Embrace Breakthroughs With The “Heal From a Breakup” Course—Free for Life When You Start a 7-Day Trial. Limited-time only! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life-breakup-course?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=dream-life-breakup-course&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=yt-MM-DD-YY&el=podcast It’s not usually the big fights that end relationships with dismissive avoidants—it’s something far more subtle: the slow fade into the “roommate trap.” In this episode, Thais Gibson explains why love with a dismissive avoidant often erodes into mere coexistence, how neuroscience confirms disengagement is more damaging than conflict, and the exact steps you can take to prevent it. You’ll learn about the “four pillars of connection,” why avoidants over-rely on intellectual connection, and how unspoken needs and unprocessed conflicts slowly build walls that kill intimacy. Thais also shares a practical 3-step strategy to stop the cycle and reintroduce emotional closeness into the relationship. You’ll learn: ✅ Why dismissive avoidants rely heavily on intellectual connection, neglecting emotional and romantic pillars ✅ How comfort, routine, and security become their version of “commitment” ✅ Why lack of communication about needs leads to walls and eventual disengagement ✅ What the Gottman Institute reveals about emotional disengagement as the #1 predictor of divorce ✅ How oxytocin and shared vulnerability moments rebuild bonding ✅ A 3-step roadmap: set deadlines, clarify needs, and practice “micro-vulnerability” Episode Breakdown (Timestamps): 00:00 – Intro 00:36 – Why Avoidants Prefer Intellectual Connection 00:59 – The Pillars of a Relationship 02:40 – Why Avoidants Feel Safety in Disconnection 04:32 – Heal From a Breakup Course Promo 05:21 – Communication Struggles of Dismissive Avoidants 07:54 – The Neuroscience of Conflict & Vulnerability 09:47 – Step 1: Set a Deadline 10:34 – Step 2: Clarify Your Needs in a Relationship 12:03 – Step 3: Be Upfront About Boundaries 13:06 – Conclusion Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources: 🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 📚 Read the Learning Love Book https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/learning-love?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=learning-love&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 🎧 Discover More Podcast Episodes https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/podcast?page=1 📝 Read the PDS Blog https://blog.personaldevelopmentschool.com/ Let’s Connect on Socials: 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ 📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool 🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson 💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ ▶️ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool #DismissiveAvoidant #AvoidantAttachment #AttachmentHealing #ThaisGibson #RoommateTrap #RelationshipHealing #AttachmentStyles #SecureLove #EmotionalHealing #BoundariesMatter The “roommate trap” silently kills relationships with avoidants. Learn the hidden reasons it happens—and the steps to reignite intimacy and connection. Don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and share this episode. 💗

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