Anxiety Is an Alarm System, Not the Enemy

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Previously titled “5 Ways to Break Free From A News Feed That is DESTROYING Your Mental Health” — renamed by the publisher on Sep 3, 2026

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What are the key strategies for managing anxiety?

Mel Robbins 0:29
Okay, so I happen to be in my opinion, one of the world's leading experts on anxiety because I struggled with it for a long time. And a couple of our kids have had profound bouts with anxiety and I learned things the hard way. And so everything I'm about to share is not medical advice. It is life tested wisdom from having to dig myself out of mental holes and messes thanks to what used to be very chronic anxiety. So first, let me explain what anxiety is. It is an alarm in your body that is designed to agitate you. That's all that anxiety is. It's an alarm in your body that is designed to agitate you, to wake you up. because that alarm wants to get your attention so that you can focus on giving yourself what you need in that moment. I also want to preface what I'm about to teach everybody and to share with you by saying that a lot of this I have learned recently because I am so sick of living inside a body that feels on edge all the time.
Mel Robbins 1:49
And I'm tired of having a mind that basically is on a constant campaign for what's wrong. And I've done traditional talk therapy. And so from Dr. Russ Kennedy, one of the things that I learned recently that is just amazing is that all anxiety comes from one source.
Unidentified Speaker (Brief Interjection) 2:08
What's that?
Mel Robbins 2:10
It is when your original alarm went off as a child, and you probably don't even remember because it happens even in moments where you're non-verbal. It's a moment of separation from parent. So the original alarm that you felt, because that's all that anxiety is. Anxiety is an alarm that's designed to wake your up, okay? Because you need something.

How can we reframe anxiety as a call for self-love?

Mel Robbins 2:33
The alarm of anxiety is telling you that there is something missing right now for you, and what's missing is a feeling of safety. and a feeling of like deep connection with self, that's all that's missing. And so when you reframe it as a way to let love in, and that it is a way to let love in from yourself, you start to change the way that your body experiences moments that trigger you from childhood. And so like, I think so much of what I am trying to put out into the world is this notion that everything needs to start with addressing these feelings that we have. Like for me, you want to change your life, there is a very simple formula that's not easy to do. You need to take action before you feel like it. You need to take the actions that the person that has what you really want and deserve in your life, you need to take the same type of actions before you feel like that person. You must act first, period. That's how you change.
Mel Robbins 3:42
When it comes to healing your body and when it comes to anxiety, you have to, instead of running away from it or numbing it, because the anxiety feeling is triggering you. to grab the alcohol. It's triggering you to get very busy and start running errands or it's triggering you to turn on the TV or hit the vape pen or hit the joint or whatever. And that feeling could be boredom. It could be a sense of overwhelm. It could be insecurity. Like, because think about what happens. Let's take the example of you're dating and somebody hasn't texted you in a day. They left you on read, you know, like you start to get that wave. The alarm goes off because what do you need? You need some love and reassurance.
Mel Robbins 4:27
But what we do instead is, you know, you see that you're still on read and you grab the vape pen. That is you dealing with your anxiety in a destructive way. What do you do? You like start scrolling through social media, which makes you insecure. That is you trying to distract yourself or numb or whatever, this uncomfortable feeling that you don't know how to deal with.

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