In this episode, Natalie reflects on why she's felt a little wobbly about turning 40 and why she's approaching life with an attitude of adventure. Ema...

Ep. 88: You're Not The Boss of Me!

21 Jul 2017

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In this week's episode, Natalie talks about how we can inadvertently find ourselves turning people and things such as romantic partners, co-workers, b...

Ep. 87: Jaysus! What's Up With All The Life Lessons, Professor Life?

14 Jul 2017

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In this week's episode, Natalie explains why life keeps serving up the same lessons until we're ready to heed them and move on.  Email: podcast@bagga...

Ep. 86: I Can't Believe That You Don't Want Me

07 Jul 2017

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, Natalie talks about rejection, namely five scenarios where we have this sense of indignation that someone is saying no to us and what...

Ep. 85: Some Crumbs Isn't Better Than No Crumbs

30 Jun 2017

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In this episode, Natalie talks about how a pattern of neglect causes us to settle for far less than what we need, desire and deserve.  Email: podcast...

Ep. 84: Am I Interested In You?

23 Jun 2017

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In this episode, Natalie talks about why we sometimes struggle to recognise that we're interested in somebody because we're primed to feel attracted i...

Ep. 83: They Just Want Attention, They Don't Want Your Heart

16 Jun 2017

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, Natalie talks about the difference between someone who just wants to know that they can get your attention versus someone who wants t...

Ep. 82: Thick Skin & An Elastic Heart

09 Jun 2017

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, Natalie talks about what to expect from season 3 of the podcast and touches on some of the core Baggage Reclaim philosophies.  Email...

Ep. 81: Saying Hello

19 May 2017

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After six weeks of taking time to grieve, Natalie gives an update on where she's at and what's been going on.  Email: [email protected]  I...

Ep. 80: Saying Goodbye

07 Apr 2017

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In this episode, Natalie gives some insight into where she's at after losing her father.  Email: [email protected]  Instagram | Courses |...

Ep. 79: Too Bloody Nice For Our Own Good?

24 Mar 2017

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In this episode, Natalie asks whether we really need space in the form of a casual relationship or something else altogether, draws the line on being ...

Ep. 78: The Power of Books In Our Emotional Journey

10 Mar 2017

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In this episode, Natalie talks about why books can be an important part of our emotional journey, explains some of the reasons why we don't seem to re...

Ep. 77: Get Me Out of The Friend Zone!

24 Feb 2017

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In this episode, Natalie talks about why we get put in the Friend Zone and how to dodge it, plus explains why some people don't do apologies, and why ...

Ep. 76: Stop Over-Apologising!

17 Feb 2017

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In this episode, Natalie talks about why we can be fearful of allowing ourselves to be 'too happy', the over-apologising, and shares a couple of quest...

Ep. 75: The Common Denominator

10 Feb 2017

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In this episode, Natalie talks about #relationshipgoals, what it means when we acknowledge that we're the common denominator, and why whether we want ...

Ep. 74: What Would Future Nat Do?

03 Feb 2017

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In this episode, Natalie talks about the importance of considering how your future self would respond to a situation that you're in right now, plus ta...

Ep. 73: We've Come A Long Way, Baby

27 Jan 2017

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In this episode, Natalie talks about the importance of acknowledging your progress by acknowledging personal anniversaries of big decisions, 3 key are...

Ep. 72: Go Hug Yourself

20 Jan 2017

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In this episode, Natalie talks through ten key reasons that more than justify breaking up, shares how she navigated her way out of negative feelings, ...

Ep. 71: The Self-Care Sandwich

13 Jan 2017

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In this episode, Natalie talks about what we can learn from our stuckness with our career, shares questions and ideas to help you get your self-care r...

Ep. 70: What I Learned In 2016

06 Jan 2017

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In this episode, Natalie shares the key lessons she learned in 2016, sharing stories and anecdotes on subjects including how she had her first drama-f...

Ep. 69: We All Bounce Back At Different Rates

23 Dec 2016

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In this episode, Natalie talks about what interdependence means, the factors that affect our bounce-back rate, and how family's attitude towards 'borr...

Ep. 68: WDWBU #12 Dungeons & Dragons

20 Dec 2016

Contributed by Lukas

Abbie thought that her heart was healing when a few months after her devastating breakup, a guy at work was devoting himself to her and telling anyone...

Ep. 67: It Was All A Dream

16 Dec 2016

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This week, Natalie talks about why romance isn't the same as intimacy, why we don't have to get stressed over our uncomfortable dreams, and shares tip...

Ep. 66: WDWBU #11 Where's My Boyfriend?

13 Dec 2016

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Taylor and Greg's 18-month relationship ended when she boiled over with resentment about his lack of effort and his unwillingness to address anything ...

Ep. 65: More Ideas Than Time (& That's OK)

09 Dec 2016

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This week, Natalie talks about what to do about having more ideas than time, shares tips to ensure that you don't get drawn into the same drama with a...

Ep. 64: Stop, Start, Continue

02 Dec 2016

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Natalie talks about the benefits of a social media diet, how to use a Stop, Start, Continue to inspire change when we're self-critical, and why we don...

Ep. 63: WDWBU #10-The Special

29 Nov 2016

Contributed by Lukas

When Tim told Stéphane during their first deep conversation that he has a condition that causes him to disassociate from his feelings and yet he kept...

Ep. 62: Diff'rent Strokes

25 Nov 2016

Contributed by Lukas

Natalie talks about why we've got to stop making snap judgements about who's 'nice', how to respond to loved ones whose opinions differ from ours from...

Ep. 61: WDWBU #9--Behind Closed Doors

22 Nov 2016

Contributed by Lukas

In this 'Why Did We Break Up?' episode, Joanne is still wounded after her brief involvement with her longtime crush ended after they slept together. S...

Ep. 60: Sleeping In My Bed Messing With My Head

18 Nov 2016

Contributed by Lukas

Natalie talks about why we need to stop criticising ourselves for not being more self-disciplined in areas where we've had to give up something or mak...

Ep. 59: WDWBU #8--A Rolling Stone Gathers No Moss

15 Nov 2016

Contributed by Lukas

In this 'Why Did We Break Up?' episode, Zoe was devastated after her partner of six years went to visit family for a few weeks, cut contact and secret...

Ep. 58: It's Not Right, But It's OK

11 Nov 2016

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, Natalie talks about why so many people feel so triggered during these fraught times, shares tips for calming anxiety about family arr...

Ep. 57: WDWBU #7 Save You, Save Me

08 Nov 2016

Contributed by Lukas

Why Did We Break Up? is back! In this episode, Hannah felt guilty about having fallen for her engaged co-worker and living a lie, so she broke it off ...

Ep. 56: Read My Mind

04 Nov 2016

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, Natalie talks about why expecting people to be mind readers is damaging to our self-esteem and our relationships, why people being sh...

Ep. 55: Are You Ignoring Me?

28 Oct 2016

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, Natalie talks about the things that we need to consider if we're going to sext with a stranger, plus she talks about the importance o...

Ep. 54: We Were On A Break!

14 Oct 2016

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, Natalie talks about the things we need to consider when we opt to take a break from our relationship, what intimacy is and five key h...

Ep. 53: Stay In Your Own Lane

07 Oct 2016

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, Natalie talks about preferences versus programming, why driving is a metaphor for life and the importance of noticing what's going on...

Ep. 52: Moving In Or Sussing Out Whether To Commit?

30 Sep 2016

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In this episode, Natalie talks about being motivated to move in with a partner for financial or practical reasons or because you're trialling out whet...

Ep. 51: Why Did We Break Up? #6 - The Lessons

27 Sep 2016

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The original episode that went live on 27/09/16 has been replaced. In this episode of Why Did We Break Up? Natalie shares some universal lessons that ...

Ep. 50: She Works Hard For The Money!

23 Sep 2016

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In this episode, Natalie shares tips for ensuring that you don't undervalue you when it comes to salary or charging the right rate/price with clients,...

Ep. 49: Why Did We Break Up? #5 - Let Me In

20 Sep 2016

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In the latest episode of Why Did We Break Up?, Sandy and Rick got off to a flying start after being introduced via a mutual friend. They saw each othe...

Ep. 48: Why Him/Her & Not Me?

16 Sep 2016

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, Natalie talks about how to start building your self-esteem, why you shouldn't get too hung up on your ex moving on before you or with...

Ep. 47: Why Did We Break Up? #4 - Love's Young Dream

13 Sep 2016

Contributed by Lukas

In the latest episode of Why Did We Break Up?, Molly and Steven met in their late teens at the start of their careers and 14 years, 2 kids, marriage a...

Ep. 46: Let's Be Friends

09 Sep 2016

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In this episode, Natalie talks about finding making new friends daunting and shares tips for being more open to it, plus she shares 10 questions for d...

Ep. 45: Why Did We Break Up? #3 - The Affair

06 Sep 2016

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In the latest episode of Why Did We Break Up?, Katie is still reeling after ending a 21-month affair with a married man who doesn't seem to grasp why ...

Ep. 44: Silly Me!

02 Sep 2016

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In this episode, Natalie talks about the unnecessary apologising and backtracking habit, how getting your stuff in order can help you to clear out men...

Ep. 43: Why Did We Break Up? #2 - Don't You Want Me

30 Aug 2016

Contributed by Lukas

It's the year 2000 and Steve and Danielle meet via mutual friends at a club in London. She's fresh out of a relationship with someone she calls "cold"...

Ep. 42: You're On The Same Team

26 Aug 2016

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In this episode, Natalie talks about going on holiday/vacation on your own and shares stories and tips from her own adventure. Plus, she shares ten ti...

Ep.41: Why Did We Break Up?

19 Aug 2016

Contributed by Lukas

In this special edition of the show, which also marks the one-year anniversary, Natalie introduces the new offshoot, Why Did We Break Up?, where she e...

Ep. 40: Going With No Flow?

12 Aug 2016

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, Natalie talks about why a relationship needs to have purpose and direction if you want it to grow (or for you to feel happy), how to ...

Ep. 39: Make It Fly?

05 Aug 2016

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, Natalie talks about resistance to taking time off and fear of using holiday allowance, trying to make every relationship fly by being...

Ep. 38: Don't Be So Hard On Yourself

29 Jul 2016

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Natalie shares some of the themes of her 38th year, talks about why being self-critical creates a vicious cycle where you end up being around people t...

Ep. 37: Are You Feeling This?

22 Jul 2016

Contributed by Lukas

This week, Natalie explains why being too passive can send the wrong message in a relationship, shares 5 questions to help you figure out your values,...

Ep. 36: I Know When My Whatsapp Bling, That Can Only Mean One Thing

15 Jul 2016

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This week, Natalie explains why decluttering exes and dates from your phone makes good relationship and emotional business, talks about the problem wi...

Ep. 35: I Like What You Like

08 Jul 2016

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In this episode, Natalie talks about pretending to like something when we don't as a means of fitting in or to come across as more appealing to a pote...

Ep. 34: Charm & Disarm

01 Jul 2016

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In this episode, Natalie follows up ep. 33 (baggagereclaim.co.uk/33) where she talked about personality and character not being the same by exploring ...

Ep. 33: Personality vs Character

24 Jun 2016

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In episode 33, Natalie talks about the importance of distinguishing between personality and character, why some of us are over-responsible' and how we...

Ep. 32: Deal Or No Deal?

17 Jun 2016

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In episode 32, Natalie talks about gratitude and why shifting the focus of what you think about can have a big impact on your day plus she explains de...

Ep. 31: We're Not Lazy!

10 Jun 2016

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In episode 31 of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions, Natalie explains why procrastinating isn't about laziness, talks about the myriad of emotions you exper...

Ep. 30: Listener Question Special #1

03 Jun 2016

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In episode 30, Natalie dedicates the show to answering listener questions. Can I stand up to my disrespectful colleague? This listener was told to "s...

Ep. 29: Do I Accept You To Be My Partner?

20 May 2016

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In episode 29, Natalie talks about finding the middle ground between expecting people to be 'perfect' and not having standards and boundaries in your ...

Ep. 28: Are You Open Or Closed?

18 Mar 2016

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In episode 28, Natalie talks about life plans, emotional availability, and why it's not fair when people shame us for not wanting to be friends or not...

Ep. 27: You Get "Too Emotional", Baby

11 Mar 2016

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In episode 27 of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions, Natalie talks about No Contact and Low Contact at work, fear of failure and why she's glad she stopped ...

Ep. 26: Just Not That Into Me Or Unavailable?

04 Mar 2016

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In this episode, Natalie questions whether we can really blame someone's inability to commit on whether they're just not that into us. Mr Unavailable ...

Ep. 25: Ha-a-a-py Birthday…DOH!

26 Feb 2016

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In this episode, Natalie explains the key reasons for the breakdown of a relationship and how bottom line, they're all the same reason—incompatibili...

Ep. 24: The Debit and Credit Trust System

19 Feb 2016

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, Natalie offers up some suggestions for dating as a single parent, explores the difference between help and support, and explains The ...

Ep. 23: Better To Repeat Positive Affirmations Rather Than Negative Untruths

12 Feb 2016

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, Natalie delves into the tricky subject of name-calling and swearing at someone in an argument and whether this is really 'OK', plus s...