Make a Difference or Make an Impression
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What's going on, my friends? Welcome back to the Ryan League podcast, where we love to keep things short and sweet for you every single week. I got an episode for you today that I truly believe is going to add tremendous value to your life. I want to talk to you today about this idea of first impressions are everything. And I question that statement because what it does is it puts a lot of pressure on all of us to make a good first impression. And then what that leads to is this idea of I need to walk into certain rooms and impress other people. And early on in my career, I definitely fell for that trap a lot. I remember the very first time I was given an opportunity to work with the executive side of an NBA team.
A woman that works for one of the teams heard me speak at her church and she said, hey, I believe that you could add value to our leaders. Would you come and meet with the CEO on Monday? And so I certainly did that. And then I began thinking, man, how do I make a good impression? And the first thing you think about is, what am I going to wear, right? You don't want to be overdressed. You definitely don't want to be underdressed. And you're just thinking like, man, it's the NBA.
The product here is basketball, right? And so I'm just thinking to myself, let's play it safe with a nice, clean, crisp button-up, some jeans, some nice shoes.
Call it a day.
What lesson did the host learn about first impressions?
I show up to the facility and everybody is suited and booted. And I went, oh my gosh, I was so mad at myself. I said, Ryan, how did you miss? Come on, I certainly thought... that this would be more of a casual environment, but it certainly was not. No, no, no. These people meant business. And so I meet with a couple of the leaders and, you know, we chit chat about possibilities on leadership trainings and modules and so on and so forth. They said, Ryan, come back on Friday with a proposal. I said, all right, no problem. I am not going to miss twice. My friends, I went back to the house. One, I prepped this proposal for three days straight. I don't even remember sleeping, to be honest. I came back that Friday suited and booted, locked and loaded and ready to go.
And when I walked in that building, It was casual Friday. I said, you got to be kidding me. Are you serious right now? Like, I can't get it together. I left that meeting, which was a fine meeting. We had a great time. I was completely overdressed on Friday. I was completely underdressed on Monday. I then that afternoon had a speaking engagement for a real estate conference. And I showed up in my suit that I was wearing from my MBA meeting. And when I got there, the president said, you're not wearing a suit to speak, are you? Because if you are, these people won't listen to a word you have to say. I said, oh, me? No, no, no, no. This was just what I was wearing, you know, today, you know, just from another meeting.
I had just come from another meeting. And now today, I'm just, I'm going to go, I'm going to go change, you know. And I'm just thinking, Ryan, get it together.
How did wardrobe choices impact the host's early career?
And I just... I felt like internally, my identity, my confidence was based on what other people thought of me. If other people thought I was looking the part, sounding the part, dressing the part. But somewhere along the way, Something shifted. And the shift for me was I stopped worrying about making an impression and I started focusing on making a difference. You see, making an impression asked the question, how do I look? But making a difference asked the question, how can I help? Making an impression is about perception, but making a difference, well, that's all about contribution. These days, I like suits.
Yeah, I really like a good, crisp suit.
But I also like sweatpants. And I recently have joined the golf community and the golf gear is insane now. I'm out of control. Y'all, I am absolutely out of control. But I like a good polo now. I like dress shoes. I like Jordans. But here's the deal. Here's what I have discovered over time is that I can add value to people's lives regardless of what I am wearing.
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