Cut Debt out of Your Life! (Literally)
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From Ramsey Network, this is The Ramsey Show, where we help people build wealth, do work that they love, and create amazing relationships. I'm George Campbell, joined by my friend Dr. John Deloney, number one best-selling author, and we're here to help you take the right next step for your life and your money. Give us a call at 888-825-5225. Sarah's up first in Dallas, Texas. How can we help, Sarah?
Hi, how are you?
We're doing great. What's going on?
Great. Well... So I am married, possibly separated from my spouse. Um, I stay at home and he is a breadwinner. I've raised our children and I am not allowed to see any of our financial information, bank accounts, credit cards, passwords, nothing like that.
Yikes.
Um, what do you mean you're not allowed? I know. He just says, that's how I was raised. I make the money. And he does have a lot of, he does very well.
I don't care if he makes a dollar or a million. It has no bearing on your involvement in knowing what's going on financially in the family.
I know. And he just says, I won't. He owns commercial real estate. And so he tells me, it's too much for you to handle. Stay in your lane.
So we call that financial infidelity. Yeah.
Mm-hmm. That's what I've told him, and he just shakes his head at me. My therapist has said the same thing, and he just says, that's how I am, that's how my parents were, and I'm not changing.
All right, then here's the thing. Most people don't get that clear of a response. Now you have a choice to make. And I wish it wasn't this complicated. I mean, I wish it wasn't this simple, but it truly is.
He's told you he's not changing.
Yeah. And by the way, if you file for divorce and they do a forensic investigation into all of his slash y'all's, because you're from Texas, y'all's money, it's all going to be put on the table. So he can be a grownup adult and be an actual married man who loves and honors his wife and his kids and like share the family finances together, or he can put it all on the table with the help of an attorney and a forensic accountant that he's going to pay for.
So this is what has happened is we, this is very different from what I've been told is we did come up with a post-nuptial agreement about two years ago. And in his mind, it was, if we separate, you will get this amount of money. Now stop talking about it. Stop questioning me. Um, and so he says that if I go and investigate with this forensic forensic accountant, that he will take that money away and he will try to take my children more.
Yeah. And you need to go talk to somebody today.
I've, I've spoken to an attorney. Um, and what they've said to me is this is quite a good, um, post-nuptial agreement, I would be very comfortable, honestly, for the rest of my life. He has a lot of money in cryptocurrency that I know he's hiding. And I know that's really tough to investigate.
I don't understand what you're asking. If you have an exit strategy that's going to take care of you for the rest of your life and take care of you and your kids, I don't know what you're asking.
So should I just take the post-nuptial agreement and let... I can't give you that.
That's between you and your lawyer. I can't. I mean, I'm not looking at it. I don't have it. I don't know what you're dealing with at home. I just know you're in a very abusive situation and it's hard to see the forest from the trees. And I'm telling you that you're worth more than the life you're living right now.
And everybody thinks he's the sweetest guy.
Doesn't matter. Doesn't matter. Doesn't matter. Doesn't matter. Doesn't matter. Doesn't matter.
I also have a disability that I'm unable to work. So I'm just real fearful that, I don't know, you just.
Listen, what you're doing is you have a lot of what ifs and a lot of oh this is and that's and then in 10 years and in 15 years, I want you to go sit down with an attorney. Not hem-haw and don't send the post-nup to a friend of yours who happens to have a law degree. Hire a lawyer and go sit down and talk and say, I need to know what rights I have. Here's my disability.
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