You want to save your marriage. Your spouse seems to only want to destroy it. That is a pretty common scenario for people who visit my website. And so, I often have the question asked, "Should we separate? Will a separation save my marriage?" Can a separation save a marriage? Short answer: yes, it can. Longer answer: a separation can save a marriage, but it is statistically unlikely. And in my experience, a separation is a step in the wrong direction. Some recent statistics show that around 79% of couples who separate end up divorced. In other words, 8 out of every 10 couples who separate will divorce. I view separation as an absolute last resort to save a marriage. It is, in my opinion, that unlikely to help. But here is the thing: if you are stuck in a conflicted and hurting marriage, it can be a very appealing solution. And yes, you can find "fans" of separation. There are people who tell you it is an important step in restoring a marriage. Those people are ignoring the statistics. They are appealing to your sense of relief that can come from a break in the conflict. More often than not, a separation amounts to a “trial divorce." But are there better solutions? Absolutely. Here is one. In this podcast training, I tell you why separation is problematic -- so that you understand that. I also tell you how to structure a separation, if it is inevitable and a last resort. Listen below for help with separation. RESOURCES: Article on Separating Save The Marriage System Virtual Coaching Program (IF you have the System)

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