Chapter 1: What is the main topic discussed in this episode?
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Chapter 2: How are GLP-1 drugs like Ozempic changing relationships?
In the last few years, GLP-1 drugs like Ozempic and Zepbound have been radically reshaping the lives of millions of Americans. They have the power to change everything, from our appetites and our health to the clothes that we buy. But they also have the power to affect other parts of our lives, how we date, how we see ourselves, even our closest relationships.
Today, my colleague Lisa Miller tells the story of how these drugs upended one couple's marriage and how they dealt with the fallout. It's Tuesday, October 7th. Lisa, I don't think it's an understatement to say that we, in 2025, are in the middle of this, what feels like kind of a weight loss revolution in the United States.
And, of course, we're talking about these drugs that everybody's probably heard of, Ozempic, Wegovi, Monjaro. I think most people know somebody who's been transformed by them. Maybe a lot of people themselves have actually had some experience with them. But I would just like to hear a little bit about what interested you initially.
Chapter 3: What initial questions did Lisa Miller explore about marriage and weight loss?
Yeah, it's a revolution in how we look. It's a revolution in our health. It's got gigantic potential to help people who have not been able to be helped before. And the data show that one in eight Americans has tried one of these drugs, so that's a lot of millions of people, right?
And so it's creating all kinds of conversations, not just about how we feel and our health, but also how we look and how that matters in the world. Like, I have a friend who takes the medicine, and he says...
You know, if you are able to eat just five French fries and you used to not be able to eat just five French fries and had to eat the whole plate of French fries, it gives you grounding in the idea that you can control food. things in your life that you didn't think you could control.
So if you're a person who was completely helpless in the face of a plate of French fries and suddenly you get control of that, what else can you control? Can you control your gym-going habits? Can you control your the way you relate to your children, the way you talk to your boss. So my question was, like, if your body has changed so much, just the shell you walk around in,
and your mindset has changed so much about what's possible for you, wouldn't that affect the way you relate to everything and everyone in your life, including your most intimate relationships?
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Chapter 4: How did Jean and Javier's relationship evolve after weight loss?
And what really interested me was this question of how the GLP-1 drugs affected a marriage, especially when one partner is on the drugs, and the other partner isn't.
How did you go about trying to find the right people to talk to to satisfy that question? Right.
Well, we at The Times have a thing called a call-out where you ask the public a question and that question is posted on social media and in the paper and all over the place. And then we get responses to that question. And the question was this. Has a GLP-1 drug like Ozempic and subsequent weight loss changed your relationship?
Mm-hmm.
And so it was the week last year between Christmas and New Year's, and it was like presents. And I was getting all of these responses to the call-out, and a lot of them were really interesting, I just want to say. And one jumped out at me. Should I just tell you what he said? Yes, do you have it? Yeah, I have it.
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Chapter 5: What challenges did Jean face with her self-image after losing weight?
He wrote, And I thought, there's a lot between the lines here. First of all, a lot of people wrote in about sex, but he was very pointed about it. He's ruminating on why, struggling with it. And so I called them up. Can you hear me? And I talked to both of them. Let's talk about middle names. And they agreed to participate in the story as long as I used their middle names.
J-E-A-N-N-E.
Okay.
That works.
They live in New England in sort of a nice suburb.
We celebrated our anniversary a few days ago.
They had been married for 15 years.
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Chapter 6: How did the couple's intimacy change after Jean started taking GLP-1 drugs?
And would you be open to a visit from me? Yeah. Okay. And it became a long relationship. in which I was probing and probing and probing about how these medications were changing the dynamics in their marriage. So tell me more about that. How were the drugs affecting their marriage? Well, I think maybe it's helpful to talk first about what their relationship was like before the drugs.
And it goes back to high school.
Junior year is when I met her, so that takes us to 1987.
They both grew up in Sacramento. What did you notice about her? Like, what made you like her?
Her personality. Very outgoing, great smile.
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Chapter 7: What are the emotional impacts of losing weight on Jean's relationship?
Well, I thought he was cute.
He was a football player and also in the band.
So, you know, he's an offensive lineman. He's fit, but a big guy, which... You know, as a woman, it's very comforting, you know, when you hug someone like that. You know, you just feel safe.
And so at that time in high school, how would you have described your own body?
I was overweight, you know, back then. I mean... 17 years old, fat.
She was like in a bigger body and excruciatingly self-conscious about that.
So always felt awful, never felt attractive.
And she would say that she became like a super competent pleaser on all the clubs, doing all the things in order to compensate for the way she felt about her body. And he had a crush on her. And they both told me this story about how in high school there was this band performance in town and he offered to walk her to her car.
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Chapter 8: How did Jean's changing lifestyle affect her marriage dynamics?
So that was my first attempt was, you know, let me walk you out to your car and then, you know, kind of test the waters there.
And I said, no, no, you know, I'm a powerful woman. I don't need any man to walk me to my car. But I thought it was very gallant. And so.
It was as though she couldn't believe that he liked her in that way. Because she was insecure? She was so insecure about her body.
There have been times in my life where... Someone was actually flirting with me or trying to come on to me, and I just don't register the signs because I feel so uncomfortable in my own body that I feel like they must be bullying me or teasing me or just being mean.
So even though she had a crush on him, too, she wouldn't believe it.
So it sounds like basically even though they might have liked each other or he certainly liked her, they did not get together in high school. They did not. But they were close.
Yes. They were unrequited high school sweethearts. And they each married other people.
What happened was that my first marriage was coming to an end.
My first marriage had just ended. And then all of our friends were reconnecting on Facebook. Jean looked up Javier on Facebook. Our 20-year reunion was coming up that fall.
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