Claim Your Free Attachment Styles & Sex Course ($250 Value) With a 7-Day Free Trial. Keep It for Life https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life-sex-course?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=dream-life-sex-course&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-07-06-26&el=podcast When a Dismissive Avoidant pulls back, it can trigger confusion, anxiety, and the urge to chase — or the temptation to shut down in return. But what feels like a “strategy” often turns into a cycle of self-abandonment, resentment, and relationships that fizzle before they ever find real stability. In this episode, Thais Gibson breaks down what neuroscience reveals about how Dismissive Avoidants respond to pressure, pursuit, and distance — and why simply “matching their energy” almost always backfires long-term. You’ll learn the healthy alternative: setting clear standards, boundaries, and needs so you can show up authentically rather than shrinking, chasing, or manipulating to keep the connection alive. You’ll learn: ✅ Why Dismissive Avoidants show blunted emotional responses to rejection and distancing ✅ How chasing or pushing for closeness activates their threat system and causes deeper withdrawal ✅ Why matching their energy may reduce pressure short-term — but destroys the relationship long-term ✅ How intermittent reinforcement forms when you ignore your needs to keep the avoidant comfortable ✅ The painful consequences of self-betrayal: resentment, overthinking, and emotional burnout ✅ What healthy communication looks like when asking for consistency, effort, and shared responsibility ✅ How to set non-negotiables, boundaries, and clear standards without triggering threat responses Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources: 🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 📚 Read the Learning Love Book https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/learning-love?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=learning-love&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 🎧 Discover Podcast Episodes https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/podcast?page=1 📝 Read the PDS Blog https://blog.personaldevelopmentschool.com/ Let’s Connect on Socials: 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ 📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool 🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson 💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ #DismissiveAvoidant #AvoidantAttachment #AttachmentStyles #AttachmentTheory #ThaisGibson #PersonalDevelopmentSchool #IntermittentReinforcement #RelationshipAdvice #EmotionalBoundaries #AttachmentHealing #DatingAvoidants #SecureRelationshipSkills Understanding these patterns helps you stop chasing, stop shrinking, and start choosing relationships where your needs, boundaries, and wellbeing actually matter — so you can build real security instead of surviving on breadcrumbs.

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