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the zurkie show

why nothing in your life changes

03 Jan 2026

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Chapter 1: How did the speaker overcome their ego in the past year?

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This past year, I defeated my ego. That was the one thing that was holding me back my entire life. And this past year, I finally told it to screw off. Get lost, buddy. And it changed everything. Right now, I'm in Orlando, Florida. I just had a great New Year's with my girlfriend that I love. I'm enjoying myself. I have freedom for the first time ever.

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And I just want to tell you that your 2026 can be the best year of your life. I'm not going to try to give you some kind of technique to make you more productive because I don't actually believe in any of that and honestly I think that you already know all the advice I could give you the one thing that I do want you to think about going into this new year is how is your ego trying to trick you

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This is something that I've witnessed not only in myself, but in the people around me. Ego creates self-limiting beliefs. I'm too good for that. I could never tap dance. That's not me. Yeah, you think it's cringe or whatever, that people are going to look at you weird, but you're afraid to do it. That's really where it's coming from.

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Ego is built on this idea of fear, and it's something that is kind of building this castle wall around us, like the old Krakow Wawel. If you ever go to Krakow, beautiful castle in the middle of the whole city. I mean, in my opinion, the best city in the world.

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You will have these walls up your entire life that will limit you from trying new things, from meeting new people, just because you think your life needs to be a certain way when in reality you should let it go. I let my life go this year. I did not create some kind of insane vision. I had a vision board in my room that I looked at every day.

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But honestly, I didn't care so much what it looked like. I just cared that I did the work. that I controlled what I could. I told myself I wanted to be consistent and I wanted to actually create videos for the first time in my life consistently and that was the focus. It didn't matter that I didn't know how to make something perfectly.

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What mattered is that I learned and that I put in some kind of work. And I really urge you to think about your own life the same way.

Chapter 2: What role does ego play in limiting personal growth?

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It's insane how many people will hold mistakes against them. And I'm one of those. I will do that all the time. I will think of all of the ways that I fumbled and the mistakes that I made. But in reality, what I have learned from a year of doing something consistently is that the mistakes don't matter as much when you do it over and over and over and over again.

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Because when you do increase your volume of whatever it is, making friends, going on dates, being a good person to yourself, you will learn. And that's something that I think has been overlooked. We want results so much. We're a results world now that nobody cares about the art of learning. And that is what makes life so great, in my opinion. But your ego will convince you otherwise.

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Your ego will convince you that you are a loser, that you are lonely, that you have no friends, that you have no talent. You don't have anything to save yourself with. But in reality, that's just your internal dialogue. The world can really be your canvas if you just change what kind of paintbrush you're using.

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It can really be a wonderful place if you stop feeding into negativity so much because that's the way you were brought up. You were in a very negative household. Your family are cynics. Okay, but that does not have to be you. Your ego is making you think that you need to stay the same because it wants to be comfortable.

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And when it has something that completely dispels its own beliefs, it starts to panic. We want control. In life, that's a huge thing. You want safety, you want control, you want stability. That's why people go to college to get a nice degree, to get a good job. But in today's world, what I really urge you to think about is the fact that nothing is stable. Nothing is.

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Think of how many people have lost their jobs, I should censor that, because of AI. Think of how many people have had to change their lifestyle because of changes, of climate change, a bunch of different things. This world is changing at a very rapid pace and I think that we have been told that the world doesn't change when in reality it's always been changing.

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That's not me denying climate change, by the way. That's just me saying that this whole stability thing is framed to us in a way of job security, in a way of friendship security, in a way of don't change if you have something good. But what if to you that good thing isn't good? What if you're not happy? You don't enjoy your job. You don't enjoy the college you go to.

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You don't enjoy the friends that you're around. Why are you being told that changing something could risk everything and why should you do that? I think if you don't try, you'll never know. And I think that if you talk yourself out of things, out of new experiences, out of meeting people, you will regret everything in the future.

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This doesn't mean that I think you should go couch surf Europe tomorrow. What I think it means is you need to be deliberate with finding time to spend with yourself and asking yourself the questions that matter. And not listening to your ego that's been created by what your parents have told you, what your friends have told you. It needs to be internal.

Chapter 3: How can letting go of self-limiting beliefs change your life?

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You're going to wish you never had experiences. And at the end of the day, what matters, what stability you can actually achieve are the actions that you take. This world works on action. It doesn't work on words, it works on action. And a lot of us have been led to believe that it's just words. When somebody tells you, I love you, that means that they love you.

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No, it's how they act that matters. When you talk to yourself, I'm going to lock in this year. This year's my year. That doesn't matter. What matters is what you do. Stop making false promises to yourself. I was the worst at this. My entire life I made false promises.

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I told everyone around me that I was going to do incredible things and that I was going to be the goat or whatever ego BS I was saying. What mattered was what I did. And what I did didn't didn't reflect that at all. I wanted to be an open-minded person, but when somebody would give me a different perspective, I would be like, I'm not going to listen to that.

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I wanted to be somebody who really prioritized their own craft, but I wasn't even willing to put in the sacrifice and the hours to do what mattered to me. I told myself that I wanted to talk for a living, but I thought, I have nothing to say in front of the camera. My life has been too privileged. Your ego is going to hold you back this year if you don't recognize it.

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And if you don't actually question yourself and think, are these thoughts mine? Or is this just what I think I need to think? Is there a difference? There is one. I think that a way that you deal with your ego is you have to build evidence against it.

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What our ego is so good at doing is it takes all of the mistakes and all of the times we've been fearful in our life and it takes all of the things that we think are so bad about us that we loathe from within and it amplifies it. It plugs it into an amp and then into a console and through some speakers in our brain that replays all of the times we've been bad.

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And then the ego has evidence to be like, bro, you shouldn't change. Bro, no, no, no. And it can go in the same way. It can be like, bro, you're so much better than this. Bro, I know that you're way better than this other kid. You should be going to that school. You should be in that starting position.

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It takes tuning those speakers down a little bit and realizing that there is humility in admitting, wait a minute, I'm a nobody. And guess what? We're all nobodies. But we're all somebody. We're all the person that we decide to be. And I think that's way better than striving to have some kind of title and be someone.

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You should just be comfortable with expressing yourself and figuring out the actions that will improve your own life. And that will not look the same as everybody else.

Chapter 4: What actions can you take to focus on self-improvement?

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I used to think that a relationship was going to solve my troubles. And honestly, relationships are a lot of work, bro. Everybody likes to romanticize it and think, oh, it'd be awesome, bro.

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I'm gonna have like my girlfriend and go to the movies.

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But nobody talks about the nights on the phone when you two have a disagreement, when you think the relationship is cooked and you guys have to communicate and figure out what is the next step for this. Nobody likes to talk about the fact that long distance is difficult. And even any distance is difficult.

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Making time for somebody else in your life when you are trying to chase after something is difficult. Those are things though that you learn and you overcome through action. And if you just have this ego of like, I'm never going to date anybody because that like, nah, I'm locked in. I'm focused. Oh, I'm too ugly for all that stuff. Like, no, like nobody would ever love me.

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Again, you're listening. The speaker is playing loud and clear and your ego is laughing at you. Stop thinking that your life needs to look a certain way and act on it. Be surprised by the action. A lot of us think that we are going to have this sensation of being super wired when we wake up at a certain time every day. You're going to wake up tired some days. And then what?

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That I think stops so much growth and so much progress is the idea of how we should feel.

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You shouldn't feel anything. Stop thinking you should expect this if you do this. Just do the work. Act. Stop promising people, oh, bro, I'm going to lock in. Bro, I'm going to start this business. Bro, I'm going to make this content. I'm going to focus on, and just go out and do it.

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Nobody needs to know about these things. Why would you want people to know about these things? It's because you want your ego to be right about you that you'll never do them. So don't give it that satisfaction and actually try it. And another thing about trying things, a lot of us are not trying hard enough. I wasn't because I was making excuses because I didn't want it. I didn't want it enough.

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That's the truth. And that's a form of accountability. I think that, you know, granted, you have a situation where trying more would mean that you quit your job, that like your family depends on you. Everyone has a different situation. I accept that. But if you know you could be trying more and doing more and you are convincing yourself that I just can't. It's not going to work. It's not.

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