There’s a weight that many midlife women carry—the exhaustion of performing for a mother who will never give you what you need. Of managing her expectations, her criticism, her jealousy. Of trying to be good enough while slowly disappearing in the process.That weight was never yours to carry.In this episode, I’m sharing something deeply personal—my journey of confronting my parents about decades of toxic family dynamics, the conversation with my dad before he died that changed everything, writing a book that told the truth, and what happened when my family found out.This is for the scapegoat child. For the woman who’s never felt good enough. For anyone carrying unexplained rage and wondering where it comes from.In This Episode:* What it means to grieve the mother-daughter relationship you’ll never have* Why unconscious triggers keep you ruminating (and how to identify them)* The root cause of unexplained anger: the mother wound* Why trying to get her to change only hurts you more* My conversation with my dad before he died—and what he finally revealed* What happened when I published my truth about the mother wound* Understanding “programmed guilt” vs. actual wrongdoing* The Four Truths of Midlife Freedom (practical framework for boundaries)* Why choosing yourself is not betrayal—it’s survivalKey Quote: “When you speak the truth about dysfunction, the people who benefit from that dysfunction will call you the problem.”Thanks for reading The Radiant Reset! Subscribe for free to receive new posts and support my work.📚 My Book (Must-Read): “Breaking Free From The Mother Wound: Navigating Narcissists, Gaslighting & Toxic Relationships in Midlife” → https://amzn.to/4phKHSs📖 Free Guide: “7 Toxic Patterns That Keep Midlife Women Stuck” → https://beryl-dingemans.kit.com/6c3bd7f779Connect with Beryl:* Instagram: @theradiantreset → https://www.instagram.com/theradiantreset/* Website: beryldingemans.com → https://beryldingemans.com/* Newsletter: * Resources: https://payhip.com/TheRadiantResetListen on:* Substack: https://beryldingemans.substack.com/podcast* Apple Podcasts: * Spotify: This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit beryldingemans.substack.com

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