Chapter 1: What lessons did thrifting teach about identity?
My guilty pleasure used to be thrifting. I loved going into a store and trying to find a piece of clothing that would define my entire identity for a whole week in high school and then I would throw it out and forget about it. Bad habit. I learned from it. I don't buy stuff to throw it out now anymore. But what I think thrifting taught me was that the way clothes fit.
matter more than the brand that you get. Sometimes you would walk into a thrift store and see Ralph Lauren and Levi's and you'd think oh my goodness we're cooking tonight only to try on these Ralph Lauren's that were a size 34 waist and they were way too big or they were saggy. I remember one time I think I stumbled across this North Face jacket that was worth like $300 and I tried it on.
It looked like I was literally swimming in the entire jacket. It didn't look good. And part of me still wanted to purchase it because I was like, well, it's a North Face jacket. They're great quality. Oh, it's a Patagonia vest.
Chapter 2: Why is comfort often prioritized in choices?
I need to buy this. Until I realized, what am I doing this for? I'm not reselling this clothing. That's not what I'm doing. Why do I want to buy things that are predictable or feel safe? It's because there is a lot with safety that revolves around the human experience. I think we know it now. You want comfort.
That's why it's so easy to get into a relationship that is another continuation of a terrible pattern that you've gotten into. That's why it's really, really easy to get super comfortable and watch Ted Lasso on the couch. It's so easy to seek comfort. And I think that the more predictable you make your life, the worse you will feel.
Tonight, we are going to have one of the coldest nights, I think, in Austin, Texas this entire year. I mean, it's January, right? But it's like, I'm feeling like I'm in the Midwest again a little bit with this weather, and I love it.
Chapter 3: How can stepping into the unknown lead to personal growth?
Check this out in the background. You can kind of see the steam, the warm air, like, lifting up from the lake. I don't know if that's actually what's going on. I'm going to pretend to know what I'm talking about here. But, um... I never thought that I would have to wear a winter coat that I was wearing in Toronto in Austin, Texas. Here we are. The world is not a predictable place.
There are patterns that we can observe, but if you think that you can live your entire life predicting what the world will bring you and what other people will do for you, you are mistaken. The world is very much like a thrift store. And I think the best thing you can do is understand what your options are and try to find the right fit. And it won't look pretty.
You might get a cardigan, a yellow one, that has some cigarette stains in it, right? Or somebody was a smoker before. It does not mean that you can't wear that thing and bring it your own style.
Chapter 4: What insights are gained from trying new experiences like yoga?
It does not mean that you can't change something by putting your own spin on it. I urge you to do that. Anything that I've ever tried, anything that I've ever attempted, whether that's been artistic, whether that's been financial, whether that's been like relationship wise, I've been rewarded when I stepped into the unpredictable element of the unknown. And I didn't judge it.
I didn't look at it and be like, well, I don't know. I'm kind of out of place here. I just went with it. Today I went to a yoga class, something that I swore to my teenage self I would never do because the optics are weird and yoga people are odd and they have man buns and they love Nepal and stuff like that.
I don't know, just generalizations that were totally unfounded on anything other than people telling me about yoga and the culture around it. So I decided to challenge myself. Yoga is so difficult. Nobody told me this. It is so difficult. You try to like do a cat stand and then like a reverse dragonfly. They all have these names and it's all going at you at like one second per change of motion.
Chapter 5: Why is it important to avoid predictable patterns in life?
It is so difficult. I loved it. It was great. I felt so out of place. I felt so like an outsider in this space. And I knew that the stereotype of like a dude doing yoga, it's kind of been met with some, you know, he probably goes to Irwan for a smoothie later and, you know, whatever and does a meditation on the beach. I don't I didn't care. I didn't care.
I didn't care that the jacket I was going to pick from the thrift store didn't have Ralph Lauren on it, didn't have like a Tommy for your mommy symbol. It just was an old geezer's jacket that was probably in the 80s. I'm going to wear the heck out of it. I'm going to do it in my own style.
And I think that when you do things that are not you, bro, you grow so much more than when you listen to what has been predetermined for you. I love England. I love people from the UK.
Chapter 6: How can you identify when something doesn't fit your identity?
All right. Shout out Scotland. Shout out Ireland. Shout out Wales. I'm sorry to do this. I'm going to generalize you because I was having a conversation about Thailand. A friend of mine recently went to Thailand that has its own stigma around it too. And he was telling me about how he noticed that a lot of British people had the same kind of personality. They didn't differ much.
they were loud they were obnoxious these are generalizations also if you have you know if you've been anywhere around europe you hear a lot it made me question why that is and i'm sure you can think of the the same thing even if you're in the states if you're in canada of people that gravitate towards a group or act a certain way make something their entire personality it's because there's comfort in being with people that share your values that share your identity
But I do think it's dangerous. I do think it's dangerous because that identity might not fit you. Yeah, you know, you might have everything that that looks correct for a VSCO girl. You might have everything that that suits your, you know, jock soccer persona. All right.
Chapter 7: What is the significance of embracing failure in personal development?
You got the the messy, messy, the Neymar headband, white headband. Right. You have you're taping your arm as well, like Yamal. But something is off. It's because the jacket doesn't fit. And you know the jacket doesn't fit because you don't feel secure in this identity. There's a good chance. There was an archetype of person that went to my college. Loved sports, loved going out.
They would run through a brick wall for the football team. I thought football was cool. I didn't really care much, right? I knew I didn't fit the archetype. I never tried too hard when I got rejected from the archetype to be that thing. It's because the jacket didn't fit in the same context of a relationship you might have.
Chapter 8: How can letting go of expectations lead to unexpected joys?
Everything might line up perfectly. They might be the same. They had the same value system as you. They got the same humor. They laugh at the same ironic memes from 2012. I don't know, you know, but it just doesn't fit. It just doesn't fit. There are some things that are lingering that make you question, are they going to be loyal to me? Am I going to feel secure in this? Don't take the jacket.
Don't take the jacket. You can try on jackets. I hated thrift stores that wouldn't let you try things on, like they didn't have a place to, what is it called, a dressing room. That was the worst, but I won't lie. I also tried on way too many things, and that can sometimes also give you fatigue. Right? I'm sure you've gotten shopping. You find a bunch of bangers at the thrift store.
You're like, oh my goodness. Ed Hardy jeans. Oh my goodness. Yo, this is so sick. This is like an old school Ralph Lauren jacket. Oh yo, no way. I got like a Y2K zip up.
All right, you go and you have like 20 items in your cart. Same thing with online shopping, bro. Another thing you see a lot in college is people just online shop all the time. I won't knock it, all right? I did my online shopping too, respectfully. But like, if you do too much, you won't settle on something that can make you learn. It's actually a distraction. It's a big distraction.
if you try every single flavor, you might get full and lose your appetite for a full scoop. And now the question is, okay, well, Zerk, I want to try everything. This is a common thing that I think, you know, we all experience at least once. We think we are competent enough to give everything a shot and give everybody a chance. But
I want you to know that you learn more from dedicating your time to one thing than you will ever, ever learn from just kind of giving something a half chance or not really committing to it. I think what's good if you're, for example, going down a fitness journey right now, right? I'm doing that openly.
It's good to give things chances, but don't just like commit with your toe in the water a little bit. Go all in. For a little bit of time, go all in, okay? And see how you feel. If it feels good, if it feels like you're supposed to be doing it, stick with it. But if it doesn't, then it's okay, you can drop it. I used to feel like very shameful about things not working out.
I mean, that's what kept me from trying. Like yoga kept me from traveling because I was like, well, you know, what if I don't like it? But you won't know until you try. It's like just how it goes. And the more that you convince yourself you're not worthy enough to try, the less you're going to know what you actually like. You got to wear your mistakes on your sleeve.
It's the same thing as like getting a jacket and deciding, you know what, I want to put some Air Force patches on it. I got a patch I got from Germany, from Berlin. I want to put that on there. I used to have these suspenders I used to wear a lot and they had patches from all around like Europe when I traveled, you know, Europe.
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