Stop Letting Your Past Define You
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How does subconscious programming affect our identity?
It's like you were put on a train and the destination was determined for you. You literally had no say so over where you were going to end up. What I mean by this Is everything that you saw, what you witnessed, what you experienced, what you observed, what was modeled for you, how you felt, how you were spoken to, how you were treated, all of that went into the formation of your identity. You learned who you are in this world, what to believe about yourself, what to think and how to think, how to talk to yourself. You learned who you are supposed to be and how you are supposed to be and what your role is in this life. You learned what's possible for you and what you can expect for yourself. It all went into your subconscious programming and it formed your identity.
And all of that happened before you were old enough to have any say-so over what was going on in there. The problem is... At 42, 52, or even 62, so many of us are still on that train, repeating to yourself what was said to you, still believing now what you learned was possible for you, and still acting or behaving in ways that reflect what you learned. who you think you are. So today on this episode, I am sharing core concept number four of the self-centered model, which is that your identity is a choice, one that you didn't even know that you could make so you can get off that damn train, decide for yourself who you are, and that changes everything in your life in the best possible way. Hi, it's Hillary. Welcome to the Thanks for tuning into the conversation today.
If you haven't already, it would mean so much to me if you'd take a minute to just click that five-star rating on your podcast app, leave a review, and subscribe so you never miss one of my episodes. And if you're enjoying this podcast, please consider sharing it with a friend because if you like it, they will probably like it too. So many times the train that we are on takes us to a destination that is nowhere we want to be. We end up with a life we didn't really want, one we didn't purposefully or intentionally choose. We live out what was prescribed for us, or we unconsciously repeat intergenerational patterns. When the journey is unpleasant enough, we can try to get off the train by going to therapy,
What is the impact of expectations on our reality?
getting some counseling, going on retreats, we meditate or medicate. But despite all of that, if you're still stuck, not making real change in your life, either getting past the trouble or problem that you're having, or not achieving that next big level goal that you so desperately want to achieve, then you are still on that train despite your best efforts to get off.
How can we rewrite our identity starting today?
And that's because the focus of your attempts have really not been on your identity. So there are four things about this core concept that you need to understand. And I'm going to share all of that with you. And then I'm going to leave you with a few questions at the end to ask yourself. So first, in this life, we get what we expect. So what you think about yourself, the world, and what is possible for you is essential. And it's even more important than you may realize. No one ever teaches us this. It's not mainstream, but it is true. Second, your identity is not your FICO score, your social security number, or simply a label like entrepreneur or single mom. It is who you think you are, how you conceive of yourself, how you see yourself, what you believe about yourself, what you tell yourself about you and what's possible for you, how you talk to yourself. That is your identity. Third, our beliefs are not facts and our identity is not fixed. Just because you believe something doesn't mean it's actually true.
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Chapters
6 chapters
1
What does it mean that your identity is a choice?
1:32
2
How does subconscious programming affect our identity?
0:20–2:43
3
What are the four truths about identity?
2:43
4
How can we challenge our beliefs about ourselves?
2:19
5
What is the impact of expectations on our reality?
2:02–3:07
6
How can we rewrite our identity starting today?
3:07–8:26
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