The Mel Robbins Podcast
The One Tool to Transform Your Relationships: The Let Them Theory
23 Dec 2024
If there’s someone in your life you wish you were closer to, but it sometimes feels like there’s an unspoken tension between you, this episode is for you. Today, Mel sits down with her oldest daughter, Sawyer, for a raw and transformative conversation about repairing relationships and closing the invisible distance that so many of us feel with the people we love most.Together, they share the story of how writing The Let Them Theory healed their relationship and reveal three powerful tools that can help you do the same.Whether it’s with a sibling, a parent, an adult child, or your partner, this conversation is a gift—one that will help you let go of resentment, show up differently, and create the deeper connection you’ve been longing for. Get ready to finally have the relationship you’ve always wanted. Get the book: “The Let Them Theory: A Life-Changing Tool That Millions of People Can't Stop Talking About”For more resources, click here for the podcast episode page.If you liked this personal episode, you’ll love this one, in which Mel and her husband Chris have a very candid conversation about their marriage of 28 years: How To Create Better Relationships: 6 Surprising Lessons From 28 Years Of MarriageConnect with Mel:Get Mel’s new book, The Let Them TheoryWatch the episodes on YouTubeFollow Mel on Instagram The Mel Robbins Podcast InstagramMel's TikTok Sign up for Mel’s personal letter Subscribe to SiriusXM Podcasts+ on Apple Podcasts to listen to ad-free new episodes Disclaimer
Full Episode
Hey, it's your friend Mel, and welcome to the Mel Robbins Podcast. I am so glad that you pressed play and that you're listening to this conversation right now because you and I are going to talk about something incredibly important. And that is that there is a relationship in your life right now where there's just this unspoken tension with another person. You want to be closer.
You want to have more fun. But you're just not sure what to do. Well, that was me and my oldest daughter, Sawyer, for a long time. And today, Sawyer and I are going to sit down with you and we're going to unpack the issues that we had in our relationship with you and talk about this invisible distance that both of us felt.
I mean, even when we were having fun and we really love each other and we have a lot of fun together, but... There was just something in the way, you know? And we both wanted to be closer and not offend each other or upset each other or say things that we didn't mean to say. And it's like neither one of us knew how to bridge the gap or create a closer connection.
And we didn't even quite understand what was off. And as you listen to my daughter and I unpack the things that we realized about our relationship, and more importantly, we share two things that happened this year that we discovered that brought us closer than ever.
I want you to be thinking about the relationships in your life because there is somebody in your life right now that you wish you were closer to, but there's just this unspoken tension or you show up and you have the best of expectations and you really want to have fun and things are okay for a day, but then it's just the same old argument and baggage and you just wish it could go away.
And the truth is, I've got some really good news because that's exactly how my daughter and I felt for years. And we've now figured it out. We've made our relationship better. And the good news is, in any relationship, all it takes is you. If you change how you show up, everything changes in the relationship. So whether you're now thinking about your mom,
or you're thinking about how you've been fighting with your spouse and you wish you wouldn't, or you've got tension with one of your adult kids, or maybe the tension and this invisible distance is with a sibling. You were once close, but now you're not. And you can blame it on their spouse, but it's really in between the two of you. This conversation is one of the biggest gifts I could give you.
Because I'm going to explain that that invisible distance, that's something that you can close. You can improve your relationships. You can create a closer connection. And following the two things that my daughter and I are going to teach you today that work for us, that's one of the biggest gifts you could give to yourself and every relationship in your life.
Hey, it's your friend Mel, and welcome to the Mel Robbins Podcast. It is always such an honor to spend time and be together with you. I am so excited that you hit play today, that you're here for this conversation. This one is going to be amazing. And the reason why is I'm sitting down with my oldest daughter. Her name is Sawyer. She's 25 years old, and we have just spent the last year
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