Einstein said we can't solve our problems with the same thinking that created them. And if you've been working on your marriage—trying hard, putting in effort, doing everything you can think of—but nothing's actually changing? You might be spinning the wheel. Pursuing harder. Forcing conversations. Making grand gestures. Reading every article, watching every video, trying every technique the algorithm throws at you. That's effort. Real effort. But it's pointed in the wrong direction. In the last episode, I talked about why "if it's meant to be" is dangerous thinking. This episode is about what you do instead. Not just recognizing the myth is wrong, but understanding what intelligent effort actually looks like when you're trying to save a marriage. Because here's what most people miss. The marriage that's in crisis right now? It didn't fail because you picked the wrong person or because your love wasn't strong enough. It failed in design. The culture gave you a destination—happily ever after—and almost nothing about how to actually get there and stay there. So when things fall apart, it's not a destination failure. It's a navigation failure. And that changes everything. In this episode, I walk through what it actually means to rebuild a marriage. Why it feels so much harder than it did at the beginning. Why you're not maintaining orbit—you're relaunching. And what to do when you're the only one putting in the energy. Listen below. RELATED RESOURCES "If it was meant to be" Episode Why Your Spouse Doesn't See a Change Save The Marriage System

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