If you’ve been feeling exhausted, irritable, or done explaining yourself, or quietly wondering, “Why does everything feel so much harder right now?" this episode is for you. In this powerful conversation on The Tamsen Show, Tamsen sits down with Melani Sanders, founder of the We Do Not Care Club and author of The We Do Not Care Club Handbook, to talk about the moment so many women hit during perimenopause and menopause... When they realize they are simply at capacity. What emerges here is relief. The kind of relief that comes from boundaries, self-trust, and finally choosing yourself. Melani shares the story behind her viral grocery store parking lot video, what was happening in her body after a hysterectomy, and how unaddressed hormonal changes, anxiety, insomnia, and identity shifts pushed her to say the quiet part out loud: I don’t care anymore. That moment didn’t just go viral, it sparked a global movement. Together, Tamsen and Melani talk about why this shift so often shows up in midlife, how women end up suffering in silence, and what happens when you stop managing expectations that no longer fit who you are. This episode will make you feel seen, validated, and less alone in this chapter of life. In this episode, you’ll hear about: - Why so many women experience burnout and emotional overload in midlife - The connection between hysterectomy, perimenopause, menopause, and mental health - What “being at capacity” really means for women’s bodies and brains - How the We Do Not Care Club became a sisterhood for women who feel unseen - Why stopping the over explaining can be one of the most healing choices you make This conversation is honest, funny, and deeply validating. Bookmark this episode and share it with every woman who needs to hear: you are not alone, and you are allowed to choose yourself. If you liked this conversation, check out ‘The Real Reason You Feel Stuck (and How to Fix It)’ with leading trauma expert Anna Runkle. Watch full video episodes HERE Get Tamsen’s new book, How To Menopause: Take Charge of Your Health, Reclaim Your Life and Feel Even Better Than Before Follow The Tamsen Show on Instagram Follow Tamsen on Instagram Follow Tamsen on TikTok This show is sponsored by Midi Health. Visit www.joinmidi.com/tamsen today to book your personalized, insurance-covered virtual visit. Midi. The Care Women Deserve. Get 15% off OneSkin with the code TAMSEN at www.oneskin.co/TAMSEN #oneskinpod #ad Medical Disclaimer: The information provided in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical advice. Always consult with a qualified healthcare professional regarding any medical concerns or treatment options. The views expressed by guests are their own and do not necessarily reflect those of The Tamsen Show. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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