19 Brutal Lessons For Leaders in Their 20s
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What lessons did Ryan Hanley learn in his 20s?
Today I'm going to share 17 harsh lessons that I wish I knew in my 20s. As of recording this, I am 43 going on 44. I'll be 44 in two weeks. And as birthdays tend to do, you reflect on where you are, what are the ideas that are driving you as a person today, and you think back to where you came from. And I did not come from a household, from a family that taught these lessons. We came from a small town. My mother was a receptionist. My father was a laborer. They were great parents, showed me tons of love. But we were just trying to get by day to day. And I didn't have a playbook coming out of my teens into my 20s that allowed me to be successful. So what you're going to learn today are directly lessons that come directly from the beats of my own career, from trying things and failing and trying and failing and learning each step of the way on how to get better at what I do, how to get better as a person and how to set my life up for the success that I enjoy today. And I want to share those with you because That's what we do here.
If you see a lesson, hear a lesson that makes sense or doesn't make sense, something that you disagree with or you just like us to expand on, leave it in the comments below. I'd like to know which lesson hits you the hardest, which one maybe you struggle to implement in your life. Leave those comments in the YouTube comment section. respond to every one of them. I read every one of them. If you're listening to the audio podcast, Spotify, Apple, wherever, make sure you head over to YouTube and leave your comments there. And I will make sure that we dig into those. And if there's any that warrant expansion in a future episode, we'll make sure we get that done as well. okay lesson number one what you focus on is who you become this is a core mantra to my life it is number one for a reason it is a defining principle in who i am and how i run my life because three years ago i was diagnosed with hyperactive bipolar which means at any given moment i am bouncing between manic and hyper manic which means at all moments of the day i am out over my skis going 100 miles an hour mentally
I have had to build into my life systems, processes, mantras, et cetera, that allow me to stay focused because anything that doesn't drop a massive amount of dopamine into my system immediately gets disregarded. And for a long time, I thought that this was just who I was. I was scatterbrained or I was high energy or whatever label or moniker you wanted to put on it. The lesson came in the form of understanding the true impact of my inability to stay consistently focused on a single topic without these systems or processes in place. It takes on average our brain 23 minutes to regain full focus on a topic when we switch our focus. So if you are working on a major project and get distracted easily by focus,
a Netflix show you want to watch or video games or text messages or, you know, scrolling through Instagram or Tik TOK. And then you try to come back to that major project. It is going to take your brain 23 minutes before you regain your full focus. That is a massive loss in output and productivity. And this was something I experienced for a very long time until I started to implement processes in my life. The most powerful process, was time blocking. I am a major proponent of time blocking. My calendar dictates my life. And by doing that, I am able to dictate what things I focus on and where my energy goes. So working out is incredibly important to me. I don't use my body physically in some way, then I have massive amounts of energy reserves that then get dissipated through jumping from topic to topic, from thing to thing, and I ultimately don't get the level of output that I would like. Time blocking allows me to determine who I want to be. I want to be a high performer in terms of the work that I do.
How does focus influence personal development?
I want to create incredibly valuable content like what we're watching right now, and I want to be physically fit. Additionally, I am hyper-focused on being a present father in my children's lives. Therefore, I time block every event of theirs that I want or need to go to and make sure that if something else comes up, I am scheduling around those moments.
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Chapters
9 chapters
1
What lessons did Ryan Hanley learn in his 20s?
0:25–4:32
2
How does focus influence personal development?
4:32–11:30
3
Why is accepting life's unfairness crucial?
11:30–16:50
4
What does it mean to operate in reality?
16:50–20:02
5
Why will you lose friends in your 20s?
20:02–22:20
6
How important is health for success?
22:20–28:19
7
What practices support mental health?
28:19–39:55
8
How can you navigate different seasons of life?
39:55–46:43
9
Why is it essential to give no fucks?
46:43–48:39
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