Create a Happier Version of Yourself: Redirect Your Energy for Positive Thinking
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What personal story does Mel share about her son Oakley's happiness?
Hey, it's your friend Mel, and welcome to the Mel Robbins Podcast. All right, I have a personal story that I am dying to share with you. And I'm also really excited because our 21-year-old son, Oakley, is gonna be joining me on this episode. And you are gonna get so much out of this. So here's the story. Couple weekends ago, our son came home. He's a sophomore in college. And I was so shocked. at how happy he was. And the reason I was shocked is because he's been miserable at school for about 18 months, like the lowest I have ever seen my son in his entire life. And it makes you realize that I guess you never truly understand just how sad someone is until you see them happy again. And it's been so hard to watch him struggle in college.
Like, I'm like, maybe you should transfer. Maybe you're in the wrong place. Maybe you made a mistake. You can't find your people. You're just so unhappy. And as hard as it's been for me and for my husband, Chris, to watch him struggle, I know it's a lot harder to be the person that's unhappy. I mean, from the outside, you can feel it. how sad and disconnected they are. You hear it in their voice. You see it in their energy. You know you're just not yourself. And if you're the person who's unhappy, over time, something happens. You become so discouraged. You start to believe this is how your life is always going to feel. And so we asked our son, what happened? And as he started to detail the things that had changed,
there were four specific takeaways that emerged. And these are really interesting takeaways because they're very useful whether you're unhappy right now in your life or you're watching somebody that you love who has become very unhappy. And you're gonna love these four takeaways because as you go through them one by one, it helps you understand, okay, is it truly the situation that's making me unhappy or is it me? And once you go through these four takeaways, you are going to have a roadmap to become happy again or to go, whoa, it's not me. It's a situation. And the thing that's going to make me happy is to leave it. You ready? I am. Let's get started.
Hey, it's your friend Mel, and welcome to the Mel Robbins Podcast. I am ecstatic that you're here. Today's episode is going to be amazing. I love what we're going to talk about today because it's just one of those conversations that I know is going to either help you immediately or it's going to help somebody that you care about. And I'm also going to be having this conversation with you and one of my most favorite people in the world. Who am I talking about? I'm talking about our son, Oakley Robbins. He's 21 years old. I cannot wait for you to meet him. And whether you're here right now in this moment of your life and you're feeling unhappy and you're trying to figure out how can I be happy again? Am I unhappy because of the situation, whether that's a relationship or a job or a place that you're living?
Or am I unhappy because of the way I'm showing up to the situation? If you're sitting here right now and you're struggling with a decision, okay, should I stay where I am or should I go? You're going to leave our conversation today with four takeaways. What I love about these four takeaways is they basically act like a checklist, a checklist that you can use at any time that you feel unhappy and they become a roadmap. And as you go through the four takeaways, you're gonna have to look in the mirror and be like, okay, it's me, it's me. Or you're going to listen to all these four things. And as we go through the checklist, you're going to go, oh, it's not me. And the way that we're going to get into this checklist, I'm really excited about because we're going to do it a deeply personal way.
My son is going to share all about what was happening and what was making him super unhappy. I'm going to talk about a period in my life where I was really unhappy in a new chapter and kind of thought I had made a major mistake. And we're going to use our personal stories as a backdrop to help you navigate those moments in your life where...
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Chapters
8 chapters
1
What personal story does Mel share about her son Oakley's happiness?
0:00–7:18
2
How can you identify if it's you or your situation that needs to change?
7:18–9:02
3
What are the four takeaways to help you navigate unhappiness?
9:02–16:24
4
How does comparison affect your happiness in new situations?
16:24–21:41
5
What signs indicate you might be 'quietly quitting' your current situation?
21:41–26:46
6
How does changing your energy impact your happiness?
26:46–31:59
7
What does it mean to give a new situation a fair chance?
31:59–38:04
8
How can you take back control of your happiness?
38:04–1:04:36
Speakers
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